How to deal heartbreak?

Ive been asking alot of questions on here about the "relationship" between me and my "boyfriend" like how hes been using me for sex and dosent care for me or respect me and your answers to my questions have really helped me so i decided I was going to talk to him about it on sun. morning
But i went to the town picnic on sat. night and i saw him there and he saw me there but it seem like he didnt want to talk to me and was mad at me or something, then he kept on watching me and "keeping track" of what i was doing like he thought i was there to cheat on him or somethin, then he kept on following me around at a distiance with his group of friends and then when ever he came real close to me and he knew i was looking at him he would put his arm around one of the girls him and his friends were walking around with, i looked straight at him and he look straight at me then he put his arm around her again to make sure i saw.
so then i called him and the girl anwsered and she told me he had moved on, to take my mydol, and grow up, i was firious but i knew i shouldnt be mad at her (even tho she had no reason to talk to me like that) so then i just left the picnic the next day he called me and said he was sorry and was in a really bad mood cause something happened that day (he wouldnt say what) he said he was sorry but i told him i couldnt talk then and i would call him back cause i didnt know what to say but he hurt me really bad that night and it killed me to see his arm around that other girl,
the wierd thing is he never gave me any indication to why he was mad that night because he was perpously tring to make me mad and jelouse and i want to know why what can i do



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Theres a boy that goes to my school. He’s a grade below me, but is the same age as me. He has a baby on the way with one of his ex’s, He has a "thing" with another one of his ex’s, and is tryna have something with me now. We also kissed the other day, and I found everything out the next day. He doesn’t know I know all of this, and I wont tell him I know yet because I want to get back at him for trying to play me, and playing both of these other girls; and God only knows how many other girls as well, but at the same time, I’m not sure if I should even bother. I’m also lonely as hell and can’t find a decent guy in this hick town and I’m scared that if I try to lead him on, that I’ll end up gaining feelings for him.
Haha yeah; actually Ive already talked to one of the girls, thats how I found all of this out. we talked about jumping him but i want to take matters into my own hands. It will make my life more interesting but also, it will get him what he deserves. I just need some advice so that if I do end up following through with this " turn it around on him " plan, To be able to keep my head straight and focused on my main goal.


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How To get a Ex-BoyFriend to hate me???? Men’s feed back pls!?

I started dating him when i was in my early 20"s.. I lost my virginity to this guy, it was my choice, i loved him and chose him. Well He ended up cheating, so i left, he started seeing one of the girls (there was a few) he was cheating on me with,, i wished him well and moved on, he kept trying to come back into my life and i refused, he then ended up marrying someone else he was cheating on my with, there marriage lasted 9 months, again he tried to come back , i refused, He thought i was oblivious to the fact that he was using me as his back up… Anyway, October of 2008 he started contacting me again because we had gotten into an argument and i cut off contact…. he wanted to apologize, so i excepted his apology, i had no intention on anything else.. he showed up at my house with flowers.. and charm.. so i started going out with him about 3 time’s a week.. we had Absolutely no sexual contact, for the first time he respected my wishes.. we were just friends…. well one day in january 2009… we ended up having sex after reminiscing about our past together…. after we were finished.. he rolled over and told me he was in a serious relationship with someone he was unhappy with…..at that moment,I felt so completely cheap and worthless you have no idea,

I got up,I put my clothes on and proceeded out the door, he ran after me and grabbed me by the arm and said "this is not the last time im going to see you… your mine, i was your first and I will be your last" (Nut Case) I just looked at him and walked to my car. when i got home I called my phone company to change my phone number…..

This still did not stop him.. he started contacting me through email,, so i changed my email… he started showing up and my work… do i call the cops? How far do I go? I knew he wanted me to have kids with him.. he had wanted this since we first started dating 7 years ago…..well,,, im not stupid.. he wants children with me to trap me…..so what better way to get rid of a man then to tell him I aborted his Child? When we were together the last time we had unprotected sex.. I did not tell him i was on the pill .. i was…. so a little over a month later…. i sent him an email… telling him he got me pregnant…and that i did not keep his child because he was a deadbeat dad to the children he has now, and that he would never be good enough to be the father of my child. ……….Harsh.. i know…. but hey… he put me in a really awkward position, and I am still having problems at 30 years old with relationships do to my trust issues.

I felt horrible after i did this…. but i knew it was the only way this man would stay out of my life…I desperately needed him to hate me…..and well.. it’s been almost a year.. and there is no sign of him =)

Spare me the Criticism… i had to do what i had to do… he treated me like a whore, when all i ever was to him was supportive. So screw him and who ever thinks Im a bitch for this!

I later find out he is Bipolar and on Anti-Depressants. so I needed to get away from him… this was the only way to make him hate me!

Men’s feedback please.
Fallenbose.. yes i do think extremely highly of my self…….and i will say it… he is not lucky enough to father my children…..and i will continue to find a man that is worthy of that…. as far as him playing with my head… i was 28 old… im not foolish.. i know when men are messing with my head… if i was as stupid as most women out there that are needy and immature enough to put up with a man like that… then i would not of went as far as i did to get him out of my life….. you seem know understand him, maybe you are guilty of the same immature, insecure action he is guilty of. So of course you will defend the behavior….. My opionion… People that Cheat.. are inserucre with who they are. and Are to needy and clingy to deal with the reality of there insecurities!
Curious………how is it i allowed him to treat me like a whore? just curious? for date someone for 3 months prior.. is’nt it proper to tell someone who you are "Just friends with " that you are ina relationship? and why was he spending so much time with me instead of this so called girlfirend? So i ask you… how did i allow him to treat me like a whore? Are you one of those christians that does not belive in sex before marriage? if so please spare me about what the bible say’s… open your eye’s please… and relise we are living in a time that is not of the stone ages!
as far as me stooping to his level/…. there’s so much you don’t know about this guy… if i wanted to type a novel i would..
LOL the men’s answer’s are great by the way… it looks like i hit a nerve.

That’s all I needed to know……. I did exactly the right thing….. he hate’s me… is discusted with me… and that is exaclty what i wanted! Mission Accomplished………….

And yes.. im online thinking about it a year later… Im not afraid to admit i loved him.. and it bothered me…. but i had to do what i had to do to get him away from me!

Job Well Done!


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