hey everyone…my ex-gf broke up w/ me abuot 2 months ago. things were so good for a year and a few months and we planned on marriage. we had done all the family introductions and looked at rings and life was perfect. then we hit some snags for a few months and she broke up with me . i’m heartbroken. she says she isnt mad at me but is not considering a 2nd chance…even though I am shocked, because we had it all going so well. Here’s my question:
-I want to do something cheesy like play "In your eyes" on a boombox outside her window like Say Anything, or ask her to meet me on the Golden Gate Bridge on Valentine’s Day like in Sex and the City. Those are cheesy but also kind of romantic. Do you think those are better saved for the movies, or can I try one?
"Juliet" breaks up with "Quincy". Quincy is heartbroken. Months later, ol Q likes me and the feeling was mutual but we never move past ‘friends’, which is fine. Recently, J is avaliable again and Q decides to attempt to reignite romance. J doesn’t want to get back together. Q is completely in love with J (still) and isn’t the type to give in. Q tells me how much he loves her. I’m tempted to tell Q that J wants nothing to do with him to stop him from wasting his time but after listening to him, he tells me he’s really glad I’m his friend. Damn, now I’d feel bad. I and would like to see him happy and I’d rather be his friend then nothing at all. So if that’s the way I’ll fit into the Life Puzzle, so be it. (Right?) I tell J that she should give him a second chance because he’s changing himself completely…all for her. She doesn’t care and shows no signs of giving in. The future is bleak.
I didn’t intend to be in the middle, I just opened my eyes and I was the Monkey in the Middle. Aren’t I the dumbest, self-sacrificing little martyr ya ever did see? What in the world should I do?
So I’m basically trying to get my friend and her ex who still adores her and who I sort of like…back together.
Hit me on the head, please.
We’ve had a pretty roller coaster relationship for about 5 years. I’d even call it emotionally abusive in the sense that he was withholding, jealous, and controlling. During our long distance phase he refused to visit me at all (he’s visited me once in all of our 5 years together) and often yelled at me if i accidentally called him at a bad time or would act annoyed that he had to call me.
At the time I thought that was about as good as it could get for me, so I stayed with him, though we’d break up and get back together constantly.
I broke up with him about 6 months ago because I couldn’t take his crappy treatment anymore. I’m currently dating someone else.
The thing is, my ex and I talked a LOT since we broke up, nearly every day (he’d call me). It wasn’t until I started dating this guy that I kind of stopped picking up his calls or calling him back. Usually my ex wouldn’t care but apparently he suddenly decided he wanted me back (again) and started doing his whole guilt tripping emo thing by telling me he wasn’t going to call me anymore so if i wanted to talk to him i had to call him.
I’d call him periodically every few days but he ended up getting super pissed a week later off about this lack of calling and threw a hissy fit, txting me things like “you aren’t worth my time” and “i’m done with people like you”. I’m not sure what his emotional status is right now but he drove down with some friends to where I’m going to school right now and wanted to “spend the night” at my place, to which i told him to gtfo.
ANYWAYS TLDR:
I’m so sick of this vicious cycle. What’s the best way to tell your ex that you just want to be friends without him going apeshlt? I’d prefer not to tell him about this current guy right now in his current state because a) he’ll be horrible about it and b) i don’t even feel like i have an obligation to tell him because he’s never been honest to me about other girls.
My bf and I have been dating now for a month. He’s really sweet and has made it extremely clear that he thinks he’s head over heels for me. However, I don’t share these feelings. To be honest, I don’t feel that there’s much of a click in the relationship.
As far as romance, he’s a dream, but I have a hard time keeping a causal “how was your day?” conversation flowing. I keep intending to do a gentle break-up (I don’t want to hurt his feelings, but I don’t want to mislead him), but everytime that I’m about to, he does some utterly sweet and romantic thing that makes me feel horrible about it.
For example, I got home from work and was going to give him a call to discuss it, but then I found out that he’d sent me a bunch of messages on AIM in the form of love poetry…I’ve tried giving him a second chance, but just don’t feel a connection.
How can I end this relationship without giving him heartache? He’s done just about everything but ask me to marry him, and I’m so stuck! I hate the idea of hurting such a wonderful guy’s feelings, but I know it will be worse if I wait much longer..
Random: The sad part…he actually does remind me of a one of the wolves that’s imprinted or something…I now understand Bella more than I bargained for (even though Jake didn’t imprint on her, you know what I mean).
Oh, AND he makes it even harder because he calls me “love” like Edward does to Bella, and he’s even quoted Edward before…he’s just too good of a romantic!!
i have about ,000 of savings saved up and currently in a term deposit, and i will be selling my 2nd car (Ford raider) for around 00 – 00 sp that will make approx ,000 all up and i have a few ideas in mind but i cant make up my mind what i want to do.
summer is coming up in oz and the weather is just screaming for a convertible and i have spotted a few nice 1972 Ford Galaxie Convertibles in America in my price range which i really would like to own, but i will be only able to use it 6 months outta the year (convertibles in winter is not a good idea!) + import + conversion + rego = another 5-7thou, but i love driving and cruising in an old "land yacht" with the top down would be magic!
option 2: its been a really shitty year so far and im a bit depressed, so take the 4 thou from selling the 2nd car and bugger off to Thailand or some other cheap asian place for a while.
