Why is my ex girlfriend sending me text messages if she's falling in love with her rebound guy?

MY BACKSTORY

My ex girlfriend and I were together for 2.5 years and were extremely connected emotionally and spiritually. We spoke in depth about marriage and families, and she made it clear on numerous occasions that she’s "done looking" and "I’m the man she hopes to marry". As much as we both really wanted it to work out, unfortunately it just didn’t, and the break up was extremely dramatic for the both of us. Our relationship ended in mid-October and I was fairly devastated. 2009 was a very challenging year for me, because I was searching diligently for a new career with no luck, and therefore I wasn’t the most pleasant person during this time. She started dating a new guy about 3 weeks after we broke up and is still currently dating him in what I consider to be a rebound relationship by definition. I do know for a fact that he was unrelated to her and I breaking up, for he wasn’t even in the picture. He’s 100% not her type physically, and I’m not saying I’m her only type, but after being with someone for 2.5 years, you tend to know the type of people the person your dating is attracted to physically based on previous boyfriends and athletes/actors they might be attracted to. The guy is overweight and unhealthy looking and apparently at least one of her girlfriends calls him "turkey neck" behind his back.

In the last month, the status messages and posts on their facebook walls’ have been more and more romantic. Posts like, "<3 u", "don’t miss me too much this weekend", and quoting love songs. Her and I didn’t speak much over the last 2.5 months, and a large majority of our communication was amicable, but some of the communication was very dramatic like “I hate you” and “my friends and family want you out of my life, and so do I”. I backed off about 4 weeks ago and the drama has begun to subside between her and I. I have been dating a new girl whose posted cute stuff on my facebook wall too, implying that we’re dating also. My ex girlfriend and I haven’t been facebook friends for almost 2 months now, and everything I know is from a mutual friend. I wouldn’t normally question the validity of my ex girlfriend’s feelings for this new guy, but in the past week she’s reached out and sent me a few text messages saying "I just wanted to say that I hope you’re doing okay" on Dec 26, "just so you know, I always believed in you" on Dec 29, and "happy new year" on Jan 1 at 2am (possibly a drunk text). I didn’t respond to any of these texts and I haven’t heard from her since.

MY OPINION

If I was completely content with another woman, then I can’t see a reason why I’d contact any ex girlfriend, unless I heard of something tragic like a death in the family or something similar. Therefore, I was shocked to hear anything from my ex girlfriend after I backed off, especially considering they’re in the middle of the so called “honey moon stage” of the relationship.

MY QUESTIONS

My question is pretty clear, but factoring in the backstory, why would my ex girlfriend be texting me? Guilt, feelings, or a combination of both? Could she have gotten word from a mutual friend that I’m dating and now she’s a little jealous? Has she not completely closed the door on us yet, and is looking to keep the door propped open? I really think she might be falling in love with this guy, based on the comments posted on a public forum like facebook, so then why the ambiguous text messages to me? I’ve ignored her texts up until this point, and I’m afraid that it might’ve been a bad decision to do so, should I now reach out (maybe mention that I’ve secured a great new career since our break up)? Considering it’s not hard to warm the heart of a wounded woman that’s hurt and that he’s clearly unattractive (she’s gorgeous), could this really be a rebound relationship that’s become more serious than usual? Lastly, should I just give up and let what’s meant to be…be, or should I put things in motion while she’s seeing this guy?

Does anyone speak girl, thanks so much!!!
My exgirlfriend finally posted a pic of her new guy and herself on facebook. Pics were at her brother’s wedding reception (Jan 2) and the rehearsal dinner (Dec 30) which he was a guest at both. Now I dont know what to do.

She seems well on her way into being fully involved with this guy now which is crazy to think after the many years and memories we shared. I dont know how any woman or person for that matter, could begin a new relationship so soon while recovering from a broken one. It amazes me. Still for whatever reason she reached out to me 3 times last week thru text as Ive already stated. I will not try to sabotage her new relationship but I want to leave the door propped open for a possible reconciliation. So at this point I feel like I have 3 options:

1. Wait for her to reach out again and then respond kindly.

2. Send her text in the next day or so. Something like "happy belated new year", "tell ur bro & his bride congrats on their marriage" or mention my job.

3. Ur option?



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Why is my ex girlfriend sending me text messages when it appears she's falling in love with her rebound guy?

