I was thinking about this today after a discussion with an ex about her sexual fantasies with me. Now as a whole, women are thought to be the more private and the less sexual ones in relationships….mostly because it’s true. However, women do have sex drives, and to me at least…it seems like women have more sexual fantasies than men do. Is it due to sexual repression? Repression of your fantasy due to societal norms or taboos?
For example, here are common sexual fantasies I hear from most women:
1: Rape sex-This varies from woman to woman, but it all involves them being submissive to a dominant male. Some women fight through the sex for more excitement, while others are completely submissive and just take it from a dominant male. For starters, I hope you women clearly indicate to your partner how "hard" you want your rape sex because it could be just a male dominated sexual experience or he might actually sneak up on you somewhere and start beating the hell out of you and almost "raping" you. I just thought I would throw that in for an FYI. What is it with women liking this "rape sex" though? Is it just because you feel and try to act as a "pure" woman all the time, yet you fantasy about being just slaughtered roughly by some guy or what’s the deal?
2: Group sex-I’m just going to mention 2 girls, 1 guy because I am homophobic and I would never get with another dude in this scenario, but obviously a lot of women fantasy about either of those situations. For women, what is it about being with another woman or man that you find fantisizing? And don’t tell me it’s "skanky" or "dirty", because I hear this one from a lot of down to earth girls that don’t do it, but WANT to do it…..as I’ll discuss later below.
3: Work/Public/Elevator sex-Pretty straight forward. Women fantasize about having sex in the confines of their workplace and enjoy doing the deed in an environment where it is very taboo. Similar situation with elevators although I think it’s rather just a kinky "I want to try that" maneuver. I’ve heard weird and kinky things about Public sex. Some people just want to do it in a condo with a big window so some people can see them, but I’ve heard a few women…including an ex…tell me that they would have loved it if I would have had sex with them in the middle of Central Park in NYC for everybody to see…because she WANTED them to see. But why?…is it an underlying female ego thing where you just let everybody know that "This is my man, not yours" type of deal or what’s the deal there?
These are the top 3 that I hear from females…I know there are more. Now for the meat of what I am getting at with all of this. Why don’t you women ever tell your partners about your kinky fantasies that YOU WANT to have done to you or you want to do to them? Do you feel as if you are too innocent or you may be frowned upon as a woman because of these "secrets"? I’m asking because in all 3 of those situations up there, I would do them all in a heartbeat as a guy. You need to understand that men like sex more than you. If you opened up and described these fantasies, then in more cases than none, the guy would enthusiastically give you a "HELL YEA!!!" back with your enthusiasm. I mean guys are different on some things….for example myself…. I would never do 2 guys, 1 girl and probably never have public sex in Central Park…..although I think a good woman could probably seduce me into doing even that haha. Sure, most guys fantasy is to have 2 women all to theirselves(I’m not as keen as others, but love it nonetheless), but it’s not like your female creativity isn’t stimulating as well. For example, if you were my GF and just straight up came out and told me you had a rape fantasy, I would be totally infatuated with it and love to carry that out. I mean c’mon….you are basically asking your partner to cut loose sexually and have rough sex with you….and you think he might turn that down or not like it?…..c’mon now….I think just about every guy on the planet would take up that offer in a heartbeat. That fantasy would become personally mine as well as yours and I would love to sneak up on you and just throw you against something and go as hard as possible no restrictions applying.
As far as the threesome deal, that’s most guys fantasy anyways….so I feel that needs no real explanation.
Work sex is no issue. If you told me about a work fantasy by having sex in a break room or under your desk, I’d be more than willing to give it a try as a guy. Same goes for elevator sex…that’s simple and easy. You tell me, we do it. Public scenarios are bit odd for me personally, but a lot of guys would love to complete some of those fantasies as well if that is your fantasy. Something like sex on a beach of people would be perfectly fine by me, so why are you holding back?
Don’t even begin to think of me as a perv for asking these questions. These are fantasies that I
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But perhaps I don’t need one. I’m not a masochist, I think I’m just sentimental. I like bringing back old happy memories and it makes me cry. I broke up a few days ago with my fiance, and I could not describe the pain. He has been treating me bad, verbal abuse, sometimes physical, even in public. I always found ways to forgive him since I love him. I did hope that maybe he could change. But I realize that people don’t change. I’m not going to elaborate on how we broke up. The thing is that I finally found the courage to stand up for my dignity and "fight back". He sent me messages on the phone today that he got so used to me and felt good around me, that he misses me. I answered him sarcastically that he could use other girls, but not me. I added that I am no longer his doormat. 