or should i just go with a home entertainment system, surround sound, 52" LED/LCD TV, DVD & bluray player, PS3 etc
all those are tempting since i want em all (i wish i was rich!), love driving and if i buy the car i would have something that’s worth around ,000 – ,000 in OZ, but it would be useless in winter, if i go to Thailand or some other cheap asian place id have some good memories and i can say ive traveled, if i buy the entertainment Package i don’t think id leave the house lol but it would all be outdated in 6months anyway.
if anyone can help me choose or has any other ideas to send me i would be much appreciated 
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 years. Since we started dating his mother always warned him that I’d "trap" him into staying with me. We now have a 15 month old daughter together and his mother totally denies her grandchild. She wants me to get a paternity test because we are not married so she’s just so sure that my daughter is in no way related to her son, even though she looks like all of her children. My daughter never got a Christmas or birthday present from her. Also, his mother treats him like he’s 14. He is 26! For example, he is "not allowed" to have a cell phone. Seriously? So, I’ve agreed to get this test done because nothing would make me more satisfied than to shove the results in her face. She told my mom that she should have dragged me by my hair to "take care of" my pregnancy instead of letting me trap her son. What? I’m 24 years old. I’ve been with her son for 5 years. I love him and he loves me. How do I tell this crazed woman off without making her loathe me even more? I need to tell her that I’m an adult and I insist on her treating me that way. I’d also like to tell her to cut the cord already. Her son now has a family of his own, she can’t be breathing down his back forever. Right?
Um.. I’m sorry but it’s 2009. Not 1950. Having a child out of wedlock isn’t really socially unacceptable anymore. I mean sure, for some religious views it is, and that’s fine. I promise you I wont burn in Hell though because I had a child with someone I love. I did not just "spread my legs". That being said, my boyfriend’s father just got up and left one day, and got remarried without telling ANYONE. Including his children. So I feel that his mom has some abandonment issues and that’s why she’s holding onto her kids for dear life. I dont want to yell at her and make her feel bad, I just want her to know I dont appreciate the way she treats me. My boyfriend is only just realizing that she’s irrational and he’s about to burst himself. If she starts to say bad things about me to my face I have no right to tell her to back off?
My boyfriend just dumped me because, "He doesn’t feel the same about me" we’ve been dating for almost two years. I actully love him, and i just think he is confused. I NEED HELP!
It’s easy to answer "Yeah, whiny emos, duh," but I’m asking you to restrain for a moment. First of all I do know what ‘real’ emo music is. It started out in the later 80s, and there were bands such as Rites of Spring, Sunny Day Real Estate, and the Get-up Kids until the genre mostly disappeared towards the end of the 90s. It was generally punk-based. Somehow, at this same time, the ‘emo’ stereotype was formed. The ‘emos’ today stereotypically listen to bands that have that image but actually could be classified with many other rock genres. If you actually give them a listen, they aren’t the whiny, inept groups you expect, at least in my book.
As I said, it’s all in the image. The music isn’t really all that different. In my opinion it’s the alternative of today, and it gets a place in the mainstream because there are stereotypes that distinguish the bands. For instance The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus. They started out as a pretty hard band, probably considered screamo. Something about their image led to the ‘emo’ label. Their last album was very pop-rock-based, and if you listen to it, it’s really not much different from Bon Jovi as of recent years or Matchbox 20. The lyrics are generally about maturing through life, and they don’t sound particularly whiny to me.
Then, you have Fall Out Boy and Panic! at the Disco. Once again, it’s just their images. They are both fairly poppy and energetic. Fall Out Boy isn’t the sligtest bit ‘emo’ and doesn’t deserve the negative stereotypes. Panic! at the Disco at least makes a little more sense, but it’s also a misconception. Their lyrics are often very deep and complex and need analyzing. They often speak through metaphors, and many of their songs are about the abstract, wealth and grand events for the elite, today’s fashion and how it applies, and broken trust in relationships. But it’s mature, not whiny. The song "I Write Sins not Tragedies" is lyrical genius about a cheating bride being found out just before the wedding, and it would have made some great literature years ago, in my opinion.
AFI started out as a hard-core punk band. Listen to 1995’s Answer that and Stay Fashionable. You’ll probably mess yourself out of shock. Then they changed to horror-punk, and eventually, a combination of alternative and, at times, screamo. Their lyrics tend to be dark, but not in an immature whiny way. Like Panic! at the Disco, they would have made excellent stories a century ago.
And I can’t leave out the biggest stereotype of the ‘emo’ community. My Chemical Romance. My question is… Why??? The band started out with a punk-based sound, and now can almost be considered a reincarnation of classic rock and arena rock. 2006’s The Black Parade was a very creative story revolving around a dying individual. Resulting in a huge misconception. It DOES NOT involve suicide.
It’s about ‘The Patient,’ who is dying from cancer and looking back at his life. The song "Dead!" is about how his life was wasted, and how he never did what he wanted and lived a happy life. "Teenagers" could have fit with any decent classic rock band some decades ago. "Welcome to the Black Parade" is all about carrying on. Don’t tell me the chorus "And though you’re dead and gone, believe me. You’re memory will carry on," is negative. The word death is very misunderstood. In "Famous Last Words," the character gets a second chance. Look at this chorus. "I am not afraid to keep on living / I am not afraid to walk this world alone / Honey, if you stay, you’ll be forgiven / Nothing you can say could stop me going home." And they blame THIS band on suicides??? They speak out against it! I guess death is just too touchy of a subject.