**MY APOLOGIZES FOR THE LENGTH**

MY BACKSTORY

My ex girlfriend and I were together for 2.5 years and were extremely connected emotionally and spiritually. We spoke in depth about marriage and families, and she made it clear on numerous occasions that she’s "done looking" and "I’m the man she hopes to marry". As much as we both really wanted it to work out, unfortunately it just didn’t, and the break up was extremely dramatic for the both of us. Our relationship ended in mid-October and I was fairly devastated. 2009 was a very challenging year for me, because I was searching diligently for a new career with no luck, and therefore I wasn’t the most pleasant person during this time. She started dating a new guy about 3 weeks after we broke up and is still currently dating him in what I consider to be a rebound relationship by definition. I do know for a fact that he was unrelated to her and I breaking up, for he wasn’t even in the picture. He’s 100% not her type physically, and I’m not saying I’m her only type, but after being with someone for 2.5 years, you tend to know the type of people the person your dating is attracted to physically based on previous boyfriends and athletes/actors they might be attracted to. The guy is overweight and unhealthy looking and apparently at least one of her girlfriends calls him "turkey neck" behind his back.

In the last month, the status messages and posts on my ex’s and her new guy’s facebook walls’ have been more and more romantic towards each other. Posts like, "<3 u", "don’t miss me too much this weekend", and quoting love songs. Her and I didn’t speak much over the last 2.5 months, and a large majority of our communication was amicable, but some of the communication was very dramatic like “I hate you” and “my friends and family want you out of my life, and so do I”. I backed off about 4 weeks ago and the drama has begun to subside between her and I. I have been dating a new girl whose posted cute stuff on my facebook wall too, implying that we’re dating also. My ex girlfriend and I haven’t been facebook friends for almost 2 months now, and everything I know is from a mutual friend. I wouldn’t normally question the validity of my ex girlfriend’s feelings for this new guy, but in the past week she’s reached out and sent me a few text messages saying "I just wanted to say that I hope you’re doing okay" on Dec 26, "just so you know, I always believed in you" on Dec 29, and "happy new year" on Jan 1 at 2am (possibly a drunk text). I didn’t respond to any of these texts and I haven’t heard from her since.

MY OPINION

If I was completely content with another woman, then I can’t see a reason why I’d contact any ex girlfriend, unless I heard of something tragic like a death in the family or something similar. Therefore, I was shocked to hear anything from my ex girlfriend after I backed off, especially considering they’re in the middle of the so called “honey moon stage” of the relationship.

MY QUESTIONS

My question is pretty clear, but factoring in the backstory, why would my ex girlfriend be texting me? Guilt, feelings, or a combination of both? Could she have gotten word from a mutual friend that I’m dating and now she’s a little jealous? Could she be testing me and simply looking for a reaction out of me to gauge my feelings, even though she may feel the security of a new guy? Has she not completely closed the door on us yet, and is looking to keep the door propped open? I really think she might be falling in love with this guy, based on the comments posted on a public forum like facebook, so then why the ambiguous text messages to me? I’ve ignored her texts up until this point, and I’m afraid that it might’ve been a bad decision to do so, should I now reach out (maybe mention that I’ve secured a great new career since our break up)? Considering it’s not hard to warm the heart of a wounded woman that’s hurt and that he’s clearly unattractive (she’s gorgeous), could this really be a rebound relationship that’s become more serious than usual? Lastly, should I just give up and let what’s meant to be…be, or should I put things in motion while she’s seeing this guy?

Does anyone speak girl??? Please don’t provide me with lip service and tell me what you think I may want to hear. Thanks so much!!!
My exgirlfriend finally posted a pic of her new guy and herself on facebook. Pics were at her brother’s wedding reception (Jan 2) and the rehearsal dinner (Dec 30) which he was a guest at both. Now I dont know what to do.

She seems well on her way into being fully involved with this guy now which is crazy to think after the many years and memories we shared. I dont know how any woman or person for that matter, could begin a new relationship so soon while recovering from a broken one. It amazes me. Still for whatever reason she reached out to me 3 times last week thru text as Ive already stated. I will not try to sabotage her new relationship but I want to leave the door propped open for a possible reconciliation. So at this point I feel like I have 3 options:

1. Wait for her to reach out again and then respond kindly.

2. Send her text in the next day or so. Something like "happy belated new year", "tell ur bro & his bride congrats on their marriage" or mention my job.

3. Ur option?



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My girlfriend and I have been together for 3.5years now, but it seemed to be losing it's luster.?

