I have been with my wife for almost 13 years and married for almost 2. I currently found out that she has had an affair for the past 6 months with someone she new from her past. The woman she was having an affair with is not gay, and was married go a man when the affair started. She would not leave her husband for my wife, but expects my wife to leave me for her now that her husband has left. My wife has moved out 3 times in the last 5 months, never staying gone longer than a week and always coming home.
As soon as she leaves she starts to text me and call me and tell me how much she loves me and misses me. I know that she has feelings for this other person, strong feelings. But I am not ready to be without her. I love her so much, and want my marriage to work and last and spend the rest of my life with this woman.
She says she loves me, doesn’t want a divorce, cant let me go, and cant stand to imagine me with someone else. But she does not want to let this other girl go. How do I save my marriage and make her realize that I am the one for her?
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Ok…im 17 and my fiance was 16, we were in love and we had a long distance relationship, we were in love, we were on and off for a year and 3 months, we thought that if we were together that long and we were madly in love with each other then we might as well get engaged, well me and her have been having alot of troubles, alot of them, everyday were arguing about something stupid and we both know it but we continue to do it, well now she decides that she wants to break up, and thats it the best for us to end it now.
I still love her and want to be with her for the rest of my life but what should i do if she wants to end it and i dont, she told me before that if we have been together for this long then theres no reason for us to break up becuase we were meant for each other and she said hat she was never gonna break up wit me and that was like a couple of weeks ago and now all of a sudden she wants to break up.
Does she still want me? Should i let her go or wat should i do?
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Alright, my ex-boyfriend’s name was Roger. I met him last year in school near the middle of it. We hung out, we mostly had lunch and he would walk with me to other classes. I liked him then, but wasn’t sure.
When Summer started, I didn’t really see him. But about 5 months ago, we started hanging out again, this time outside of school and inside of school. Then he started asking me if I would go out with him. It took me about a month to answer since I didn’t feel I knew him well enough. But I told him yes.
We started dating and everything was fine, I guess. We dated for 3 months. He’s not a cheater, I can tell since he was never out of my sight with some other girl. I saw him about every day and hung out with him after school about everyday with our friend George, then Brian came in. I knew George 2 years ago, but never got to hang out with him. And I met Brian 2 years ago about twice, now I see them about everyday. Their friends with Roger and me.
About two weeks ago, Roger and me broke up. I was the heart broken one, we did much together, stuff I’ve never done with another guy before. I thought he was the one I would love for the rest of my life. But it was very sudden.
I was clingy, I admit it, I wanted him to call me almost every night, even if it was for 5 minutes out of his day. I’m not very pretty, I’m pretty average if that. But we seemed to get along very well. He thought I was too clingy because of the calling thing, and he was worried about my Ex-boyfriend before him Chris, because Chris moved up here from Missouri and lived with me at my mom’s half the time. But I told him I would never go there.
Roger’s relationships before were horrible, every one of those girls cheated on him with another guy. I was the first one who didn’t.
Anyways, now that we have broken up, we have decided to remain friends. BUT he hid behind my back that he was already dating a chick named Haily, Brian’s younger sister. He started dating her after the night we broke up. Then he was being a little baby pussy and refused to talk to me. He tried advoiding me.
Now I want to know, what the best revenge I can get on Roger? I still want him back, I still love him. Whats the best way I can get him back next time I’m alone with him?
Any ideas?
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My ex and i broke up about 2 months ago. it was avery rough break up. she left me because i simply turned into a real big asshole. an asshole that im not. i love this girl with everything that i have to give, i would want to spend the rest of my life with her. the first month of the breakup was like we were just taking a "break" we still talked alot and told each other that we loved each other. but i was insane i pushed her more and more everyday. i know i shouldnt have but i didnt know better. this was my firt real relationship. we loved each other alot and were very close. we spent basically all our free time together and i know that she had very strong feelings for me.
at the moment were still talking as friends but she already moving on with her life, not with other guys but just doing what she has to do to let go. i simply cant let go. i dont know how. i feel if she gave me one more chance that we could be so happy together. but she doesnt wanna see that at all. i hurt her really bad. and i understand that she feels shes better without me.