It just puzzles me that generally respectable bands take fire for self-harm and suicide. Seriously, just listen to them. I have tricked many people who criticized ‘emo’ groups by having them listen to them. They said they were all right, and their faces went pale when I told them who they really were. If anything, today’s hip-hop is in a state of disarray. It was very decent in the late 80s and the 90s, even heading into this decade, but it’s now abandoned all decent meaning. I used to speak out when people said it was nothing but violence, b!tches and hoes, and money, but now, I’ve found, it really is! With arrogance and lack of skill on top of it all.
I’d just like to know if anyone takes these ‘emo’ bands for what they really are and, like me, finds them to be some of the only decent stuff hitting the mainstream these days. Before you flame me, I am generally a metal fan, with classic and hard rock roots, and I’m just as big into alternative. That being said, people have taken today’s ‘emo’ music all wrong. Listen to the countless sappy love songs that made hits in the 70s, 80s, and 90s. Tell me what whiny is. Honestly.
I ask because he has made NO further attempts to contact her; I gather she is on holiday (at home, and he is working) but as far as I know, he has NOT contacted her. Assume this is the truth.
So – was their meeting last week just coincidence?
History is:
In Feb this year I caught my husband cheating with a woman for a whole year and apparently he was on the verge of leaving me for her but we worked through it. He swore that was it with her. Although he said he had loved her. She sent me all his messages and texts and IMs and in these, he expressed his love for her, said he didn’t want to be with me, I was sexless and cold, but SHE was vibrant, sexy and made him feel loved and able to love again.
After I found out, he cut her off and was horrible to her. He also denied he "meant" what he said in the years’ worth of those messages. BUT –
He went back to her many many times over 6 months, after he promised me that he would cut her out of his life for good – most recently in August when he went to her work, asked the guard to call her down, she got into his van to hear him out ..
The next thing you know, my husband is arrested for ’sexual assault’ in September. He was finally released without charge 2 weeks ago, and that was that, but they have been warned to stay away from each other.
PRESENT DAY:
As some of you know, lately (last 2 weeks) he has watched her from his work van as she walks from her office to the station; he DOES genuinely have jobs in that street but he HAS watched her as opposed to hiding behind a newspaper as he sits in his van/looking away, etc.
This has happened 3 times in 3 weeks, and each time, he has stared, and she has walked on, not stopping.
THIS TIME, SHE STOPPED AND THEY TALKED.
I can’t believe it. If the sexual assault arrest has not made him hate her WHAT THE F*CK WILL???
This is what they talked about, which I know because his partner driver "felt I should know" – he was not there but was nearby -
Admitted to her that he HAD indeed been waiting for her to approach him all those times he was parked near her work, and asked why she had been "running past" him!
Apparently he "forgave" her for having him arrested.
He wished her a happy belated birthday.
He asked how her new house was going.
Oh this is good; he asked why he "could not find her" on Facebook.
He asked her ‘can I trust you now?’ (!!)
He said ‘will you let me wave at you if I drive past you?’
She told him another guy had got obsessed with her lately and he said "See I told you you were dangerous" – what does that mean?
Please can someone decipher the things he said to her,AND tell me why would he give her the time of day?
This was last Monday but even on Tuesday, apparently he passed her in his truck and beeped & waved at her!
I am concerned as to what he plans next.
Things girls dont realize?
1. Guys are more emotional then you think, if they loved you at one point, it’ll take them a lot longer then you think to let you go, and it hurts every second that they try.
2. Guys may be flirting around all day, but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.
3. Guys go crazy over a girl’s smile.
4. Guys will to anything just to get you to notice him.
5. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend or ex love-interest. Unless they’re goin for the let-her-complain-to-you-and-then-have-he… how-wonderful-and-nice-you-are method.
6. A guy who likes you wants to be the only guy you talk to.
7. Boyfriends need to be reassured often that they’re still loved.
8. Guys don’t care how gorgeous you are, if you’re a *****– Goodbye.
9. Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!..uh…nevermind.." would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking. And he’ll assume he did something wrong and he’ll obsess about it trying to figure it out.
10. Girls are guys’ weaknesses.
11. Guys are very open about themselves.
12. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don’t need to give advice.
13. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.
14. Guys love you more than you love them.
15. Guys use words like hot or cute to describe girls. They rarely use beautiful or gorgeous. If a guy uses that, he loves you or likes you a whole hell of a lot.
16. No matter how much guys talk about asses and boobs, personality is key.
17. Guys worry about the thin line between being compassionate and being whipped.
18. Guys think WAY too much. One small thing a girl does, even if she doesn’t notice it can make the guy think about it for hours, trying to figure out what it meant.
19. If the guy does something stupid in front of the girl, he will think about it for the next couple days or until the next time he spends time with the girl.
20. If a guy looks unusually calm and laid back, he’s probably faking it and is spazzing inside.
21. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl, he really is. Guys rarely say that.
22. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he’s just actually saying, "Please come and listen to me."
23. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him. It doesn’t happen that often, so when it does, you know something’s up.