Then I suspected her of cheating. So this past weekend I read her text messages, which I know I violated her trust completely, but found that she had been texting another guy. Some of the messages were "GAH, I just can’t get you out of my head." "Morning love." "I miss you." Anyways I confronted her and she said, "Don’t worry; it’s nothing."
It’s been tearing me apart for 5days now. I try to communicate with her, but she just uses one word answers to my questions, and she just won’t talk to me about it. She tells me she doesn’t have feelings for him, but I believe I know her well enough to see that she is depressed, and she’s hiding something. I tell her she can talk to me about anything and that I love her, but just won’t open up. Then today she told me she felt "smothered".
I love her very much, and I want to give her the space she wants, but I fear if I do she will leave me for the other guy.
Yes I realize that it’s ultimately up to her to decide what’s best for her, but how can I show her that Truly love, care, and cherish her without smothering her anymore, and putting our relationship on even more unstable ground?



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Why I became a “Michael Jordan REALIST” instead of a Jordan Jocker?

I grew up watching the Lakers and Celtics of the Great 80′s.Larry and Magic played Basketball in it’s purest form.In this Great era(80′s) Michael Jordan was a Highlight waiting to happen, But HIS TEAMS were LACKLUSTER and were stepping stones for the Celtics and Pistons…..as the 80′s closed the waterd down 90′s opened up.The NBA Expanded, Highschool Kids were flooding the seen and Michael Jordan started to win Titles…Finally!

at first I was happy for him….he was an exciting player who was fun to watch. But somwhere down the line he started to believe his own hype.I saw the media make up LIES about him, in order to make money(he was never cut from his highschool team)…the media twisted words to make it seem like he was the best!…..Larry and Magic were GONE…so the NBA needed to make money!….Phantom calls and Blatant coddling helped Michael jordan win 3 NBA Titles…..I had grown so sick of hearing how Michael Jordan was the best ever that I was Happy when he QUIT to play baseball…(remember Jordan could’nt win JACK in the 80′s,,,,and the NBA was saying he was better then Magic and Bird?)…He quit to play beseball because he believed his own hype about his greatness,,,HE ACTUALLY THOUGHT HE COULD SAVE BASEBALL……when he found out that he could’nt I thought the NBA would hand him the LOTrophy upon his return.The next year they did…..they gave him Rodman!…..

3 more years and 3 more Titles….and all these Kids who never saw Magic and Bird play were calling MJ "THE BEST EVER"…"HE WILLED HIMSELF TO VICTORY"…."HE WAS A GREAT LEADER WHO COULD DO NO WRONG"…..I would just laugh…..these people do not know what basketball is….they are SHEEP to the media….and I will tell them the TRUTH!…..I will be the WOLF!….are you a WOLF?….or are you a SHEEP?……

One of the greatest Hip Hop groupes (from the 80′s) once said…"Don’t believe the Hype"……………

Famous qoutes from MJ….

"We’re beating a lot of poor teams. So what? We won a lot of games last year, too. Will Horace and Bill still be playing at this level in the playoffs…Can Pip keep it up?"

"I hate being out there with those garbagemen. They don’t get you the ball."

"They’ve got no idea what it’s all about. The white guys, they work hard, but they don’t have the talent. And the rest of them? Who knows what to expect? They’re not good for much of anything."

"I know what’s gonna happen. We’ll wait until the last minute and then they’ll say something like they couldn’t get a deal done because of the cap or somebody pulled out at the last minute. It happens here all the time. I don’t know why I’m surprised every year."

"He can’t do anything with the ball. Don’t give it to him." – Michael yelling at Paxson who passed the ball to Perdue

"You ever hear of a guy, six-eleven maybe and two hundred sixty pounds, a guy big and fat like that and he can’t get but two rebounds, if that many, running all over the damn court and he gets two rebounds? Big guy like that and he gets one rebound. Can’t even stick his [Swearing is not permitted at **********. You must edit this post prior to submitting.] into people and get more than that…Big, fat, fat guy. One rebound in three games. Power forward. Maybe they should call it powerless forward." – Michael ripping Stacey King a new one

"He was scared in there and panicking. He just lost it when Stockton scored." – Michael on B.J. Armstrong’s mental fragility

I’ll let them stand up and take responsibility for themselves."

"We have to do some things. We need to make some changes."

"…I call them ‘the Looney Tunes.’ Physically, they were the best. Mentally, they weren’t even close."

"He’s scared. He’s got no heart…Nobody told me that. If I had spoken up, he wouldn’t have been here."

