I divorced my ex-wife about 8 years ago. To make a long story short, she left me 6 months after she graduated from nursing school, 3 months into my return to school to get my degree, had an affair at work, got pregnant by him and eventually married him to year later.
To make matter worse, we have two kids which we both care for dearly and have worked well enough together for them. Still…. she is a "typical" ex-wife that people complain about. I have my kids 3 days and she has them 4. I was really bitter for awhile as I put her through school and she dumped me after I returned (7 year marriage).
My kids are now 12&14.
Her new husband (married 6.5 years) was thrown out. The kids told me it was because of excessive drinking and not making enough (saving enough money). I kinda empathise for the guy. He just finished trucking school this year past year. She is really tough on people, and pretty self centered IMO. My first reaction internally was maybe she drove him to drink (lol) although I would never mention that to my kids. It really is too much of my business though my kids are involved. This has been building for a while now and it doesn’t shock me.
I made sure my kids new that I supported them through this and that they could always fall back on me if they needed. I would love to have the kids all week, but it wouldn’t be fair to the ex (not that she would do the same as she always tries to wittle away at my time with them). I imagine her life is going to upheave as she is one of those that lives paycheck to paycheck with bad credit making 70K per year by herself.
I personally save and have very good credit (make about 55 per year without a degree – had to drop out to support my kids – 750/month CS plus extras).
I must admit that a small, very small part of me had the though of reuniting after all these years. She was very emotionally abusive, but I am sure I still have some feelings for her.
he has two more kids with her. apparrently his parents were abusive drunks which I guess would explain the alcohol.
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My husband’s family believes he was fine until he met me, and I am starting to believe it as well and I cannot live with myself if I did. It wasn’t until a friend of his got involved that his family began to doubt me and now they have convinced him he doesn’t want anything to do with me. The only people he has left in his immediate family are his brothers and uncle neither live here. I am in nursing school and understand the disease process but did not know he was bipolar until a recent diagnosis so we argued.Now I know what he has and he is very delusional and has been ordered to commitment up to ninety days. Everyone is against me, his doctors never talked to me, I had medical power of attorney and he revoked it verbally while in the hospital. Theses doctors didn’t put him on Lithium until last week almost a month after I had pleaded with them to do so. They had him taking 800mg of seroquel once a day and cymbalta and ambien.I did some research and when his brother talked to the doctor they realized their mistake and changed his meds and the dosage from 800 to 300.Then they finally listened to me about putting him on Lithium. Of course his friends have convince him the problem is not that he has bipolar but our marriage. Yes, we have had our share of problems but looking back on things maybe it was because I was disagreeing with him during a manic phase where I know I cannot win that argument. Or before I knew he was bipolar maybe it was because I saw him spending everything he had on drums, ebay etc. What I want to know is from someone who has gone through this what can I do other than hire an attorney and fight like hell for him or leave. I want to save this and will take on the daily tasks of caring for him but I feel it is too late because he will not talk to me and his family blames me. I tried to get guardianship over him but after his "friend" got involved they sent emails to my attorney saying I was out to get him. I guess the errot with the meds, paying all of his bills, and not running away don’t count for anything. They actually think it is stress and the sad part is, since he is taking his meds in the hospital, and staying away from me, the medication is beginning to work…and they attribute his recovery with me not being there…What do I do? Thank you
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