24. When a guy tells you that you are beautiful, don’t say you aren’t. It makes them want to stop telling you because they don’t want you to disagree with them.
25. When a guy looks at you for longer than a second, he’s definitely thinking something.
26. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.
27. Don’t be a snob. Guys can be intimidated and give up easily.
28. Guys talk about girls more than girls talk about guys.
29. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions and are MAD confusing but somehow are drawn even more to them.
30. A guy would give his right nut to be able to read a girl’s mind for a day.
31. No guy can handle all his problems on his own. He’s just too stubborn to admit it.
32. Not all guys are assholes. Just because ONE is a jackass doesnt mean he represents ALL of them.
33. They love it when girls talk about their boobs.
34. When a guy hits your butt it means that he wants you sexually
35. Even if they refuse it all guys are ticklish on the ribs.
36. Guys love neck rubs and if he lets you keep doing it ..it means that he really likes you or his neck really hurts.
37. When a guy sacrifices his sleep and health just to be with you, he really likes you and wants to be with you as much as possible.
38. Even if you dump a guy months ago and he loved you he probably still does and if he had one wish it would be you to come back into his life.
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I’m an 18 year old guy. Here’s the story…
During most of my young childhood, I had a wonderful, loving relationship with my mom. But then it seemed, over a fairly short amount of time, that we had grown extremely far apart. My parents had a trouble marriage. At one point my mom cheated on my dad and it got to the point that they were fighting and screaming at each other every night. Then when I was about 13 years old, my mom had a near death experience with a ruptured appendix. She said that God saved her. After that, she became extremely religious and changed in many ways from her old self. For example, she used to tell me there is nothing wrong with homosexuality, but now she says that homosexuals are an abomination. By that time, my mom had quit her job and instead got up every morning and read the bible. She went to a some kind of class, like a life-coach therapeutic class. Then she said that she started to remember things from her childhood, like her dad molesting her as a girl. I’ve talked to my uncles and my grandmother about it and they said that all they remember is that my grandfather did check to see if her "cherry was broken." She then got angry with every single person in her family and cut all ties with them, even though they seemed close. Finally my parents said that they were getting a divorce. But, my mom wanted custody of me and my brother. It was a lengthy, dreadful, and expensive divorce. What pushed me over the edge was when me and my mom got into a horrible fight. We were yelling at each other and she kept getting in my face and screaming at me because I said she was acting crazy. Then she said that maybe it’s me that’s crazy and just snapped and lost all control. I picked up a picture frame and slammed it down on a chair. Then I went into her room and destroyed everything I could find. She called the police, and they arrested me because a tiny shard of glass cut my mom’s leg from the picture frame. I was 15 years old. After that, we just stopped talking. She kept saying it was my fault that I went to jail. She wasn’t completely cold however. She would cry because I wouldn’t call her. But I just couldn’t take the hurt that she brought anymore. My dad got custody of me and all charges of domestic violence was dropped. I made a few attempts to see her, but she would talked about is how wonderful God and Jesus are. Now we don’t talk. I called her on Christmas but she didn’t answer. She lives a mile away from me, and it’s so sad. I don’t cry anymore and I have more or less moved on, but it just kills me because it almost feels like my mother is dead.
I’m sorry I ranted, but this is also just helping me get it off my chest. Do you think I am being a horrible son for not talking to her? What should I do?
I really need to know how to get my ex back now!
Me and my now ex boyfriend were madly in love you couldn’t separate us. yeah we had our problems but we managed to sort them out. thursday night we had a huge argument because he thinks ive got another boyfriend on the go and i said something i regretted on face book.
And before i had chance to delete it he read it. i apologized straight after but hes having non of it. we spoke friday during the day and we were perfectly fine and we both said sorry and it seemed we were sorting things out perfectly okay. then saturday night came and he started being weird with me. he was meant to come down tonight so we could sort things out so i text him after he finished work saying im leaving to meet you soon and his mate rang me off his phone and said he says it over now leave him alone.
All i want too do is sort it out with him i hate it.. this happened before a few months back we Split up for 3 weeks and in that time he was getting close to another girl.. im terrified of that happen again i love him so much and don’t want his stubbornness to come between us any more. can u help on any good ways to get him back.
NO SARCASTIC ways please…
I said DID and who ever refured me to a “tramp” grow upp
…Just answer me this.
Why is it that a large portion of straight girls looooove gay men, but then when it comes to lesbians, they’ll freak and begin to flatter themselves by saying, "What if she likes meeee?" Why are we seen as such threats?
And the same goes to straight men who freak out at gay men, though they seem to engage in a more physically violent or outward way, or even keep the "psst, psst, he likes me" talk to themselves.
Because, GOD FORBID a disgusting dyke chick find you attractive or admire you, and you feel the threatened need to shut them out of your life no matter what sort of pleasant experience you’ve had previously, and add to the gossip circle when one hasn’t even given you a second chance.
I can’t even talk to a straight girl without her snickering to another girl or starting sh*t about how she’s uncomfortable or feels that I’ve been checking her out, simply because I’d like to get closer or talk, or become friends. Since when can’t one talk to another without suspectability of attraction, if that?
