Would you, let your spouse fulfill "past regrets" in life to save your marriage?
Pasted regrets is what you spouse wanted to do or wanted to have done before marriage, but was unable or never had the opportunity to do it at the time; but your spouse is trying to see past the regrets by talking openly about them, telling about all the desires wanted to do in life, but also feels a little cheated in life because your spouse believe’s that they got married a little to soon. Now there is no regrets about the marriage, just regrets that your spouse never had a chance to do the things or wanted to do the things in life before it’s late & will get to old & die. With that thought in mind, (even though trying to move past it) it is starting to affect the marriage.
Would you, let your spouse fulfill their past regrets,(too personal to list here) or even help your spouse fulfill those regrets it to save your marriage.
Even though it is something you would never allow, or even considered?
I want my ex back now, is a common refrain and one that is fortunately easily remedied. Most of us have broken up at a time with our partners over something very stupid. Perhaps we have lost our temper and we got into a silly argument, and now regrets it. Fortunately, these types of breakups are easy to correct.
But maybe you have broken up over something more serious. Maybe one of you was unfaithful or lied to your partner? These are major problems to overcome, but they are not necessarily the end of the road. If both of you are happy to make an effort to reconcile, you can overcome almost any obstacle. You may need some professional help from a third party. This may take the form of relationship advice either as pairs or individually. There are some great books on this subject, which can be very useful to put things in perspective.
First you have to do is arrange a meeting in a public place. If you meet in private, you can let your emotions take over and either end up having a big argument or in bed loves. Of course the other option could be fun, but it will not necessarily solve get your ex back.
Meeting to discuss your relationship is a chance for both of you to air your grievances. This is not a blame game, and if you have the idea that you would make your ex partner to pay for their behavior then do yourself a favor and go away now. What you want is to realize that you two have some issues to work through, but you want the relationship to work and want to give it another go.
In any partnership with a person of the opposite sex takes work and commitment. We are very different in how we think about things and how we communicate. Sometimes we blow issues out of all proportion and either our pride and our mood prevent us from discussing our problems as adults, we behave like children.
If you want your ex back, you must convince them that you have something special and is worth fighting for. Be prepared for some reservations depending on the original justification for breaking up. Do not try to make them take you back by making them jealous or playing other types of games. Game belongs in the schoolyard. Make an effort to look your best. It helps if you use an outfit that you know your partner likes and finds attractive. Wear their favorite fragrance and cologne as well.
Keep the conversation civil and talking about the great times you shared and your dreams for the future. It may take a while and more than a meeting, but in time you can be together again and no longer say I want ex back now!
My ex of a year and a half and I broke up about a month ago. He says he needs to "get his party out" and see other people. This hurt me a lot, because we’ve been through so much together. He STILL calls me every night about how much he regrets leaving me, yet doesn’t act upon it. It’s like he doesn’t want me back but he still wants me there.
I hate it because he doesn’t understand that I will be the one standing there in the end…not any of those other girls or parties. Every day that I am not with him just feels longer and longer, and I hate this.
I thought love conquered the tyranny of all the other petty things of this world. When will he wake up and realize this?
Any advice at all is welcome..I need about any I can get.
Thanks in advance
I recently broke off a pseudo-relationship with a man who was a commitment phobe. What a headache… I put up with it for 2 years thinking he actually meant it when he said he would be better to me and wanted to be with me.
Ironically, as this was happening, a good friend of mine invited me to her church’s softball game. Her husband is on the team, along with a guy I really, really liked in high school. We flirted a lot during those 4 years, and many people, thought he liked me, but I was too shy and initimidated by him. I didn’t think someone like him (the hot jock, lol) would give me the time of day. My high school journal entries with him in it always had regrets like, "i could have talked to him today.." "I had the perfect opportunity to do this.." pretty sad and lame. I think we were 18 the last time we saw eachother- we’re 25 now. Plus, I’ve been begging my friend to invite me somewhere I can see him for the past couple of years, ever since I found out she goes to his church, lol. And no, he’s not married/engaged/taken.
At the game, we made little eye contact, but I didn’t think he would even recognize me since it’s been so long and I was wearing a hat. After the game, he was hanging out with a bunch of guys (I’m standing about 10 ft away), so I wasn’t even gonna try and just walk away. But right then, he looked to his right, directly at me, and started walking towards me with a smile! I call his name and he continues to walk to me with a smile! He gives me a hug, and says he remembers me! We make small talk for a minute or two, but then his mom came up to say hi to him, so he said goodbye, and that it was nice to see me. I said the same back and then heard him greet his mom and talk to her.
Im wondering if I should go to more games and try to get to know him, or write this off and forget about it? I mean, I don’t want to pass up my chance here, if this is supposedly my 2nd chance to get to know him. I almost wish I didn’t go to the game, it brang back so many memories and so many regrets I had in high school concerning him… but maybe this is my chance to make it up?
I stared as you walked into the room
Its all lies…
Each “I love you”
You asked to be just friends
you’d found someone else
left me hanging
put my heart on a shelf
the reasons for love
no one knows
but when i miss you
is shows
I hoped it wasn’t true
i prayed for a second chance
but you didn’t want me…
no room for our romance
I’m sorry I wasn’t good enough
I’m trying so hard to not cry
you hurt me bad
i wont lie
but what i felt most was the fast
goodbye…
Please don’t forget me
i wont forget you
but please no regrets
were living life
through, and through
Who ever she is
i hope she knows she’s lucky
because shes got a great guy
i miss when i would ask “whats up”
and you’d say “the sky”
But its all gone now…
i have to move on
loves not my game
its just another song.
written about a recent break up…. please tell me what u thnk
