My fiance called off our wedding – what should I do about the guests?

I notified my family, the caterer, the rental place, the pastor, our future landlord and the church. Who is left is his family and 2 church communities of people that he knows best.

I am continuing to get reply cards to my PO Box. Should I send them via mail to him? He doesn’t want to talk; he wants to have space b/c "part of him wants to end the relationship and part of him wants to try again". The last time we spoke it was over the phone and very brief. He wanted his phone charger back. I found out that some of my mail got delivered to his house, and he brought it to the post office as "wrong address" instead of sending or giving it to me. He wants things distant and sounds irritated when he calls me, so is mailing them the best idea?


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I feel like I am failing my daughter nutritionally? Her pickyness w/me is really getting to me?

I was really looking forward to having the entire week off from work due to spring break (I work at a school in the office) and being with my little girl. BUT I forgot how "bad" I am at feeding her! whenever my mil watches her, she always says "oh she ate so much today". well either she’s got the magic touch or she’s force feeding her b/c I can’t get my own daughter to eat and it makes me want to cry.
Here’s a typical food-wise day for her w/me al day:
—this morning—sat her at the table with me in a regular chair, (shes able to sit like a big person), with some strawberries n’ cream cream of wheat. I have cream of wheat too and eat in front of her. She refused, ran away, i told her sternly to come back or i’m throwing it away, she laughs, i then physically get her and sit her on my lap, get her to take one bite then she runs away again. So, then i figure maybe shes not in the mood for hot cereal, so i get her rice crispies instead. She had maybe 5 spoonfuls (of a big spoon) and that was it.
—Snack: some strawberries and grapes in a bowl, usually this is a hit even w/me but today she had 2 bites and threw the rest on the carpet.
—Lunch; I made bowtie pasta w/pasta sauce and some broccoli and cheese sauce mixed in. to me it was pretty good, she took maybe 6 spoonfuls and that was it. I then offered her a yogurt, the strawberry flavor that she usually likes, and she ran off. Also, between the 6 spoonfuls it was a battle: she would take 1 bite, then run off. i firmly told her to come back, shed laugh, I’d go and fetch her. I then finally sucked up and turned on abby cadabby on youtube for her (that usually gets ehr distracted enough to open ehr mouth and eat0. With that only the 2 last bites.

2nd snack: milk w/some dry cheerios and grapes, had all the milk, only like 5 cheerios and 2 grapes. These are her fave sometimes.

tonight i plan on making lasagana, the frozen kind. the kind my mom makes she will tear up even when i feed it to her, hopefully it will be the same for this.

I am really feeling discouraged that i have so much trouble convincing her to eat, that i put in all this effort making things for her that i think are healthy and also tasty only to throw most of it away. I am so desperate and i don’t know what to do. I am frustrated and puzzled as to why my mil, my mom, even her dad, and even the DAYCARE PROVIDER, a near stranger, can get her to sit and eat and i can’t. My mom says she’s playing a game w/me. is she do you think? I wish this game would stop. if only she knew how sad it made Mommy feel lol.
also she doesn’t run out of energy, she can go all day on just a few bites and a few sips of any liquid, it bugs me lol how she manages to do this and not need food that much.
I took her to the dr’s today for a cough that’s ongoing, and brought this up too. They said it was a separate issue and required a separate appt so next tues I can say all this to the pedi. She said it did sound like a cause for concern—getting her to just sit and eat—b/c it’s been ongoing. She’s 20 months btw.
also, when she was younger i introduced solids to her in a highchair, so it’s not like she started out just being able to get up while eating. I had her in her highchair til about 15 mons old then i decided to take the daycare provider’s advice and let her eat liek a ‘big person" sitting ina regular chair. but now i think i should bring the highchair back and so does the pediatrician i saw today. but I stopped bc it did seem too confinign and she was always doing potentially dangerous things in it like try to climb out even when strapped in etc.
Why is she like this w/ mainly just me?
Any other moms dealing/dealt with similar behavior eating-wise?
k; i DO give her a variety. What i gave her today was not the same as what i offered yesterday, or the day before. BUT i do try and give her things she will predictably eat, like cheerio’s.
how is what i’m doing ‘utterly crazy’? it’s only utterly crazy bc of the way SHE acts. but you’re right: i need to not coax her or praise her, and treat eating as more a casual thing.
Also, I don’t only spoon-feed her, I offer her plenty of finger foods (grapes, fries, pasta, dry cereals, blocks of cheese, cut up steamed veggies0 but even then she runs away or throw it on the floor. so sometimes spoon-feeding her is the only way i can get her to take bites.


