Okay, so a few months ago, this 37 year old girl at work touches my back. I was sitting at my sink in my wheelchair working with my dog dishes why she came in to refill her puppy aid and water. When she comes in by the enterance to the dish room, she came in and touched me on the back and asked me how I was. The moment her soft hand touched my back, my spine kind of tingled for some reason. I do have a girlfriend though so therefore she won’t get lucky to get me. I actually if I was single wouldn’t go for her anyway unless she decided to quit being an ashtray and a bar. I can not stand the kiss of an alcoholic or even the smell of an ashtray so therefore I really just don’t like dating them kind of girls. I must say that I am in the age though, 19 going on 20, if I wanted to date her though.
This is just something my mind has been jogging here lately with and I just want to see if what I’m thinking is the truth or not.
Thanks!
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Have been divorced about 1 1/2 yrs. Ex’s boyfriend is now threatening spankings on my kids. I feel he has no right doing this, I feel it is their mothers place to discipline not his. Any one else have any thoughts on this matter? She is the primary I get to see them once a week and every other weekend.
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My husband is 41 years old, works as an EMT and just recently started back to school to become a Paramedic and refers to this single 20 yr. old girl as his "school buddy". I have never met her but have seen her profile on FB and she is a very attractive girl. My hubby is very outgoing, friendly and yes at times flirty and loves to meet new people and make new friends. I suggested that he introduce her to our 18 year old son and he refused basically saying our son, he has had some problems, needed to grow up first and more or less wasn’t good enough for any of his female friends and he didn’t want it to come back and bite him in the ass if it didn’t work out. He says that their texting and calls are harmless. I had looked at his texts once before a few months ago and saw what I considered to be a suspicious text to a single female co-worker, also in her 20′s, that I do not know. It was a message that read, "Hope you get well soon" with a heart and XOXOXOXO. When I confronted him about it he flipped out and told me it was a joke towards her ’cause she is always whining about no one caring and I was reading something into it that wasn’t there and he thought it was a sweet and considerate gesture on his part and that I had no business going through HIS phone and told me if I didn’t change my attitude it was only going to lead to divorce because he is sick of me being suspicious. When this new girl started texting and I questioned it he told me I might misread something into the messages if I didn’t know what the message was all about and I told him it wouldn’t be hard to find out what they were about if the outgoing and incoming texts were checked, I know stupid on my part. A couple of days ago he told me he had no problem with me going through his phone but when I did he has been deleting all sent and received messages by these other women. We have been together for 14 years, married for 2 1/2, and as far as I know he has never cheated on me. He tells me how much he loves me and I am the only one for him but then when I bring up how much the texting other women, especially young single ones that I do not know, upsets and offends me he tells me I am being ridiculous and I’m just going to have to get over it or I’ll drive myself crazy. He has been my best friend for so long and I am always afraid of someone else taking that away from me. I hate feeling this way and don’t know how to get past it.
He tried to point out that he has just as many male friends that he texts as females. I told him it wasn’t the males I was concerened about and that he spends enough time with these "friends" at work and school and I wouldn’t have a problem with the texting if it was just school or work related but he does not agree. He says he has nothing to hide but the fact that I would even need to check his phone, etc…. proves to him that I don’t trust him. To him it is an invasion of trust and privacy. Just to clarify, I do not have a cell phone, even if I did I would not sit around and text men other than my husband, brother or sons.
Okay, so we got into a heated discussion about this situation last night and I was told that he isn’t screwing around with any of these women so he sees nothing wrong with the texting and calls. I tried to explain to him that I never said he shouldn’t have female friends, he always has and I know that and I can’t control the texting when he is away from home but I hardly get to see him as it is and he is around these other women all of the time whether it be at school or work and I would just appreciate it if the texting would stop when he is at home spending time with me. He says he can’t stop them texting when he’s at home. I told him yes you can, ignore it when they do. Told him that I wasn’t accussing him of screwing around but I know that an emotional relationship between a man & woman can turn into more. He is unwilling to do this. I have basically been told I have turned a molehill into a mountain and my insecurity issues are the problem and I need to learn how to deal with them
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I have been divorced for 6 years. My ex-husband will not help pay for anything my daughter needs. He has no other family or children and pays 0 a month child support. He agreed to help pay half her acting lessons before she started, and now says he won’t pay anything that the court has not ordered. He doesn’t carry insurance on her, and does not help with school clothes, or anything else she needs. He thinks the child support should pay for everything, but with a 10 yr. old girl it does not. Apparently, it must be in writing for him to fulfill his duties as a father. If he paid me a large amount of child support, I wouldn’t ask for anything extra, but he doesn’t. What should I do?
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I met him in my 1st year of high school ( i was 15), he was a senior (18 yrs). I had no idea that our relationship would become so serious. My parents got divorced when I was in elementary school, in a way he is the only positive man figure in my life. Our relationship furthured my dad and I’s rocky relationship, my dad found out his 15 yr old girl was intimant with a man, and I chose to side with my boyfriend and ended my relationship with my dad because I wanted to marry my man and no one would dare stop me.
NOW, things are a little different. I still love my man sooo much, he is smarter and more loving than my friends men. We always talk about "when we get married, when we have kids." Etc. But, I’m in college and a little more mature. My entire family likes my man, but absolutly do not want me to marry him. they say I can do soo much better. I admit he isn’t as handsome as I once thought he was, and I sometimes think their right. I’m encredibly attached to him, and always ask myself if we break up will I ever find a man like him? I also ask myself, what if I marry him and make a huge mistake? We do have different goals in life, he wants a family, and I want to travel, have a high paying carrer, and a family thats well off. What if I could find someone else and have a more exciting life?
Anyways, I told him all my feelings about my doubts on our 4 yr aniverary in sept. The same day he asked me to marry him, even wanting to elope. I told him i wasnt sure, im too young (19). We both still live w/our parents I can find a job and he has a business degree but worked in construction. He was shocked that I wasnt ready after talking about marriage all the time. I was also sad about how confused and unsure i felt.
Since them our relationship has been in a weird limbo. Well, last night I told him we either have to get married of break up because our relationship has been stagnant for the past year, and we cant drag our relationship on. He agreed and said he didnt want to be lead on for 4 more yrs. He again asked me to marry him and said the choice is all mine. I’ve been torn about this for about 2 yrs, but I did say yes. He was just so romantic and the thought of finally haveing change in our relationship felt nice. He acted like the happiest man in the world, and I felt like I just dug myself into a hole that I can’t get out of. We even set a date to marry in 6 months.
I feel like a peice of crap for not being ready or sure about us when he is 100% sure that I am the women he wants. When I asked him what he wants in life he said "all i know is that I want u to be my wife" now I just agreed to marry him and I don’t feel happy, I’m just depressed. How can I take back what I so firmly said last night, I was the one who told him he should get me a ring soon so we can tell our familiys. How devestating for him would it be if I broke up with him now, after he was so happy? I even talked to my pastor about it and all he said is their is no reason for me not to want to marry George, he even said he would do it that night, he said we need to make our relationship right with god becasue we act like a married couple anyways. True, so why do I feel so wishy washy. Should I continue on and marry him knowing I will be happy and loved, Or break up with the man I love because my mind keeps on thinking about reason not to marry him?
HELP!
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