Alright, so 2 nights ago I broke up with boyfriend of 2 and a half years. Obviously I still care for him and love him, but he was verbally abusive and he definitely took me for granted.I made it clear to him that I didn’t have any intention on staying with him.. and NOW he cares. The endless phone calls and texting, telling me how he wants me to take him back, and that he’s "changed." He has had endless chances with me, and he didn’t ever take my feelings into perspective until it was too late.
Yesterday, we met up because I had left my ipod at his house. He walked and talked with me, and he cried the whole time..I feel awful for hurting him but I can’t stand being in an unhappy relationship. I ended up changing my FB status to some alexisonfire lyrics, and as soon as he saw them, he texted me telling me he was glad I wanted him back.. also, he has threatened many times to take his own life if I don’t get back together with him. I called his house and informed his parents.. they said to continue doing so if he doesn’t stop. Also, we were supposed to go to prom together.. and now he wants to go as "friends," this sounds like a bad idea to me.. does anyone else think so too?
What can I do to make it clear that I don’t want to be with him, or be in a relationship for that matter,without driving him over the edge? Thanks in advance.
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I dated a guy and distance got in the way
its just too hard to travel 2.5 hours each way when both people have busy lives.
but we stayed friends for 15 months since dating.
when i got a new bf 6 months ago my long distance friend said he finally realized he adored me and wanted to date again
this was frustrating and he started calling me all the time
it may have undermined and contributed to my new relationship ending after just 5 months
(i broke up with my bf 1 month ago. he seemed in shock and although he was no angel he really did care for me a lot and said the break up stunned him
he still calls me a couple times a week just to talk about nothing in particular)
anyway when i broke up with my bf i also found a new job transfer came thru.
to SAME city my guy friend is in !
we got excited and planned a big date
well i know of course he was seeing other girls while i had a bf.
anyway we had such a perfect date, our chemistry was instant and strong.
lots of pdas and then lots of kissing on his sofa at his house.
that was 5 days ago
now were apart again but talking like we always do.
just this week 3 long phone calls and 45 texts on facebook.
he knows im both busy with minor surgery and traveling wiht work until i move to his city july 4th
i know he will want to stay in touch every day possible like we did when we were ‘just’ friends.
im afraid this is bad.
im thinking to limit our conduct and not act like his buddy online.
just limit contact until i move there.
he treats me more like a romantic interest in person or on the phone but more like a buddy on emails/aim/fb chat.
(sometimes sends a :* but thats it
is this cruel or smart ?
well one BIG reason I m thinking this is th ebest tactic is that he HIMSELF stated that he doesnt know how to appreciate how much he loves someone and how much they mean until he feels like hes LOST them
when i got a boyfriend that was a wake up call
but we are in contact so much online (he always iniates) that it feels like we’re an old married couple or brother sister
i truly believe there needs to be a revived spark of mystery and distance so he can SEE that im this fun sexy cool woman who also is a good friend BUT even better gf.
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I am so upset and disgusted, and this is not the first time. Just 3 weeks ago I found his phone calls/text messages to a girl he found on a porn site and found a rental car to see her that he booked. I left for a week and stayed with family to sort out my feelings and be away from the situation. When I returned he cried to me and basically begged to give him one more chance and he wants to save the marriage.
I was very reluctant and distrusted him already, but told him if he seeks counseling as well as changes his behavior and actions then I would be willing to try to save the marriage.
And guess what… its happened again… I found text messages to the girl on our phone bill, googled the number and it was for an escort.. I contacted her and she said my husband contacted her for sex, I demanded the truth from him and he said that truth is he used drugs and alcohol with his friends and they play games online to look for sex…. i am so disgusted i feel nauseaus. Its absolutely unbelievable… now he is stating he does not consider it cheating because he never had sex, but i told him i do consider it cheating and he has a drug problem and he knew that because i left him before because of it… uggh… what a pig.
I am leaving our house, i am finding my own place but our marriage counselor called and told me he contacted him for counseling and wanted to know the situation.
what would you do here… would you just say forget it and move on or go to counseling and stick around? serious answers please.
Sorry… I know its long.
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My boyfriend and I had a talk yesterday. He was asking me all types of questions.Since weve been going out he always said that he wanted to be a virgin till marriage. told him numerous of times I wanted him. But then he told me "You know we are christians" I cant not yet. When he said this i got in my mind he think im hte one and he wants to marry me. Now yesterday he’s asking me questions bout making out and where and did i want him to take my virginity. I said yea but were both christians.Since yesterday he hasnt replied back to none of my calls nor text messages..(We was texting yesterday having the talk and i waited 2 hours 4 his reply he never texted back nor picked up his phone after i texted that)….I want to have intercourse with him but the problem is he’s not worth my soul going to hell.And i love him sooooooo much that i dont want him going to hell either for having pre-martial intercourse.And if you really love someone,well inspite of how they might feel if you really really love them youll wait and save them from a firery furnace.
P.S
He hasnt text back y???? and plus y isnt he pickin up my phone calls?? did he get his phone tooken or sumthin??? did his battery go dead??? what should i do?
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My Boyfriend..(Now Ex) and I Were Going Out.
But..It’s Summer 09 and Wednesday Was our Last Day and he said Text You tonight and he keeps ignoring me and I have To Go ZAC just to get a simple Wat. and I no hes not busy because hes not busy to say Wat and i called him and he could have just answered and said im busy. But no. So hes Been ignoring my texts, phone calls, and hasn’t said i love you, or called me babe and when i asked if he was breaking up with me because i thought it was a hint but he just kept saying "No." What was he doing??
Please Don’t say he was busy or give him space.
P.S I broke up with him and he never replied to that either and he usually goes Please don’t do this to me. He always wants me back so should i take him back after all this??
He also promised he wouldn’t ignore my texts again after the last break up.
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