I’ve never in my life met a straight girl that’s actually cool with bisexual girls or lesbians and doesn’t find them "creepy" or scare-mongers herself into thinking she’s somehow universally attractive to every chick with short hair and who likes to play sports. I know that the supportive straight chicks DO exist, but most of the time, they’ll go on a half-a$$ scale and only talk to gay men. And there are a very few that DO support bis and les chicks, but would someone on Yahoo! Answers please tell me; WHERE IN HELL ARE THEY ? 
-END RANT.- *sigh*
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I’m in an incredibly bad mood due to yet another failed attempt/ruined friendship upon a straight girl finding out that I’m gay, when I’ve held less than ten conversations with her, tops. Potential acquaintance rate is now down to zilch once again. These past 3 years have just not been my years, eh? (:
So, my real 2 questions here that I would like to ask you:
1. How do I advert stupid girls thinking I like them when I do not? And even if I happened to fancy them, how can I avoid being "outed" when I’ve displayed completely mellow behavior, only to be released by my sexuality?
2. How can I possibly engage myself, as a semi-open lesbian, into "normal" female activities (such as changing for gym class, participating in class plays that involve male-female romance, etc.) without experiencing said awkwardness or facing constant confrontation?
When will my reign of shame end?!
(inb4 "Why do you only try to make friends with straight girls?". Because trust me, I don’t.)
And if you want to know why I’m so upset at the moment: because a female acquaintance told me that she "could never be friends with" a gay girl because there was [REPORTEDLY] "always" a "chance" that the girl would "like her", and that "our friendship just wouldn’t work that way". And YES, this was in reference and response to ME, since a family member who goes to the same school made a certain commentary that outed me to her.
WOAH, I just realized how much I wrote. That was WAY more than 2-3 questions.
SORRY, GUYS.
Even if you use the "get your ex back formula’ could it help get her back?
Ok to add more we broke up 5 weeks ago and during the last part of the relationship she started the relationship with the girl. This is the second time she done this and the first she came back. I have other questions regarding this question im asking the have more detail.
Can I get him back, or is it just pointless.
How can I get over him??
Please help me..?
Me and my ex went out for almost a year. and we broke up about a month and a half ago. we had a great relationship of course we had our fights but we would always make up and get along great. I was so in love with him. i had never loved anyone as much as i loved him, not even my parents.
About 2 weeks before our relationship completely ended he randomly said that he needed a break because he hated how he never saw me and that its “killing him” he said we would take a break for 3 days. but the next day he texted me and was liek i can’t wait any longer. im sorry, lets try to make this work one more time. and so we did. but 2 or 3 times within the 2 weeks he would pretty much break up with me but we would talk it out. he blew me off twice within 3 days. and then at the end of the 2 weeks he just ended it. all he said was that it wasn’t working. and that the magic was gone. and that he still wanted to be friends.
Its been a month and a half we talk occasionally. but early last week we were talking for a couple days. which is abnornmal because before that we would just text to see how eachother were then stop. and this time we were actually talking and having full conversations for about 2 or 3 days. and then we just stopped but a couple days later i was just tired of hearing all these things he was saying about me so i finally just asked him straight up. and we talked everything out. it turns out none of it was true. but i heard that he was going to go out with this one girl that i had mat a couple times before. and i asked him and he never gave me a straight answer and finally he just said that he liked someone else. but of course he wouldn’t tell me who it was.
Then i asked him if he was over me. and he said idk. i asked him what he meant. and he said well i miss you but i dont want to go back out. then i asked if he would ever want to go back out, and he said well honestly i dont think so. after that he stopped texting me and i stopped texting him. i deleted his numbers from my phone and i deleted him from my facebook. i was so angry and i didnt really have a reason to be. but i woke up this morning and i just burst out into tears and i’ve been crying all day.
I really really really really miss him. like its so hard to not be talking to him anymore. but i really want to be over him at the same time. but then again all i do is want him back.
is there anyway to get him back?? or is it just hopeless.. and if there pretty much is no way to get him back how can i get over him..
I’ve tried everything but it doesnt seem to be working.
If your a guy and you were in his position would you take me back
If your a girl share some experiences, any advice that would help.
Pleasee just help me in some way
Thank you so much*
ok. my ex and i started dating in January of "09". we just broke up in February of 2010. we had spent every day together. that is until i went away to college. i was only 17 when i got with him. he was my first love and my FIRST. we became extremely close with each others family and friends. i even fell in love with his 5 year old son. YES he has a kid. him and his baby momma broke up when his son was 3. after i went away to school the relationship became strained. about a month ago i found out that he had cheated on me with her. i broke up with him even though he tried to convince me that it will never happen again. since i would not give him another chance, i guess he decided to make things work with her. i go home for spring break in a couple of days and i have made it my goal to get him back. i need ANY advice on how to rekindle my old flame.
PLEASE: no bullsh*t about how i can do better or he will cheat again or i shouldnt come between them. these are all things i have thought deeply about and i realized that he is who i want to be with!
ok for all you negitve nancy’s thanks for the abuse. but to let you all know, she KNEW him and i were together and she is a horrible mother. she has 3 kids 3 different daddys. i can HONESTLY say that i spent more time with their son then her. he called me crying last week asking me why i dont play with him anymore.
