Well to start my ex girlfriend and I broke up at the end of October. I did not see or talk to her for two months when I e-mailed her about getting a cup of coffee she said that would be nice. She picked the time and the place.
When we met for coffee she said that it was good that we reconnect. She laughed at my jokes, and we talked for an hour, but I cut it off. I think that we could have talked for longer.
The following evening we went with our group of friends to celebrate a friends birthday. When she ordered her drink I said what she was going to order before she ordered it. She said that I scored some points.
During the night she told me about her New Years Eve and about some guy trying to get in her pants. (I think she was trying to make me jealous) She then went on to say that she was repulsed by this guy, and walk away from him.
During the course of the evening we had some flirty conversations.
Now am I just reading too much into things? Or are these signs that my ex want me back?
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we broke up new years eve….almost exactly a week ago. we were together 8months and generally happy, but he suffers from depression and was in a nasty mood the week of new years eve. we had an argument and broke up….. shortly after i told him i didn’t mean it and it wasn’t what i really wanted, but he said he feels like he needs to work on himself as an individual and can’t do that when he’s so involved with someone. he said he really didn’t want to lose me as a friend though, so we’ve been ‘friends’ so far. we hung out for the first time last night with a friend, when we were alone he admitted it was the first time all week he was awake and happy and he asked me if id please stay his friend. im hoping if im patient and play it cool, he’ll start wanting me back.
but how long should i wait to try to make the jump? i don’t want to move to quick before he has time to miss me(and maybe appreciate the ‘single’ me), but i don’t want to wait so long that he adjusts to being without me.
and how should i make the move: while it’s generally my style to be verbal, he seems to be MORE resistant to emotional moments, he kind of shuts down sometimes. i was thinking maybe i can just wait till the right moment and kiss him, he wouldn’t over think and maybe it would be the fun spontaneous kind of thing that would make him fall for me again.
what do you guys think? any advice for me?
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Me and my ex-boyfriend were together for 5 months and we broke twice because he thought i wasn’t happy in the relationship and when he asked me back out he told me it was because he was afraid that i was getting so close to his heart. we were having a great time until the day b4 New years Eve 2008 i went skating with my friend and he husband and husband’s brother and we were hanging out. i put myself in a stupid situation because i went drinking with her and her husband’s brother kissed me. when i told my boyfriend i was still alittle drunk and he was angry but we just went to sleep when i came over to his house that night. then the next day on new years eve he came over 2 my house and broke up with me. he said it was the only rule he’s ever had was not cheating but honestly he’s a hypocrite because he used 2 cheat on his girlfriends, he just never cheated on me. so it was a terrible breakup because i was stunned, i was trying 2 explain and he was trying to leave my room and i kept trying to keep him there to listen 2 me. i m overly sensitive which he should know that and i understand that he’s been hurt before but i want him to know that i love only him and i just want to make him happy, i mean he has nothing and he said i was the best thing that happened to him and he’s the best thing that happend to me. so then a couple weeks ago i went to hangout at his house cuz his friends are mine and he told me it was hard to be around me cuz he kept looking at me and these guys had bet on me and to assure him that i wasn’t there to annoy him i told him i wasn’t looking at him or bothering him and he said he wasn’t mad at me he just wanted some time. then he left the house and i slept there. then last friday i went over his house to apologize and he said he didn’t want to talk and he ignored me and stayed in the kitchen the whole time. i told me friend there that i wasn’t gonna be back for a while maybe a month so that he can heal properly. i just figured if i came over he’d want me back like last time because when we broke up he said he would prefer me not coming over to the house as much because we’d end up back together like last time. but i do want him back. i’m just afraid that time will make him not love me or want me anymore. what should i do?
p.s. people have told me that he needs time and others say that i should move on because i deserve better and honestly i know i deserve better because i my ex is a hippy who’s life ambition is to smoke pot and chill but he does want to make something of himself one day he just doesn’t know how and i want to help him. I love him so much, i’ve been depressed and in my room the whole week.
btw, i also stopped the guy and told him i wanted to go home. My ex just wonders why i put myself in that situation when i should’ve just come home. i just wanted to have alittle fun with my friend that i hadn’t seen for a year and she was married now and all grown up. i told my ex that i pushed the guy away because i did, the guy just tried to take advantage of me.
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I really like this guy and we dated a few moths back. he says he kinda likes me. i like him to. How do i get him back. hes coming over new years eve and i need to get him back. help
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I want to get my ex back!
Ok we dated for two months & a month of it was long distance because he goes to college like an hour away & we completely trusted eachother! We never fought, ever!
The other month of our relationship he was home for Christmas break and let’s just say he took my v card but he wasn’t a virgin..and on new years eve he wanted to go to a party where he went to college & asked me to go but i said no i wanted to stay home with my family & friends..so he comes back the next day and says we need to talk and says he seen his ex at the party and it brought back feelings and it wasnt fair to me and i was completely broken.
They broke up because they fought nonstop and never really were happy I guess you could say but they were eachothers first so he says he loves her.
A month after he breaks up with me there dating and its been like a week into it now and they are already fighting and i was talking to him tonight and he told me why they were fighting basically because he doesnt trust her and its long distance for them too and he told me that he knows he screwed me over but he loves her with his whole heart and no matter how much shit she puts him through he will always be stuck with her even if he does deserve better..
…and he told me i know you wouldnt do something like that but im with her and its not going to change..will he ever realize that he does deserve better and that he can actually trust me and want to be with me again???
They dated over 2 years ago and she just got out of a 2 year relationship is she just using him for a rebound??
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