HELP My ex keeps hurting me, I cant take it anymore, what do I do?

Well heres the story…

Me and my ex were together for 6months, it was always on and off inbetween. Then one day he decided that it wasnt going to work out and he dumped me. I didnt beg him to stay or anything like that I just said fine and agreed, because he had already broken up with me a couple of times. We decided to stay as friends afterwards, but then he started to play the jealous game, telling me how he’s going on a date and about all these other girls. Obviously it hurt me a lot. Then I couldnt handle it anymore so I had to cut off all contact with him.

There is this forum site which we are still on, ive deleted him from it, but we can still see each others profiles and comments we write on others pages.

So on his status’s one day he began putting all these heartbroken quotes up about trying to get back together with me, and eventually he called me one time, with a private number, i accidently picked up and found that it was him. He went on, and suddenly he tells me about a new gf (who I know of, and he knew of while we were together) of his, and how they are now together, and how they have slept toghether. So i thought to myself, why would you call me up to tell me that, obviously i got angry and I just said well ok and bye.

He expected me to get angry or jealous and ask for him back? So then on this site, he was writing all over our mutual friends walls boasting about her new gf and his new relationship and how wonderful she was. I know he is trying to make me jealous.

Then again he started with his sad soppy status’s, i got really sick of it. I tried to ignore it but I still did have feelings for him and it was all affecting me, because he is a really smart guy, and I really can’t put the pieces together on how a smart guy would be so inconsiderate of another persons feelings, be so unempathetic, that is the hardest bit, a brainy guy who is absolutley messed up in the head.

What I want to know is, if he’s happy and has moved on then why is he trying to get back into contact with me, and as he knows that i will see these writings on other peoples pages (which bdw sound absolutely pathetic), why is he trying to hurt me on purpose? What cruel person would do that? After dumping me, he continues to hurt me…And why am I so easily manipulated by it all. I never did anything to hurt him, I was always there for him even when he carried all his emotional baggage of the previous relationship into ours, yet i still was there…

I know that i should have some respect and keep my dignity and not take anymore of this shit, and i have decided that I am not going to keep in contact with this motherfucker ever.

But i am so easy manipulated by his status’s and everything, and I can’t get my head around that fact that someone would do such a thing, it hurts so bad, I know I need to let it go, but it feels like so much injustice has happened towards me.

I feel hurt and stupid, and that i let someone idiot do this all to me. I’m finding it hard to let it all go, because i feel like the one who has lost in all this.



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My soon to be ex-wife cheated on me but I still love her should I try to reconcile?

My wife and I are currently going through a divorce. Our marriage was fraught with difficulty both financially and sexually. I was going through a very difficult time working numerous and long hours, trying to pay the mortgage, I was going through hormone treatments for an illness as well. My wife was working part time and was not making enough to really help cover all the bills and this was during the mortgage crisis when the house payments practically doubled and we had a small baby as well. Any way it was during this time that my wife, who had an online dating profile on the interner before we knew each other, began cruising the singles sites, doing online compatibility checks between her and her former husband and boyfriends. I caught her once she said she wouldn’t do it anymore but I caught her again several months later checking out profiles and lewd pictures of other men on craigslist.

She did not write or contact any of the men but I still think this is cheating. When I confronted her about it she apologized but then also said she wanted a divorce. When I asked her why she said it was because I bullied her, mistreated her, verbally abused her, swore at her, called her names and that I did all of this in private and even out in public. She said she used to love me but soon became afraid of me and even terrified of me and no longer even wanted to sleep with me. (This is true, at one point she started sleeping on the couch giving some inane excuse) She said that she was afraid of my anger and that she always feared my outbursts.

While this is true that I did not treat very well I was going through so much emotionally, financially and my physical illness as well. I do indeed have a temper but this still does not give her the right to cheat on me and I DO believe that looking at singles’ profiles and pictures of other men IS Cheating.

Anyway, she has apologized profusely about what she did but does not want to be married to and is going forward with the divorce.

I still miss but I just know what to do, I have a hard time trusting her again..

Please share your opinions.


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