honestly we stopped talking completely for a week before just to show her that i can give her space, and i found myself doing okay. but then one night i realized that we were growing apart from not talking so i panicked. i cannot have this girl out of my life. we were only together for 14 months but it was 14 months of all about her. she was my whole life. i loved her more than anyone could possibly imagine but i was not good at showing it.
she tells me that she will always love me even if we arent together. but i just dont get why she wouldnt want to give it another shot.. i know we could be happy. theres no chance at the moment for us to get back together but i never lose hope. all i pray for is that one day we can be reunited and live happy forever. im really confused right now and i can see myself dwelling on this relationship for too long. i have attachment issues. but i dont know how to let go, i just dont want to! i dont want her to be a memory. im honestly pretty insane but shes nuts too and i dont feel that i can find anyone else in this world that will accept me the way she did.
she says we can be friends and she never wants me out of her life. i tried to be friends, we started talking really nice and friendly and now im here. completely devastated. im constantly bringing up the past hoping she will hear something from me that will change her mind but i know thats wrong. even as much as ive pushed her away ( i mean i reallllly annoyed the crap out of her ) she still is able to talk to me.
wow, even a month before we broke up we had a little get together and she drank wayyy too much. she ended up talking to one of my gal friends and spilled her beans on just how much she loved me and cared about me. made me feel really safe with the relationship. just a month before the breakup. in my eyes it shows that even though she was unhappy for a while she still cared for me like no other.
i know this girl loves me.
if anyone can please give me some good advice on just learning how to let go or if i should keep trying it would be greatly appreciated. someone told me recently that if i really care as much as i say i do that i should not give up. and thats what i wanna do. but the healthy thing to do is to move on. someone please give some advice! thanks
i know i need to let go. but is there still a chance? is two months too long for a couple to get back together? im going to give her space simply because i want her to miss me. when i stopped talking to her for a few days she texted me saying she missed me and that she cried thinking about me but after i heard that i jumped back onto the obssesive crap and started bugging the hell out of her. i just want her back no matter what it takes. i would wait an eternity for this girl. so ladies tell me is there a chance for the relationship to pick back up even with so much time apart? i mean i saw her about a week ago she stopped by my friends to say hi and we hit it off great! she was talking my ear off we were joking around smiling, it was great. it showed me that it was still there. but i just dont know
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Not quite a year ago, I lied to my mate. It was what I thought was a meaningless lie. I had hoped he had gotten me pregnant, we had discussed this before. I bought a test and the first one was negative. I saved the second in my car to take later. He later asked me if I thought I was pregnant. I told him I wasn’t sure. He asked if I had testeed, and for some reason I said no. He later found the second test, and his impression was that I thought I was pregnant and was hiding it from him. His conclusion was if I was hiding this and lying then it must be because I was sleeping around.
In all honesty, it was a nonsensical lie, and I have never thought of cheating on him.
Time has passed, and I thought we had gotten over it, but he was using my phone and saw a number he did not recognize. I explained that it was an old coworker of mine, who did not have a phone and that number was her fiance’s number.
All the past came back and he is paranoid that I am sleeping around on him. For true feedback- I am not cheating. I want to spend the rest of my life with this guy. I offered to call the number or give him the info, and he said I guess we jst have trust issues. I asked how I can help fix things and he said to just give it time.
Is this really the only solution? And does time really help mend this sort of thing? If there is something I can do to ease his worries, I would do them…
We have a four year old and am terrified that the lack of trust will ultimately be our undoing… I want to save my family.
Any advise?
To clarify, he asked me if I had taken any test and I lied and said no, when in fact I had. I guess in my delusional thinking, I had some thought that if I waited, I might be pregnant and then could surprise him with the exciting news, but my secret really hurt him. And it wasn’t him being over suspicious. It was my shady behavior. I don’t know why it came out of my mouth.
There was also an incident when we first were dating, he asked me if I had been checking on my ex (online) I told him no because I didn’t want him to think I was still "hanging on" but he was over one night and saw on my computer that I was in fact reading my ex’s myspace and he was upset that I didn’t tell him the truth. I think I have always had abandonment issues, and tried to tell him what I thought he wanted to hear. I have been focusing on my reactions and responses and have not lied to him again. I have tried to be very open. The number has been on my phone for years, he just happened to see it and is upset.
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