How often have you heard someone say I lost my spouse? How did you feel when they said that? Perhaps you are saying it yourself? It is relatively easy to lose love. Why? Men and women are very different creatures and often they have problems communicating with each other. Add to that the unrealistic expectations that Hollywood or TV productions nurture via their films and you can see why couples often split as soon as the going gets a little tough.
But the fact is that all relationships even the ones others consider to be successful will go through difficult patches. Ask any couple who have lasted the distance and they will tell you that it isn’t all moonlight and roses. You can be living with someone, married to them even and have kids together yet feel that you hate them with a passion you never knew you had. You don’t really, well most people don’t! Life has just got in the way and over time you two have forgotten that you need to nurture your love much as a plant needs watering to survive.
It is too easy to take someone else for granted and assume that they are happy with the way things are between you. It is also easier to leave things be than to try and deal with any painful issues that may have developed between you. Sometimes there is an embarrassment factor as well. For example it is not uncommon for couples to start to experience sexual difficulties when they have been together for a while. This could be something simple like one partner has a higher sex drive than the other or it could be a medical reason such as the menopause causing problems or the man having difficulties maintaining an erection. Instead of dealing with these issues together, some couples let them come between then until such a time as the communication gap is so wide you believe you have lost love.
Other couples let their job, their kids or their friends take priority over their partners and this can cause anger and resentment. You should never let anyone not even your children come before your partner, at least not on a consistent basis. Kids grow up and leave home, friends come and go but your partner is the one person you want to remain by your side forever. The key is to remind them of this fact on a regular basis.
The good news is that most relationship issues can be sorted out with a little bit of guidance. If you have already split up by the time you read this, don’t despair. It doesn’t mean you have to give up on your ex partner forever. You can get them back if you know the right way to achieve it. So stop thinking I lost love and start thinking about all the ways and means at your disposal to rekindle love and passion.
Ok so im 16 years old about to be 17. I love my dad because he’s my dad but i don’t really like him as a person. I think he is annoying and overall tough to be around. (No this isn’t because I’m a teenager and we all hate our parents).
When i was younger i used to be afraid of him, it’s not like he would beat me, but he was always so critical of me and would yell at me for the most miniscule things, like forgetting to take out the trash and it would always lead to him berating me and telling me that that "he asks so little of me and does so much for me so why can’t i just give him that little in return" (which i guess is fair but it usually came with an absurd overreaction and me usually crying). I used to come home from school and only hope he was working late so that i could be asleep by the time he came home because I was worried that every conversation i had with him would lead to him breaking me down. He knew exactly what to say so that not only could i not respond with any viable rebuttal but so that i felt so crappy about myself that I wanted to leave home (maybe a little dramatic, but the things he said made me think about if everything would be better of if i were dead).
Since then i have slowly grown up with this fear of my father which has gradually evolved into a dislike, resentment, or even hatred. (why would i want to be around someone im afraid of?). The only problem is that he really does love me and would do anything for me. He has always supported me in everything i’ve done and only wants the best for me, but I just can’t stand to be around him because i feel like everything leads to him pointing out something i F*** up on which ALWAYS ends poorly for me. The real issue here lies in the fact that over the past few months he has been introduced to the news that i don’t really like him. We’ve had various conversations about it and they always end in the whole situation seemingly being my fault. He has taken serious steps towards trying to fix my view of him, but It’s just not that simple. However he has made it abundantly clear that he is trying, which i do see, but i’ve essentially done nothing on my part to resolve the issue, mainly because i’m not sure if i want to.
He’s noticed that and taken it as a sign that i don’t want him in my life anymore, that i’m selfish and that all he does is give and all i do is take. I don’t want our relationship to end because I know that would kill both of us and I fear i may have pushed it too far. Please Help! Thoughts? Comments?
He treats me very well and does love me. But, I still have a lot of resentment about things he’s said to me and this has made me feel more disconnected from him. I don’t feel comfortable being myself around him, or sharing anything about myself with him. Sometimes I just run out of things to say to him.
How do you let go of resentments & get back that loving feeling? We just went on vacation and I just felt no connection to him the way I used to…
I feel like I maybe falling out of love with my husband.. We have had to deal w/ so much in the last 9 years and there is some resentment I have towards him that I have tried to get over, but I seem to be unable to release it and am afraid if we keep going down this road it will be the end of our marriage… How do you fall back in love?
How often have you heard someone say I lost my spouse? How did you feel when they said that? Perhaps you are saying it yourself? It is relatively easy to lose love. Why? Men and women are very different creatures and often they have problems communicating with each other. Add to that the unrealistic expectations that Hollywood or TV productions nurture via their films and you can see why couples often split as soon as the going gets a little tough.
