My ex boyfriend and I were together for 4 years and had decided to get married. However, things with his life got so busy – he was in college full time, starting two businesses, and holding a part-time job on the side. He was never around, and would be home maybe a few hours at night to sleep. He’d promise to spend time with me, go to dinner, etc and it wouldn’t happen.
I on the other hand, had just graduated college and felt like my life was turned upside down. I couldn’t find a good job and i’d been offered an opportunity to move abroad and work, travel, and become fluent in my second language. I finally couldn’t take feeling torn anymore and made a rash decision, leaving my boyfriend, even though I loved him so much, to focus on me and do what I wanted to do.
I was an idiot and got into a 5-monthish rebound relationship while abroad. The guy was wrong for me and I didn’t feel all that strongly about him, so I broke it off. I also never stopped loving my ex, I was dreaming about him, and everything – my new boyfriend, my job, my life – just made it all the more clear that I wasn’t happy and I wanted to be back. I came back home two weeks ago and have sene my ex a few times since then. The first night he was flirty, touching me a bit, talking to me a lot, but since then he doesn’t talk to me much. A mutual friend told me my ex is really upset that I dated someone else while we were apart.
I would do anything to be back with this man because he is the love of my life, and once you’ve been in a relationship with someone that makes you so happy, nothing else can compare. I’m willing to put in the work, make the sacrifices, do whatever is necessary to make it work and show him I’m serious about my feelings for him. But I don’t know how to show him this when he won’t talk to me! What do I do?
