My ex and I had filed for a divorce back in June but it recently got dismissed because we didn’t submit our paperwork. We have talked almost the whole time about wanting to make our marriage work. We have a toddler and I would love to raise him together. Here is the problem…. He said that for us to be together I would have to swallow. This is something I hate doing, and he knows this. Would you do something that makes you unhappy to keep your marriage together?
Ok any help will be appreciated looked for some forums but not very successful at getting a response so I figued I would try here: My friend is owed about ,000 in back child support (for her and her ex’s three daughters ) she lives here in NC and has a NC caseworker. Her ex is in Illinois and does have a job that shows up when they run his social. Her NC caseworker says she is sending paperwork to the Illinois Office and they have to get it to the employer. When my friend trys to call Illinois to find out what is going on they tell her they can’t answer any of her questions that she has to speak with her NC caseworker. So she is supporting 3 girls with back support owed and her ex is working as a truck driver and NC has the company info and has sent paperwork to the state he lives in BUT still nothing since May since the papers were sent and she can’t get any answers. How is it that she doesn’t have a right to find out about her own case.
My ex husband and I were married June 28, 2002. The relationship quickly went downhill (he was abusive), and I finally kicked him out mid-January 2003. Our divorce was finalized in October of 2003. During the divorce I didn’t ask for alimony or any kind of settlement because I thought that I most likely wouldn’t have had a case against him (that I knew of then), because the abuse was only my word against his, and therefore I thought I wouldn’t have been awarded anything.
I didn’t retain a lawyer for the divorce (stupid me!) because I couldn’t afford it. My ex husband’s parents paid for my ex husband’s lawyer, who handled everything. Basically I just had to read and sign a bunch of paperwork.
Recently I was told by my ex husband’s new wife that my ex husband got her pregnant in April of 2003, while my ex husband and I were still married. (I have verified the pregnancy/birth via a newspaper birth announcement.)
I know that infidelity during a marriage can count against the adulterer during divorce proceedings.
My question is, even though the divorce was finalized many years ago, because of this new evidence of infidelity, could I take my ex husband back to court and sue for alimony or some other kind of settlement?
If it depends on where I live, and the laws here, I live in Davis County, Utah, which is where my ex husband and I were married, and where we lived during our marriage.
If you have any answers or suggestions to this question, please share! Please reference your sources (whether it’s personal knowledge or if you found it online or whatever), especially if you have a website or something to refer to. Also, please note if you have any experience in law (if you’re a lawyer or law student or otherwise involved in the judiciary system), or if you’ve been through similar circumstances as my own.
Thanks so much for any assistance or insight you can offer!
Kindest Regards,
Ashley
lol…Okay, so it seems that everyone is getting the wrong perception here. I’m not out for money, or vengeance here. I’m out for justice. I don’t want his money. I want him to pay for what he put me through. He stole my childhood, and much of my life from me. (I was 16 when we started dating – he’s 9 years older than me). That’s the kind of man he is.
The funny thing is, I hadn’t thought about him for years (I forgave him and moved on with my life as soon as I finally got him out of my life [after I finally got him to stop stalking me]). It doesn’t even seem like we were ever even married, it was so long ago.
The thing that brought it back up was his current wife contacting me. It turns out that he has put her through the same things he put me through (and worse since she’s had to deal with it so long), and she’s planned on leaving him (I hope for her, and her children’s sake that she does).
Again, I don’t want his money. I want him to come to justice.
I totally see why everyone is thinking the way they are about this question. I understand where you’re coming from, as I’d have had the same reaction if I only knew as much as you do from reading my question.
That stated, I swear to you, I HAVE moved on with my life. I’m a successful artist, and am living life to the fullest of my ability.
I didn’t necessarily mean that I wanted alimony (I realize what alimony is for, and that it’s only short-term). I want to know if there’s any recourse I could have against him. If there’s a way to hold him accountable for his deeds, I’ll do it, if only on matter of principle.
Do you think if I had been dwelling on him for 7 years that I would have waited this long to do something? Definitely not.
Oh, and by the way, adultery IS illegal in some states, including Utah.
January 2007 – divorce final. Divorce decree states that my ex has to assume all indebtness to the mortgage debt and that he had 90 days to do it. I call LaSalle and tell them about my decree. They tell me to send them my decree and they can remove my name from the loan – great!
The mortgage gets sold to Citibank. I call Citibank and ask if they have removed my name from the loan. Nope; that little detail is completely gone. They say my ex can assume the mortgage and they faxed me the paperwork. I pass it on to him.
90 days expires and I take him to court for contempt – he is given another 6 months.
6 months expires and I take him to court for contempt again – he is given 10 months
July 2009 he informs me he is late on the payments. I pull my credit. It says foreclosed. I take him back to court for a 3rd contempt. He is sent to jail for 4 days.
Both of us get a 1099-A from CitiMortgage. They have not issued a 1099-C which suggests they want us to pay the 60K loan deficiency. I call my ex and tell him to expect Citibank to take us to court and try to collect the debt. He tells me he doesn’t have the money and doesn’t care if I have to pay the debt.
Anybody else go through this? What did you do?
I’m resending my decree to Citibank again with a letter requesting they correct the 1099-A. I’m assuming at this point in time; all I can do is show up to court when they sue me and the ex for the balance with my story and hope the judge will honor my decree.
Oh when I did pull my credit; it stated it was foreclosed – original balance and current balance was zero; which suggested at the time that my decree was reconigized.
My relationship ended and my ex babysat my dog for me. WHen I went to pick him up he wouldnt give him back. The dog was purchased and cared for all before I even knew him. I payed for all the vet and grooming bills. Hes even micro chipped, and I have all the paperwork for him in my name. He says if I try to contact him he will call the Police. I have tryed to contact the police myself and they wont help. Ive even tryed animal control who say there is nothing they can do either. So I feel like Im out of options what do I do who can I talk to?
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