So, my boyfriend and I broke up about 2 days ago- mututally. I had brought it up a few times before and it didn’t actually happen, but he was the one that brought it up this last time. It was a nice breakup we both said we still love each other and maybe in the future when life isn’t so chaotic we can be together again and that we had a lot of fun.
But the thing is, I want him back right now. I need to know how to do that without making myself look stupid.
We’re supposed to meet up later today to give our things back to each other and all that. I’m not sure if I should just act chill about it and act like I’m doing fine, or if I should flat out tell him I want him back.
Also, I got asked out on a date by another guy last night- I’m wondering if I should mention that to him with the idea in mind that it will make him miss me and want me back.
Any advice?
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I want my ex back and I am trying hardest to show her that I still love her and that I want to make it work once and for all, but I find myself chasing her but I want her to want me again. We live together, that’s what makes it hard for me, but I have been reading up on how to get your ex back, and one of the step is agreeing with them on there terms. Basically like a reverse psychology, and it explains to write her a letter. So, I here’s the letter. I want you guys to read it and tell me what you think…do you think it will spark her attention. I love the mother of my child and I want to make it work, but I also want her to make it work just the same, and if this needs to be done to get her back once and for all then so be it. Here is the letter thank you.
Dear XOXOX,
First I would like to say thank you for everything and allowing me the opportunity to raise the baby and father her the way that we both intended from the beginning. Z means so much to me, and I love her with all my heart. I hope that she continues to inspire me to be a better person, a better father and a better role model. I want nothing but the best for her and I wish someday that I can bless her with a life that I never had. However, until then I have to be content with what I have in my abilities to provide, but either way God knows my Heart.
You and I have shared four years together and we have gotten to know each other quit well xoxox, so much that it scares me. However, I am grateful to have ever met you. Over the last several days I have put some serious thought into what you have express to me with how you feel and how you are confused, and that right now you think we should be friends. And by reflecting and putting things into its proper context, I have come to the conclusion that I agree with you… we should be friends. I feel that it is the best for both of use right now. I have put some strong and intense thought into what you have said, and I respect your decision. xoxox I have always wanted the best for you and I want you to know that I am always here for you; you can always count on me. Time will tell what God has in store for both of use, but for right now friendship is what I think what’s best for use now.
Now in regards to my current living situation and our plans on moving to New York with the baby, I do still intend on pursuing those endeavors in order to start a better life for both of use and the baby. xoxox thank you for understand, and continue being the great person you are.
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Here’s a long story.
Dated my best friend for three years starting freshman year. Last couple months have been rocky – I picked fights over everything accidentally, but still didn’t stop. We talked last Sunday about being sad in the relationship because no one is budging, and I suggested since he seemed so doubtful about what to do, that we should break up. To my surprise, he didn’t deny it as he usually would (with him or with another partner, never again will I try the reverse psychology…no games). I begged him Sunday night thru Tuesday night, and eventually he went from being nice about it to telling me he fell out of love with me and that he was unwilling to work on the relationship and he didn’t want it. Of course I’m devastated. Well that was Tuesday, where he also said he didn’t miss me. It had only been two days at that point and I know he’s been under a lot of stress, and he thinks that this will fix our problem – running away from it. He said he wants to be friends (the classic line to soften the blow) but I don’t want that, but now I can’t fight it. So I’m going along with it, and Friday he sees me and comes up to me at school and hugs me, then goes on to say, "Oooh girl you smell good." It’s like why would he do that? Then Friday night I go out with my friend and shop. Saturday he texts me saying good morning, much like a friend WOULDN’T do. That’s not just friendly at all. He stopped doing that when we were dating even months ago, and probably around the same time he claimed he fell out of love. Then all day he texted me, asking me what I did Friday night, who I went with, where I went, what I bought, what I was doing Saturday, where I was going, and who I was going with. He NEVER did that before when we were dating. Why now? Why is he complicating this? He said he wants friends but it’s not just friendly talk. He’s not being sexual but it’s not always strictly being sexual that makes a relationship. Then Sunday he didn’t talk to me at all. He’s hot and cold! He had told me before that he didn’t like how I acted, but he was never as explicit to why until it was too late. But I feel like he’s fighting with himself on his decision. A lot of our mutual friends are ambushing him asking him what’s the deal, and now he’s shutting even his best guy friend out about it. I think he needs time to figure things out once his obligations quiet down and he gets to think about what’s going on, but can someone tell me what’s going through his mind? He’s not trying to be friends in a good way because if I need to move on I will, but I can wait for him. I just won’t wait forever, and he can’t put me through this heartache of trying to figure him out. He even had said that he wants our friendship to be natural, and if it comes back to being together, then it does, but we shouldn’t force it. It seems like he’s forcing it to stay friendly at times even when he feels like he wants more. That’s also not natural if he is falling slightly for me again…he’s fighting himself. I wish I could get him to listen to his heart and not just his head. I don’t want to fight either but I can’t show him that we won’t fight unless we’re together. Friends don’t just fight for no reason – couples fight because of couple problems. Help…how can I show him that we should be together by being his friend?
*I have evaluated my issues and our issues and they’re just a matter of dealing with problems better, not lashing out for stupid things. I just want to to prove to him that this can work – but I want to know how to make it to that point. He said he loves me but isn’t in love with me, so there’s that love there. I think he’s scared to get back into it and be hurt, but I want to show him that being with me or having an us doesn’t have to be painful – it shouldn’t hurt.
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me and my gf split up after a year and despite my attempts she is not wanting to try to save the relationship.
i have 2 questions
is my best bet to leave her alone, agree with the break up and hope she misses me
and if so if i do the above reverse psychology method should i have no contact with her at all or still make random contacts with her as friends to prove we work
regards
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some people say that to get your ex back is to date other women. this is supposed to get her jealous and its like reverse psychology and she would be after you bcz your attention is now on another female.
i just think that it shows her that you don’t care about her and your ready to move on. so why does this work?
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