This will be long. I have requested that hubby’s 1st ex wife NOT call my home due to her trouble making ways. I have been asking his ex-wife this for at least 1 year. So finally I was PISSED after she called yet again 6 days ago and then 3 days ago. So I sent her a certified letter adding the post office certification number to both pages of the letter and made copies for my own records as well as paid for receipt requested. Well the letter was received to day and his ex-wife called yet again and as soon as I answered the phone she said "Mary, thank you for the letter, I needed something to wipe my @ss with" and hung up quickly. I am at my wits end with this woman. I have called the phone company and found out what I need to do to put a stop to it but it can be a lengthy process. I can’t exactly block her number because both of hubby’s ADULT daughters live with their mom and I do want the girls to always be able to have contact with their dad. I have seriously considered changing the phone number but again, I want hubby’s daughters to always be able to call their dad if they need to. I need some creative suggestions to get this woman to stop calling. I am open to ideas. I don’t want any conflict between hubby & his daughters but I am afraid that will end up happening because the girls don’t think it’s right why their mom can’t call. I will past a copy of the letter I sent the ex-wife.
Just to be able to follow this, Joann & Jenny are the ADULT daughters. Kim is their mom, the one that refuses to stop calling and Julie is hubby’s second ex-wife that he had no children with that also called my home on 9-15-08 and I can only suspect she was given the number by ex-wife #1 (Kim) because the 2 do talk from my understanding.
Heres the letter-
Sunday September 21st., 2008
Kim,
I am sending this letter since you and I can not see eye to eye and have a civil phone conversation due to your screaming. Did you even notice that I was trying to be civil by using a normal tone of voice? I was not screaming at you one bit when you called tonight until you started your screaming at me first.
Let me start here, I have asked you more than once to NOT call MY home because I am sick of the nonsense you have caused in the past when you have called including when you told Bob that you & Julie had talked and decided that since I killed my last 2 husbands that he (Bob) was next. I heard you say it with my own ears when you were talking to Bob on the phone when you told him that last year. If I would have killed anyone, I would be in prison for life and besides, I can not give a person lung cancer or suicide which is how they died and another thing, I was divorced and remarried to my late husband with a new baby for 26 months when my ex-husband died of lung cancer. Your accusation was wrong, un-called for and simply not acceptable in my life! And yes, my life consists of Bob each and every day & night whether you or anyone else like it or not. And you then accused me of taking Bob away from his daughters and more than once when we moved up north. Let me tell you something about that move. We made a decision to move mainly due to finances because of Bobs slip & fall causing his dislocated shoulder that led to a 2 month medical from work that later led to his layoff the day he went back to work that soon after led to his sub-pay from work being garnished for spousal support for Julie when it was being paid each & every month and always at least 2 weeks early and the garnishment was for more than the spousal support obligation and Julie refused to allow her attorney to file the paperwork to stop the garnishment at that time and of course, we could not afford an attorney to fight it. So we had to make the decision to keep from sinking financially. Move to something less expensive and rent the house out in an attempt to save our finances. I have no reason to keep Bob from his daughters whatsoever. Besides, I am a firm believer that he can’t be a good dad to my kids if he can’t be to his own. Bob has been a good dad, paid his child support and lived nearby while the girls were young. The girls are older and need daddy less as kids tend to do once they grow up besides, it’s not like the girls seen Bob very often anyway when we lived in Garden City and that house was how far from your house? Maybe just under a mile? Then you falsely accused me of not giving Bob his phone messages from his girls. I have never nor would I intercept Bobs calls from his daughters and not give him a message, ever. As a matter of fact, I was on a phone call when Joann called here the day Jenny was flipping out with the knife and I told Joann that I would have her dad call her back and then I proceeded to ask Joann if it was an emergency and she said yes so I ended my call and gave Bob the phone. Oh lets see, what else have you falsely accused
me of? How about that I am with Bob for his money, well that IS a joke in its self. Bob has no money and has debt whereas I am debt free, my income is more than his believe it or not. And how about when you accused me of canceling Bobs medical coverage on Joann when Ford said she was no longer eligible due to not residing in the same home with him? I had no reason to cancel HIS own daughter and besides, the medical coverage did not cost us for him to carry his daughter so why would I have canceled her? And how about when I was blamed again by you because Joann could not get college money from Ford because he was not claiming her on his taxes since you are? Have you even thought about how unjustly I have been accused by you for things I have no control over? But I do have control over whom is welcome to call MY home and your NOT WELCOME!