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I love him he doesn’t love me yet how do I cope?

I asked this earlier but all I got were joke answers. Long story short, i’m in a committed relationship with a man who treats me amazingly and is always looking out for my best interest. He says he sees a future with us and he is very committed to the relationship. a few months ago i told him i loved him and didn’t get the same back. Fast forward a few months and it still stings a lot.

I know he cares very much and it just takes him longer to develop those feelings but how can i deal with it better? “enjoying what we have now” isn’t exactly as easy as it sounds because sometimes it hurts A LOT.

Any advice from people who have been through the same would be great. suggesting hes cheating is ridiculous, we work in the same office and I’m with him nearly every single night, he doesn’t even have the time for something like that.


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Husbands and boyfriends: How do you deal with your jealousy with wives and girlfriends?

I was a jealous boyfriend. Now, I am a jealous husband. My wife had breast cancer, with both breasts removed. This happened several years ago and after the mastectomies, she refused for years to have breast implants. There is a new man working in her department that is divorced. His ex-wife had breast implants done by this cosmetic surgeon. Now my wife has made an appointment with this same doctor. She says she wants to make herself more attractive for me, but my jealous suspicions seem to be that she wants to impress her coworker. They started eating lunch together as part of a group from the office. With summer vacations and people out of the office, I have found out through my wife that these two are having lunch exclusively every day, either in the office cafe or other lunch places outside the office.
A college buddy of mine, who’s wife did leave him for another man, told me that once his wife started going to lunch outside the office with guys, guys would take her to other places in their cars besides restaurants during lunchtime. I was told it was a bad sign and to watch out.
In the past, I have broken up with girlfriends that I suspected were interested in other men and I felt they were cheating on me although I had no concrete proof. Other women have broken up with me saying that I was too controlling.
My wife only has a half hour for her lunch and her co worker has an hour. She has told me that other people were fired because they were repeatedly late coming back from lunch. I told her I don’t think it’s a good idea for her to go off with this guy for lunch because if she’s late too often she could get fired.
At the place where my wife works they have a strict policy on alcohol use and being under the influence of alcohol in the work place. Two co workers at her office were fired when a manager noticed they were acting strangely after lunch, had two police man called to the work place, administered a breathalyzer and they were both fired. Last week, my wife does not drink, and when we were at a restaurant for dinner, she noticed a wine on the list and said that she tried some of that at lunch earlier that day. Her friend was having a glass of wine and recommended that she try it because it tasted like fruity grape juice.
"So, you had a glass of wine during your lunch break from work?"
Yeah, it was just one glass.
"Do you remember what happened to Susie and Jim when the drank at lunchtime?"
Sure. But they were really being stupid about it. I only had one glass. Can’t get drunk from just one old little glass of wine.
"Do you really want to take that chance? You shouldn’t be drinking during the day. I thought you didn’t drink."
"I don’t. But that wine Kenny had me try didn’t taste like wine at all."
It wouldn’t surprise me if Kenny didn’t slip a roofie in my wife’s drink from the way she was acting that night.
To make things more complex, I was laid off from my employer two years ago and I am working my own business in addition to working a second job in sales, so I am covered under my wife’s health insurance policy.
When I question my wife about this co worker, my wife gets angry and threatens to leave me saying "good luck paying for your own health insurance. Individual plans cost a fortune."
I have been uneasy with any man that my wife enjoys his company. When I was a kid, most wives stayed at home with children and the men worked. Today, many wives are working, and with the recession on, many husbands are not working or are working their own businesses because most companies are simply not hiring anymore.
Does your wife have lunch and socialize with other men at work? Does your wife have other male friends? How do you deal with this as a husband? (The same questions also apply to boyfriends with girlfriends).
My wife says that she and her co worker friend are just "Platonic" and there is nothing sexual or romantic in their friendship. Personally, I think the whole notion of a Platonic relationship between a man and a woman is a load of bull.
Women can answer also although I am primarily looking for men’s opinions on this matter.


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