I recently had major surgery on my liver. It’s taken a huge toll on me as i’m dependent on others during my recovery time. After a 8 day stay at the hospital i’m finally home and having to rely on others to for daily activities (bathing, eating, etc.) as i’m still very weak thanks to a 14" incision on my abdomen. As you can imagine it’s taken a toll on me having to rely on others. Well Saturday night my boyfriend who has been very supportative and helpful during this difficult time of my life told me he was going to go out for a couple of hours. I asked him how could he leave me like this – I was bored I too wanted to get out. He told me he just wanted to go with the guys for a bit and that he has been by my side for anything i’ve needed since my surgery 2 weeks ago. After he told me he was going to go out I became enranged and lost it. I told him to do whatever he wanted to do and to leave. I kept telling him to leave to go out and do whatever he wanted to do. I kept repeating to him leave, leave, leave, go out, have fun. I never in my life felt so angry – i didn’t allow him to take anything he left with his car, mobile, and the clothes on his back – thats it. He didn’t come back home. It’s now Tuesday and he still hasn’t returned. I’ve sent him texts to apologize and called his phone he is not accepting my calls. I’m worried. This along with my recovery is making it extra difficult. Having this surgery has made me very irratable and frustrated as i’m stuck at home during recovery. We were both very active before 2 weeks – always doing something together. Since I had all of my frustration bottled up about my situation and he was in front of me he was the person I took it out on. I didn’t mean to. I don’t want to lose him. We have been together for a little more than a year and he;s a great person. I just go jealous that he could go out and I couldn’t. I’m worried I want him to come home. All of his stuff is here eventually he has to. When i told him to leave it wasn’t a leave this house forever i don’t want to be with you – it was a leave this house right now I can’t stand to look at you right now. I was just really angry. I thought he would go out and return but as i said I have not heard a thing from him. I don’t want to lose him. He;s the love of my life I need him more than anything now. I just think he took it the wrong way as I don’t want him to live here anymore – which is totally false. Any advise?
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Ok So around 3 weeks ago my girlfriend broke up with me…I love her… We dated for around a year and 2 weeks. Now the reason that she told me was that she didnt have those feelings for me anymore..Now I believe that those feelings just dont dissappear considered that within 20 days she went from I love you =D to I dont think we can be together anymore after a year relationship. One of my friends talked to her about it and she said that at first She broke up with me and I was sad, which I was, and then she said that I became a bit obsessive and I wouldnt back off and I guess thats is prob. true…but when you love someone, you go crazy! Now we are at the point of me needing to figure out how to get her to fall in love with me again…but after last night i believe it will need some recovery time, over this past weekend I guess I scared her a bit and I tried telling her how I felt n stuff and she was like if you dont stop ill get a restraining order…now I know she doesnt mean it but that does tie into play somewhat because Im sure she needs some space now…I thought about not talking to her for a week and saying "Hey 
" text obviously, and if I get a response good, if not boo…one friend said wait until she text me, but thats only if she does… Anyway.. I have come to the yahoo community for some advice!
1. What should I do about giving her her space…wait until she text me? Try and text her? what do I do?
2. Whats the best way to try and have her fall in love with me again…someone said invite her on just a little date..someone said have an event that you know she likes, for example a party or something
3. Once we get talking again, do I take it slow? treat her like a gf or just try to leave it at friends, I dont really know how to treat her like a friend because we were only friends for a week before we started dating.
Anyway all please help and post your advice!
No negative stuff please!
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We’ve been together for 5 years. We had planned our whole life! Businesses we wanted to own, houses, family, everything great about a good relationship.
About 2 years ago, a major life changing event took place in my life. It put me in a very dark place for a very long time, but the whole time she stood beside me and helped me. She is the strongest person I know!
During the recovery time of my darkness, I messed up. I took her for granted and used her. I didn’t show her how much she meant to me, I didn’t show her how much I cared about her and I didn’t show her my love for her. I used her as a drug to escape my demons. I thought that she would never leave.
Last month, she broke up with me. She said it was because I didn’t show her how much I cared and because I didn’t show commitment. (We had a wedding planned and even knew which rings, but I didn’t buy the rings. I was stupid!)
So with all that said, how can I fix this? You all have to understand too, she is literally all I have! I have no family. Her and her family became my family over time. I even lived with her and her parents for a couple years during my darkness.
She told me lately that she doesn’t want to get back with me at all and she’s still hurt and upset with what I did.
My biggest mistake now is I keep emailing her and worrying about her. She is my world and I can’t take it without her.
Please help me, I love her so much and miss her!
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