My now ex fiance and I were supposed to be married in just over a month. We’ve had a few fights (the normal stuff) during our two year relationship, but nothing really major. Well last week we received a check from his aunt because she would not be able to make the wedding. I told him that we could NOT spend the money until we were actually married. As far as I’m concerned, that was the right thing to do. Well, after I realized that the check had been cashed, and I questioned him about it .. .He intitally lied about cashing it and then fessed up to cashing it but lied about what he spent the money on (gambling). Obviously, he eventually came clean. However, I have called off the wedding. He’s begged and pleaded with me. However, I feel as though if I can’t even trust him with 0 I don’t want him controlling half my finances. My family and his family think I’m being ridiculous. Interested in what outsiders … people who don’t know us … think about the situation. Wedding back on?
For our wedding my FH & I must give both of our families 9 months to 1 year notice to book travel and save money ETC… Also we live in the MD/DC area where if you do not book at least a year in advance you will not have a day
My FH sister is getting married in West Africa in August of 2009 since my FH & I have to take time from work in August we decided to make our wedding date in October. My FH dad has since informed me that his son should have known due to health reasons and the temperature in this region, (he is coming from West Africa) he can not travel to America in October he wants us to push the wedding until April.
Also if he were coming in April he could stay for 5 months and visit family etc… The trip is costly so he wants to make it worth while. I really want to get married and live with my husband. Having a civil marriage and a wedding ceremony later on is not an option. I feel the wedding is not about me but the joining of two families so I want our parents there. The hall said we have until Thursday to change the contract and is holding both dates. So would you do October 2009 without his folks or April 2010 with his folks? MY FH and I are posting this to see what outsiders think.
a civil cermony with a renewal of vows is not an option
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Only one out of my friends parents are still together
and I don’t even know what their marriage is behind closed doors
The saying about love is that it lasts forever and it never dies
People tell me that all the time,
they tell me to wait and it shall happen for me
but I find that the majority of the people on this world haven’t found it yet even though they may think they do
My friends all say they are in love
Love at the age of 16,17,18? That’s almost impossible in my opinion
From an outsiders perspective;
I can see every teen relationship ending poorly.
They all say they are so in love, but they honestly don’t have a clue what love is.
I have a different perspective on this then most I’ve known..
It seems as if everyone is so ready to grow up,
they want to lose their innocence before it is even their time to.
Then the thing they may realize a few years later is that they will never get that innocence back..
Innocence has got to be the most precious and greatest thing on this world that is being torn away from kids and young teens so unknowingly. They think they are so ready to experience the world, but they are no where near ready.
I’ve heard of 12 year olds loosing their virginity,
12 years old… 12 years old?!
Thats still a child..
I am 17 years old, and I still don’t think it is right at this age to lose your virginity.
There are more years in our life time of having to be an adult than a child..
Why choose to grow up at such a young age?
It’s society’s poor image on teenagers that most look up to and try to duplicate.
Anyways, My point is,
Why doesn’t anyone become best friends first before a relationship,
because I guarantee it’s the best way to fall in love with someone.
I noticed everyone is having sex before they are even ready to do so,
they may even be ready to…but they let sex be the thing to make them fall in love..
instead of falling in love before the sex..
hmmmmm
I wish people would mature
no one has a logical mind about relationships
and you are all on here rambling about ohhhh DOES HE LIKE ME???
OHH THE OTHER DAY WE HAD SEX AND HE DIDN’T TALK TO ME SINCE, AND I MIGHT BE PREGNANT…
honestly…if you even have to say something like that in your lifetime…that really sucks for you haha, time to grow up a bit more and have some respect for your body.
I’ve dated many guys,
There is no point in having sex with someone unless you know you love them,
I have dated over 7 guys I’m sure,…if I had sex with the majority of them I would be regretting it now…because am I still with one of them right now? NO! i’m not, and I don’t think your little teen relationships will last forever either, so stop trying to impress other people by hooking up.
I know what it is like, having the peer pressure to do things,
but it is sooooooooooooooo dumb.
You guys are all frustrating.
Where are the REAL questions about dating& single?
Stop posting things like this;
DOES HE LIKE ME?
HOW DO I GET MY EX BACK?
ehh …..why would you want your ex back first of all?
if he doesn’t want you don’t force it.
Thanks everyone.
stop being so immature about your relationships…cause odds are …you were never in love in the first place like you thought you were
FYI…ive experienced it ALLL. haha..been there done that..and matured since
I’m not putting down everyone, so stop getting so butt hurt.
just the guys and gals who don’t realize that they don’t need to have sex with someone to be liked.
i had a boy friend..thought I was in love[age 16] Didn’t have sex with him for the 6 months we wend out. We had a strong relationship and ended it because we began changing and fighting everyday. Relationships aren’t always effective until you are matured because at such a young age ….everyone is changing rapidly.



