I dated a guy and distance got in the way
its just too hard to travel 2.5 hours each way when both people have busy lives.
but we stayed friends for 15 months since dating.
when i got a new bf 6 months ago my long distance friend said he finally realized he adored me and wanted to date again
this was frustrating and he started calling me all the time
it may have undermined and contributed to my new relationship ending after just 5 months
(i broke up with my bf 1 month ago. he seemed in shock and although he was no angel he really did care for me a lot and said the break up stunned him
he still calls me a couple times a week just to talk about nothing in particular)
anyway when i broke up with my bf i also found a new job transfer came thru.
to SAME city my guy friend is in !
we got excited and planned a big date
well i know of course he was seeing other girls while i had a bf.
anyway we had such a perfect date, our chemistry was instant and strong.
lots of pdas and then lots of kissing on his sofa at his house.
that was 5 days ago
now were apart again but talking like we always do.
just this week 3 long phone calls and 45 texts on facebook.
he knows im both busy with minor surgery and traveling wiht work until i move to his city july 4th
i know he will want to stay in touch every day possible like we did when we were ‘just’ friends.
im afraid this is bad.
im thinking to limit our conduct and not act like his buddy online.
just limit contact until i move there.
he treats me more like a romantic interest in person or on the phone but more like a buddy on emails/aim/fb chat.
(sometimes sends a :* but thats it
is this cruel or smart ?
well one BIG reason I m thinking this is th ebest tactic is that he HIMSELF stated that he doesnt know how to appreciate how much he loves someone and how much they mean until he feels like hes LOST them
when i got a boyfriend that was a wake up call
but we are in contact so much online (he always iniates) that it feels like we’re an old married couple or brother sister
i truly believe there needs to be a revived spark of mystery and distance so he can SEE that im this fun sexy cool woman who also is a good friend BUT even better gf.