So for all of the above reasons, I do NOT want you to call MY home EVER again PERIOD! You will have to have Joann or Jason call our house or get a message to Bobs parents for him to call Jenny if she is hospitalized. There is no reason why Jenny can’t call if there was an emergency with Joann and Joann can’t call if there was an emergency with Jenny. The girls are adults now and mommy don’t need to be involved with the relationship Bob has with his girls. The three (Bob & the girls) can manage quite well without you being involved.
Oh, and if the girls need something, they can call their dad themselves NOT you like you did last Thursday (September 19th., 2008 @ 11:09 am) telling Bob that Jenny needs money for the attorney. Jenny already called her dad regarding this issue and then you called about the same issue. Let one thing be known, Bobs money is very tight due to ex-wives that think they are owed something, YOU & Julie. You told Bob during the late summer or early fall of 2006 in the Garden City living room that you would not go after his pension and something could be worked out and what did you do? Go after it like you said you would not which made me realize that your word was worthless. I heard you tell Bob this as well. So what it boils down to, Bob has no money to help pay for an attorney as much as he would like to help his daughters when they need help financially.
He’s on a pension now that is severely reduced due to ex-wives and bills have to be paid which leaves him very little money. And do you know how bad this will make Bob feel when his daughters birthdays & Christmas comes to not be able to give like he is used to giving to them?
Ya know Kim, things did not have to be this way and it’s 100% your fault things are the way they are because of your mouth running as fast as a ducks ass. I actually liked you when I first met you, I really did but you soon showed your true colors which changed my mind in an instant and I don’t budge very easily so the way it is now is the way it will be forever most likely.
To summarize my letter, you were wrong for your accusations and never even attempted to rectify your wrongs and you were wrong for attacking Bobs pension like you said you would not do proving your word to be completely worthless which makes you a worthless person in my eyes and I don’t keep worthless people in my life so I repeat one last time, I do NOT want you to call MY home under ANY circumstances. The phone is in my name and I pay the bill and I will not hesitate to change the number and NO ONE will get it if you call one more time and I do NOT appreciate you giving Julie the number either!
Bobs daughters are welcome to visit our home anytime they like and to call anytime they need or want to talk with their dad. That has NEVER nor will ever be an issue.
PS~
I heard you call me a psycho bitch when you were talking to Bob earlier today, takes one to know one! 
Hubby HAS told this woman (actually both ex-wives) NOT to call many times and I have heard him do so.
Youngest daughter has a cell phone, oldest daughter does not. We live in a rural area where cell phones don’t work 90% of the time and we have a metal roof that stops the cell phone signal anyway, so hubby having a cell for the girls to call him on is not an option. Hubby actually does have a prepaid cell for if he’s away from home and needs a phone but like I said earlier, cells do not work in our corner or the rural world. We are surrounded by Amish folks, not cell towers.
Ex-wife #1 calls from her cell, her home number & her work number at the American Legion. I should maybe call the Legion and let them know she’s using their phone to make harassing calls huh?
By the way, hubby is 49, I am 38 and his first ex-wife is believe it or not, like 52 and acting like a 12 year old. It’s really time for her to grow the heck up!
I honestly feel for whatever reason, the ex is jealous that hubby & I are happy & get along well and because I have minor sons ages 10 & almost 8 that hubby is helping to raise since their fathers have passed away and he’s the closest thing they have to a dad. Though, I promise, I have NEVER tried to come in between his daughters & him because I truly am a firm believer that he can’t be a good daddy to mine if he can’t be to his own flesh and blood.
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