"I know I can recognize what to do, but I’m not sure they can."

"It’s a hell of a lot easier to make Earl Monroe look good than it is Brad Sellers."

"I hope there’s a jumpshot in there." – Michael to Stacey King who was walking into the locker room with a box

"They don’t need a ticket to watch you sitting on the bench. They can go to your house for that." – Michael to Charles Davis who was sorting through his tickets for his family and friends

"Give me the ******* ball." – Michael to Doug Collins who drew up a play for Dave Corzine

"I hate when I have to read that in the papers the next day, that I couldn’t do something. It wasn’t my fault."

"You’re an idiot. You’ve screwed up every play we ever ran. You’re too stupid to even remember the plays. We ought to get rid of you." – Michael to Horace Grant

"If you [pass the ball to Bill Cartwright], you’ll never get the ball from me."

"We’re not winning because of talent. We’re just beating bad teams."

"Headache tonight, Scottie?" – Michael asks Scottie, while showing him his 2-for-16 line

"It’s probably a twelve-day. He needs two days to wake up." – Michael on a ten-day contract teammate

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What do u think of Ron Paul's article: " Keynesianism Delivers a Decade of Zero "?

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Keynesianism Delivers a Decade of Zero
This past week we celebrated the end of what most people agree was a decade best forgotten. New York Times columnist and leading Keynesian economist Paul Krugman called it the Big Zero in a recent column. He wrote that “there was a whole lot of nothing going on in measures of economic progress or success” which is true. However, Krugman continues to misleadingly blame the free market and supposed lack of regulation for the economic chaos.

It was encouraging that he admitted that blowing economic bubbles is a mistake, especially considering he himself advocated creating a housing bubble as a way to alleviate the hangover from the dotcom bust. But we can no longer afford to give prominent economists like Krugman a pass when they completely ignore the burden of taxation, monetary policy, and excessive regulation.

Afterall, Krugman is still scratching his head as to why “no” economists saw the housing bust coming. How in the world did they miss it? Actually many economists saw it coming a mile away, understood it perfectly, and explained it many times. Policy makers would have been wise to heed the warnings of the Austrian economists, and must start listening to their teachings if they want solid progress in the future. If not, the necessary correction is going to take a very long time.

The Austrian free-market economists use common sense principles. You cannot spend your way out of a recession. You cannot regulate the economy into oblivion and expect it to function. You cannot tax people and businesses to the point of near slavery and expect them to keep producing. You cannot create an abundance of money out of thin air without making all that paper worthless. The government cannot make up for rising unemployment by just hiring all the out of work people to be bureaucrats or send them unemployment checks forever. You cannot live beyond your means indefinitely. The economy must actually produce something others are willing to buy. Government growth is the opposite of all these things.

Bureaucrats are loathe to face these unpleasant, but obvious realities. It is much more appealing to wave their magic wand of regulation and public spending and divert blame elsewhere. It is time to be honest about our problems.

The tragic reality is that this fatally flawed, but widely accepted, economic school of thought called Keynesianism has made our country more socialist than capitalist. While the private sector in the last ten years has experienced a roller coaster of booms and busts and ended up, nominally, about where we started in 2000, government has been steadily growing, because Keynesians told politicians they could get away with a tax, spend and inflate policy. They even encouraged it! But we cannot survive much longer if government is our only growth industry.

As for a lack of regulation, the last decade saw the enactment of the Sarbanes-Oxley Act, the largest piece of financial regulatory legislation in years. This act failed to prevent abuses like those perpetrated by Bernie Madoff, and it is widely acknowledged that the new regulations contributed heavily not only to the lack of real growth, but also to many businesses going overseas.

Americans have been working hard, and Krugman rightly points out that they are getting nowhere. Government is expanding steadily and keeping us at less than zero growth when inflation is factored in. Krugman seems pretty disappointed with zero, but if we continue to listen to Keynesians in the next decade instead of those who tell us the truth, zero will start to look pretty good. The end result of destroying the currency is the wiping out of the middle class. Preventing that from happening should be our top economic priority.

Posted by Ron Paul (01-04-2010, 01:36 PM) filed under Monetary Policy "
vani he had the solutions BEFORE the crash last year, but people like you wanted him to shut up about the problem. Isn’t it time to start listening?
Heather, it is amusing. They tend to emit a cloud of technical jargon designed to confuse the listener, which refers to models only necessary — or even relevant — if you accept the Keynesian principles to begin with.


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