I’m calling it "Destiny’s Dance". I’m not sure how relevant it is though. Its about this woman Bronte Ronriquez. She moves to Sacramento so that she can teach at sacramento state. her sister who is always trying to set her up lives there and keeps trying to take her out and introduce her to people. But she is really interested in the next door neighbor. She doesn’t say anything because her sister and he seem to hit it off before she has a chance to take a second glance. Her sister is works as a stripper in a club named Magic City. She has a stalker that has been following her for a while. Because she makes good money she has twenty four hour watch on her apartment and he can never get close enough to even look in the window. Anyway he follows her to her sisters house one day and her sister isn’t home she is somewhere around obviously but not there. He comes in does the regular pic the lock blah blah and rapes and kills her. Her sister finds her the neighbor comforts her and what now?
so im pretty sure he thinks i like him. or he knows. but i really don’t. i just don’t want to bring up the subject w/ him so i don’t say anything… he still says hi like normal. still talk to meh… but he has a girlfriend. so that’s why it’s so awkward. we used to be really close, we talked a lot everyday… now, the longest conversation we have is "hey, watsup?" and those things…
how can i get it back to the way it was before?
My boyfriend of two years goes through these cycles where he just needs his alone time I guess. Actually I usually end up taking it personally, thinking something is wrong with the relationship, when actually it has nothing to do with us.
I’m just wondering, when you get to the point of needing your "alone time" because your stressed or whatever, do you not realize that you’re hurting the one your with by being distant and not calling? Or do you just not care? And when you go over it, why do you act like nothing ever happened and go back to your lovable self again?
I don’t get it.
I used to be happy all of the time and loved to eat. A lot of things have changed recently. I’m not getting along with my family, I’m losing confidence in myself, and every little task makes me feel depressed.
I just want to wake up and feel young, beautiful, intelligent, and look forward to seeing some cute guy and flirting with him. Or maybe just that old feeling of "this is a new day!". I’m only 21. Why is life so sad now?
Three schools of witchcraft and wizardry built by darius kaiser and the most famous is the darkville castle.He started spreading the dangerous kind of magic called black magic,in this case many tragedy happened.Many people got ill,became crazy and died because the darkvillians(the students study at the darkville)use hexes and jinx.They believe that when they use black magic and turture people they will become more powerful and claim immortal life.
saturday night darius announce at the stadium of the castle,
"students of the darkville!!I congratulates you in your great ability in using black magic!Keep up the good work and all of us will be well known as great dark wizard and witches."
the students clapped and after that darius ordered his servant to gave him a sword.
"i will call the names of the best students!Oscar rasmus,natalia marmaduke,leonard jethro and rex nigel.Please come in front."
"you’ll pay for your fault."
Darius shouted, he rapidly CUT the head of four, "drip!! drip..drip..” the blood splattered at his face dripping down in his black robe.
"all of them are good! good against my law therefore when i know that use other kind of magic except black magic more than there i can do, not only the head but the whole body and i’ll make into pieces.” Darius said angrily at the students. His servant gave him a calming potion. All students petrified!!! their eyes and ears seemed to big because of what they heard and saw.
‘’student! go now to your respective rooms.”
Alwin augustus said. He is one of school prefect of the castle.
Hezekiah Demetrius one of the student scared because he also using other magic but he make it secret, he decided to escape in his school. He put his all things especially his wand in his bag and he goes out but he seen by a school prefect, the school prefect hurry after him to lock the gate, "totalis invisibilus" Hezekiah cast an invisibility spell so he can drag the school prefect away from the gate without seing. He kicked, punched and smashed the school prefect and ran away.
the school prefect back inside back inside castle and he informed Darius that one man escaped at the gate. Darius warm him that if the event will be kicked out.
Hezekiah run,run and run until he reached one of the village called hortesia (one of the target of the darkvillians). He knocked one of the houses. "Lady can i sleep in your house in this night?” The lady trembled when she saw Hezekiah’s clothes, she suddenly shout and ask help in her neighbor,
"help me, the darkvillians attacking again!"
the people went were the shout from, they have a knives in thier hands,"go away devil dont disturb us! we are sufferingo illnesses because of you! You must be killed!!" one of the villager said. hezekiah dont know what to do,
"ahh…no!no! you dont understand! I escape from darkville because i knew that all the village near the castle suffered death so i told my mind to help all of you! Can you help me too?"
"what kind of help." the old woman asked.
"my intention here is to build a castle so people can study magic and we can fight against darkville."people agree in his plan. they started working from the first shine of sunlight. they easily finished the wall by the help of hezekiah’s magic, small piece of time they destine in thier rest to finish the castle fastly as soon as posible.
"im sure we will wait for 2 years until it finish but if the people had a magic like yours maybe 5 months the castle will finish."tom winston said at hezekiah,
"tell the villagers that we will have a meeting tonight. I will teach them how to use magic."
the night comes, the people wait, after a while hezekiah arrived,"good night to all of you before we start please wear this dragon talisman in your neck. This talisman worn by some people belongs to non-magic family to improve the energy of magic in thier body until it goes out. Magic has four elements, wind, fire, water and dark.
after they worn the talisman,
"close your eyes now, open your palms, imagine that the warmth your body going through your palm."
all of them surprised!! thier hands are flaming, little whirl wind in the others, some of them have flow of waters in thier hands. hezekiah wondered why tyron adolphus hiding his hand, hezekiah went to him,
”tyron! Can i see your hand?"
tyron shaking because he scare to reveal his hand, his face is full of sweat and he cant speak.
