Back in college (6 years ago), I introduced my wife to one of my co-workers and friends (or drinking buddy). They became friends and repeatedly got too close (going to movies and dinners together, calling each other best friends). The guy is an alcoholic to the point he peed himself almost every night for 6 months, but we always invited him to our parties cause he was a good laugh when awake. About 2 years ago, I moved my wife and I to England so I could pursue my PhD (not to overgeneralize, but I hope this demonstrates how very different I am from the other guy), and before we left she made out with him on 3 different occasions. She told me she thought she had loved him, but didn’t want a divorce. We worked through our problems and she returned to the US to open up her business. So, I lived in England for 2 years by myself and came back about 8 months ago. She just told me her and this guy had sex while I was in England, and she visited him a week ago in the hospital while he was detoxing from alcohol. I love my wife with all my heart. Her and I have been together since we were 15&16. I feel like it is unacceptable to forgive her, but she is the love of my life. What do I do?
