MY BACKSTORY
My ex girlfriend and I were together for 2.5 years and were extremely connected emotionally and spiritually. We spoke in depth about marriage and families, and she made it clear on numerous occasions that she’s "done looking" and "I’m the man she hopes to marry". As much as we both really wanted it to work out, unfortunately it just didn’t, and the break up was extremely dramatic for the both of us. Our relationship ended in mid-October and I was fairly devastated. 2009 was a very challenging year for me, because I was searching diligently for a new career with no luck, and therefore I wasn’t the most pleasant person during this time. She started dating a new guy about 3 weeks after we broke up and is still currently dating him in what I consider to be a rebound relationship by definition. I do know for a fact that he was unrelated to her and I breaking up, for he wasn’t even in the picture. He’s 100% not her type physically, and I’m not saying I’m her only type, but after being with someone for 2.5 years, you tend to know the type of people the person your dating is attracted to physically based on previous boyfriends and athletes/actors they might be attracted to. The guy is overweight and unhealthy looking and apparently at least one of her girlfriends calls him "turkey neck" behind his back.
In the last month, the status messages and posts on their facebook walls’ have been more and more romantic. Posts like, "<3 u", "don’t miss me too much this weekend", and quoting love songs. Her and I didn’t speak much over the last 2.5 months, and a large majority of our communication was amicable, but some of the communication was very dramatic like “I hate you” and “my friends and family want you out of my life, and so do I”. I backed off about 4 weeks ago and the drama has begun to subside between her and I. I have been dating a new girl whose posted cute stuff on my facebook wall too, implying that we’re dating also. My ex girlfriend and I haven’t been facebook friends for almost 2 months now, and everything I know is from a mutual friend. I wouldn’t normally question the validity of my ex girlfriend’s feelings for this new guy, but in the past week she’s reached out and sent me a few text messages saying "I just wanted to say that I hope you’re doing okay" on Dec 26, "just so you know, I always believed in you" on Dec 29, and "happy new year" on Jan 1 at 2am (possibly a drunk text). I didn’t respond to any of these texts and I haven’t heard from her since.
MY OPINION
If I was completely content with another woman, then I can’t see a reason why I’d contact any ex girlfriend, unless I heard of something tragic like a death in the family or something similar. Therefore, I was shocked to hear anything from my ex girlfriend after I backed off, especially considering they’re in the middle of the so called “honey moon stage” of the relationship.
MY QUESTIONS
My question is pretty clear, but factoring in the backstory, why would my ex girlfriend be texting me? Guilt, feelings, or a combination of both? Could she have gotten word from a mutual friend that I’m dating and now she’s a little jealous? Has she not completely closed the door on us yet, and is looking to keep the door propped open? I really think she might be falling in love with this guy, based on the comments posted on a public forum like facebook, so then why the ambiguous text messages to me? I’ve ignored her texts up until this point, and I’m afraid that it might’ve been a bad decision to do so, should I now reach out (maybe mention that I’ve secured a great new career since our break up)? Considering it’s not hard to warm the heart of a wounded woman that’s hurt and that he’s clearly unattractive (she’s gorgeous), could this really be a rebound relationship that’s become more serious than usual? Lastly, should I just give up and let what’s meant to be…be, or should I put things in motion while she’s seeing this guy?
Does anyone speak girl, thanks so much!!!
My exgirlfriend finally posted a pic of her new guy and herself on facebook. Pics were at her brother’s wedding reception (Jan 2) and the rehearsal dinner (Dec 30) which he was a guest at both. Now I dont know what to do.
She seems well on her way into being fully involved with this guy now which is crazy to think after the many years and memories we shared. I dont know how any woman or person for that matter, could begin a new relationship so soon while recovering from a broken one. It amazes me. Still for whatever reason she reached out to me 3 times last week thru text as Ive already stated. I will not try to sabotage her new relationship but I want to leave the door propped open for a possible reconciliation. So at this point I feel like I have 3 options:
1. Wait for her to reach out again and then respond kindly.
2. Send her text in the next day or so. Something like "happy belated new year", "tell ur bro & his bride congrats on their marriage" or mention my job.
3. Ur option?
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