"i said can i see your hand?dont worry"
but Tyron did not so hezekiah grab his hand. All of them surprised when they saw tyron’s hand , wrinkled, long nails, and it has dark skin.
"your mother and father is a dark magician also?"
Hezekiah questioned.
"ahh…i remember that both of them have the same power as the darkvillians have."
I was thinking about this today after a discussion with an ex about her sexual fantasies with me. Now as a whole, women are thought to be the more private and the less sexual ones in relationships….mostly because it’s true. However, women do have sex drives, and to me at least…it seems like women have more sexual fantasies than men do. Is it due to sexual repression? Repression of your fantasy due to societal norms or taboos?
For example, here are common sexual fantasies I hear from most women:
1: Rape sex-This varies from woman to woman, but it all involves them being submissive to a dominant male. Some women fight through the sex for more excitement, while others are completely submissive and just take it from a dominant male. For starters, I hope you women clearly indicate to your partner how "hard" you want your rape sex because it could be just a male dominated sexual experience or he might actually sneak up on you somewhere and start beating the hell out of you and almost "raping" you. I just thought I would throw that in for an FYI. What is it with women liking this "rape sex" though? Is it just because you feel and try to act as a "pure" woman all the time, yet you fantasy about being just slaughtered roughly by some guy or what’s the deal?
2: Group sex-I’m just going to mention 2 girls, 1 guy because I am homophobic and I would never get with another dude in this scenario, but obviously a lot of women fantasy about either of those situations. For women, what is it about being with another woman or man that you find fantisizing? And don’t tell me it’s "skanky" or "dirty", because I hear this one from a lot of down to earth girls that don’t do it, but WANT to do it…..as I’ll discuss later below.
3: Work/Public/Elevator sex-Pretty straight forward. Women fantasize about having sex in the confines of their workplace and enjoy doing the deed in an environment where it is very taboo. Similar situation with elevators although I think it’s rather just a kinky "I want to try that" maneuver. I’ve heard weird and kinky things about Public sex. Some people just want to do it in a condo with a big window so some people can see them, but I’ve heard a few women…including an ex…tell me that they would have loved it if I would have had sex with them in the middle of Central Park in NYC for everybody to see…because she WANTED them to see. But why?…is it an underlying female ego thing where you just let everybody know that "This is my man, not yours" type of deal or what’s the deal there?
These are the top 3 that I hear from females…I know there are more. Now for the meat of what I am getting at with all of this. Why don’t you women ever tell your partners about your kinky fantasies that YOU WANT to have done to you or you want to do to them? Do you feel as if you are too innocent or you may be frowned upon as a woman because of these "secrets"? I’m asking because in all 3 of those situations up there, I would do them all in a heartbeat as a guy. You need to understand that men like sex more than you. If you opened up and described these fantasies, then in more cases than none, the guy would enthusiastically give you a "HELL YEA!!!" back with your enthusiasm. I mean guys are different on some things….for example myself…. I would never do 2 guys, 1 girl and probably never have public sex in Central Park…..although I think a good woman could probably seduce me into doing even that haha. Sure, most guys fantasy is to have 2 women all to theirselves(I’m not as keen as others, but love it nonetheless), but it’s not like your female creativity isn’t stimulating as well. For example, if you were my GF and just straight up came out and told me you had a rape fantasy, I would be totally infatuated with it and love to carry that out. I mean c’mon….you are basically asking your partner to cut loose sexually and have rough sex with you….and you think he might turn that down or not like it?…..c’mon now….I think just about every guy on the planet would take up that offer in a heartbeat. That fantasy would become personally mine as well as yours and I would love to sneak up on you and just throw you against something and go as hard as possible no restrictions applying.
As far as the threesome deal, that’s most guys fantasy anyways….so I feel that needs no real explanation.
Work sex is no issue. If you told me about a work fantasy by having sex in a break room or under your desk, I’d be more than willing to give it a try as a guy. Same goes for elevator sex…that’s simple and easy. You tell me, we do it. Public scenarios are bit odd for me personally, but a lot of guys would love to complete some of those fantasies as well if that is your fantasy. Something like sex on a beach of people would be perfectly fine by me, so why are you holding back?
Don’t even begin to think of me as a perv for asking these questions. These are fantasies that I
How Do I Get My Ex Boyfriend Back?
My ex boyfriend and i dated for 10 months and we’ve been broken up for around 5 months now. I miss him so much and him and I are still good friends.
I dated another guy after him but dumped him after 3 weeks cuz he just wasnt like my ex boyfriend. and now he says he might like another girl but he tells me that he doesnt really care if he gets her or not. In fact, he doesnt want any serious relationships anymore and he just wants to have fun.
So how do i get him to like me and want me back? Is there any way i can make him regret leaving me? Apparently we broke up cuz “he needed his space and missed spending time with the guys”. So what can I do?
He’s still attracted to me and he always tells me that he wishes he could kiss me and sometimes i let him and i know i shouldnt =(
An ex who had previously broken my heart completely (basically ditched me for he ex) has been recently trying to contact me. I saw on Facebook that she recently changed her status to single.
