I just recently found out that my husband of 2 years (partner of 4) has been rekindling his friendship with a girl he was , for lack of a better description, madly in love with all throughout his high school years and part of his time in college. He was head over heels for her, would do anything and be anything she needed, but supposedly never even so much as kissed her.
Well, to sum up their story and start on why I am uneasy she ended up getting married to some mutual friend of theirs, getting divorced, getting knocked up by the mutual friend and then marrying him AGAIN. Now her husband is in the Army , and she has two kids.
This year has NOT been the best for my marriage either. My husband joined the Air Force, then was discharged for medical reasons. We have had several (often physical) fights, and two months ago I found out I was pregnant, only to suffer a miscarriage three weeks later. And now, this other girl, Let’s just call her Dee, her husband is in Iraq for 18 months and mine has decided to start talking to her again via facebook. He never liked facebook until recently, but now has it on his phone and even Xbox. He even put a passcode on his cell phone which he didn’t have until recently. Now he is planning to visit his AF buddy this coming weekend in FL, but I am not sure if I believe thats where he is going bc she is in North Carolina and it will take approx the same amount of time either way. I have to let him go, and if he is seeing his AF friend I am all for it, but in the back of my mind i wonder if that is where he is going. I told him when he gets there take lots of pictures of him and his friend. I don’t know how else I will ever know the truth. Do you think my worries are unfounded?
well to answer one question the reason I am not going on the trip is my job. I am a x ray tech in a hospital , and I work 3rd shift 12 hour shifts all weekend. My holiday is thanksgiving plus I am working an extra 6 hours so I work this fri-sun 7p-7a then wed 7p-1a then thurs 7a-7p then fri-sun again 7p-7a. So as you can see I have NO time to do anything this week except sleep and get ready for my next shift. I told him I could not go bc of my work and with Christmas coming up, I need the money.
also see previous questions of mine and you will see he often started the physical fights. He even choked me while I was pregnant and some of you are making it sound like it was my fault! know the situation before you point fingers. We saw a counselor about that particular fight.
Lastly, I never told him he could not talk to this person. He decided that on his own. I am just concerned about the secrecy and why all of a sudden he wants to talk to her again. I also said I know that I cannot stop him from going on this trip, nor do I plan to.
And to "jaded" you obviously have no idea what you are talking about. This pregnancy was NOT planned, and the fight we had was about something unrelated to this situation. I am not planning on getting pregnant in the near future, I never said I was. I know this is not a situation to bring a child into, in fact I firmly believe no child should have to live through any argument between family as someone who grew up in an extremely dysfunctional environment. Lastly, don’t tell me to grow up or get mature. You don’t know me honey.
