My wife and I only dated for a totall of 5-6 months ( I know thats really short but we were with each other like ever spare second of every day during that time) not including the month long break up in which she came back. She used to tell me she loved me all the time and I felt like she really did ( I still love her) She got pregnant on our honeymoon and soon went off of her paxil for anxiety ( i was on it too..) She says she doesn’t think she ever loved me and she started getting really irritated by me for really small things like breathing hard in my sleep, stinky breath, the way I pronounce certain words. I went to counseling with her and to a psychiatrist for a few months and it seemed to help alot but not enough. She asked me to move out and she hasn’t filled out divorce papers but right now I’m just trying to be as supportive as possible and taking care of her by paying bills and getting her groceries and gas etc. even thuogh I live at my parents house 70% of the time. Her family is so upset with her including her kids from a previous 14 yr. mariage, in fact last weekend her son asked her to invite me over because he misses me.. I just am having such a hard time, this is my first time to be a father and he’s due in like 2-3 weeks.. Did she ever love me? If so, can she love me again? Is it likely she will have feelings for me after? Sorry if you’ve read my other posts I’m just really concerned and interested in your opinions…
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My DH and I have tried to conceive for 7 months. We went through one miscarriage – and our relationship seemed to be stronger for what we have gone through.
I finally got my BFP on Wednesday. My DH was out of town, and I couldn’t reach him as he seemed to vanish except one text msg. I started cramping on Friday and went to the MD – they said no fetal heartbeat but a sac and to wait and see. When I finally reached my DH – he said nothing except "I am confused over my ex wife."
I went to the MD today and everything is beautiful with the baby. My hCG levels are not increasing quite as quick as they should be so that is very concerning but the baby is there – 8 weeks 3 days and has a heart rate of 171. It was amazing to hear and I burst into tears because I was there alone. I told my doctor and she is horrified as she knows we have been trying. Anyway…
Well I told him not to come home Sunday night – to go somewhere else and he did. I am with my family so I am not alone and today he tells me he is going back to his ex wife. When I told him we are having a baby and the baby is fine, he says he wants to know if I would allow he and his ex wife to have the baby live with them because she is sterile and they always wanted a baby. OMG – is he off his rocker? We aren’t children – he is 38 and I am 28. Not that it matters, but I am a clean cut, alcohol and drug free woman with a stable home, great job, etc and he leaves me when I am pregnant and thinks he is going to take MY BABY to play house with his ex wife?
To say I became hysterical, sobbing and irrate is a gross understatement. I told him over my dead body will that happen and he said he "didn’t want to miss all the firsts and time with the baby" but I am supposed to because he is a selfish SOB? I told him that is the price you pay when you leave your pregnant wife – you don’t get to have it all.
The crappy part is that I am crushed, devestated, irrate and heartbroken. I have this little miracle growing beneath my heart and I know that my DH is wrapped in the arms of his ex wife as we speak. He told me she said "She will love the baby as her own" so I shouldn’t worry about how she will feel towards the baby. I am devestated. I feel like my soul is being ripped out of my chest and my lungs cannot even breath my heart aches so much.
What do I do? I want to hate him, but I am so madly in love with him that my heart is in a million little pieces. My OB/GYN told me she cannot imagine what I am going through, but said this stress is not good for the baby. How do I do this?
I need advice…
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Here’s my story: My pregnant wife hates me. My wife and I used to make out for literally hours and cuddle (never had sex b4 we got married) for about 6 months before we got married and she seemed to have a lot of reasons why she wanted to marry me, she used to tell me she loved me all the time.
I got her pregnant on our honeymoon Feb. 6th 09, and she was so happy and we found out after about 5 weeks that she was already pregnant. One day she came in to the room and it was like she tried to force herself to kiss me and I could tell she didn’t enjoy it the same as before, she stopped letting me cuddle her, she stopped telling me she loved me, she also went off of her Paxil (anxiety) for the baby.
I was on Paxil as well. Pretty soon I was fighting for our marriage and she was thinking about divorce, I got us into marriage counseling and got her onto Zoloft, it helped but not enough. Her only reason for divroce is that she doesn’t love me and that I irritate her and I smell etc.
I have been fighting this for months and she has allready asked me to leave and I did just that and have supported her in making sure she has enough food and gas etc. It seems to me that the only reason gives me for wanting divorce is just her not having proper feelings, other than that we have alot in common and we don’t argue much at all, I’ve never yelled at her.
She really is set on divorce though…
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