I am in a really good place in my life, in a relationship with somebody i really like, good career and friend-wise, that I initially entertained her contacting me and we basically just talked about our lives. Recently she texted me that she "really needed to talk to me" (we had a purely online/text convos before this, she lives far enough away that I wouldn’t accidentally run into her). I told her she could call me if she really needed to talk and she said "good I really need to hear your voice". I am 90% sure that she will want to get back together or something along those lines, maybe just ‘meet up’. I absolutely do not want this, I still harbor bad feelings towards her, and I haven’t even been telling my gf that I have been talking to her, which makes me feel pretty bad (but I knew my gf would overreact and I thought we would just stop talking after a few weeks of catching up).
Anyway, a part of me wants to be really mean to her. Like sort of rub my happiness in her face and really let her feel how her letting me go was a big mistake and all that and finish it by telling her not to talk to me anymore because I am really happy with my gf and it’s kind of pathetic that she is reaching out to me.
The non-vengeful part of me just wants to tell her that I am really happy right now and it’s disrespectful to my gf to keep talking to her.
Or maybe some middle ground where I rub it in her face a little, but then politely tell her I am with my gf now and don’t want to be unfair to her.
This girl really f*cked me over, and I know revenge isn’t going to solve anything but I can guarantee it will make my pride feel better
So this is kinda a long story. Go to the bottom for a synopsis/shorter version if you don’t have the time. I met this girl a couple months ago, from one of my good friends who had just met her as well. We really hit it off because we had so much in common and she lives just down the hall in my apartment. And over the span of a month, we were constantly with each other along with msging/text/calls/etc. At that point, I asked her out on a real date and she said yeah. I ended up taking her to the aquarium which was awesome, and that night held her hand watching a movie. A couple dates later, and one night we got kinda intimate, nothing crazy but still…I asked her if she was looking for a relationship and she said, umm not right at this moment, but maybe sometime soon. Anyways, since that night, for the next couple weeks, things felt a little different, definitely changed from the first month, maybe because things went from harmless to questionable. Still I cared about this girl, and we had already expressed mutual feelings so I went ahead and basically cheesed out a "do you want to be together/be my girlfriend" line. I haven’t had a relationship in college yet, so I’m kinda new at this but she said yes. A couple days later, at dinner, she basically reneged on it, saying she just wasn’t ready and didn’t want to commit 98% to something that should be 100%. And I took it, said it was ok, and I could wait, so we were "dating". Well I could tell something was still off, because she stopped contacting me much over the thanksgiving break, and she seemed to always be busy when I wanted to hang out. So I had another talk with her, and she kinda changed her views again, saying shes not ready, family issues and she doesnt want to be exclusive in that she would only hang out with one person. She had an awful first relationship that ended a few months ago, and for now, she just needs a friend because she’s not sure when she’s ready to get into that again. She also wants to stop the intimate stuff, like holding hands and kissing, because that should be reserved for a relationship (This is a conservative girl). Things moved too fast, and maybe we should take a step backward, get to know each other better. And she added that we could definitely go somewhere, assured me there was no one else (she has a lot of guy friends), and she didn’t want to confirm anything now because it might lead me on and be unfair that I’d have to do most of the work now.
I don’t think this is one of those, "I just want to be friends" kind of thing because she initiated several things that happened. I really do think its a timing problem, maybe I’m wrong. We’re still going on dates and stuff.
I’ve screwed up a lot in this whole thing lol, from being too much of that nice guy who offers to do a lotta stuff to moving too fast and getting too emotionally attached for someone who’s not that type but I do feel like things could still work out.
She said like 5 times she wasn’t "playing the field", so I honestly don’t think it’s someone else, even if she hangs out with a lotta dudes. I hate part of it though, cause you care about someone and you don’t know how they feel back (shes a gamer chick too lol, works at Gamestop) and you try to read what’s going on but that only results in more uncertainty, doubt, and denial…and I’m mostly a confident guy, just at times during this whole thing, I’ve felt kinda insecure, she doesn’t like revealing too much – definitely guarded. She’s told me that her last relationship, she had to do all the work, basically ditch her friends to meet the demands of the guy. And she doesn’t want that right now, even if I tell her I’m not like that. She just wants some time to herself and to do what she wants and if she made that commitment, it might turn out unfair given that I’d prob have to do most of the work at least early on. Well in the past week or so, I’ve made a big effort to try and help with rides/anything she needs/asking to hang out, but she’s mostly come up with excuses, legit or not. And I know I’ve been pushing (me doing all the initiating), it’s just hard not to think about, and I’m overwhelmed with regrets about stupid things I’ve done and said in this whole thing.
Sorry that’s like a damn novel lol.
Basically, I’ve been way too overbearing the last couple of weeks with this girl that I’ve been going on dates with. And the reason why is because we basically became "official" or whatever for a couple days before she said she wasn’t quite ready to be exclusive (only hanging with one person). I’ve made an effort to work on it, and just be there for her but I know I’ve been calling/asking too much. Should I just give up? At this point, I’ve messed up a lot and maybe some things are irreversible. Or is there still a chance this could work out, and if so, what steps should I take? Idk, I’ve either pushed too much and she feels pressured or if we got to a certain place on the brink of a relationship, then certai
*certainly we can get there again
