My ex-girlfriend of 3 1/2 years won’t let me talk to her…what should I do?

We got together the summer before senior year of high school. The last year or so has been 5 hour drive long distance relationship. We didn’t ever fight about being apart and we never let that get between us until 4 weeks ago.

You see, normally she would come visit me because she has a car and I pretty much don’t. I would go down and visit her sometimes. I even went so far as to move down there for a few months. Unfortunately, I couldn’t stay cause of finances. Like 2 months ago I went down there and she, being in college and having a job, didn’t really have time for me.

I wasn’t too upset with that cause I understood she was just trying to get her stuff done and I just came down on a bad weekend. So 4 weeks ago her room mates brother was going down and wanted to know if I wanted to go with him (he lives like a half hour away from me). I wanted to, but she had been talking about how much work she had to do this weekend and was stressing out over it.

So I didn’t go down. Well it was going to be a surprise originally, so she didn’t know about it. The weekend came out and I told her what I had done, but said that I was coming down the next weekend if she didn’t have anything to do. She blew up like a bunker buster.

I was really caught off guard and didn’t know what to say. I kept apologizing, but she didn’t seem to care. She said that I should have come see her and broke up with me. Anyway, so jump to present time. I tried giving her space or whatever and we started doing really, really well like three weeks into this mess. We were still saying I love you and talking like we always had.

But then out of no where she decides we’re talking too much and thinks we should stop. I got mad because it made me feel even worse than I already did. Now she won’t talk to me at all really and when she does she just tells me that I really messed up and I should have thought about what I said before I said it (I really wasn’t mean about it). I don;t know what to do.

I can’t go down there anytime soon and she won’t let me talk to her. I sent a long, sweet email, but got no reply. What should I do to get her to at least talk to me again?


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I know I am. I’ve seen the movie, and own the book. Didn’t save my marriage. Of course she left twice before I could get very far. I think if it actually helps someone, that is great, but in the end it is just another movie, it isn’t some sort of miracle working movie. Plus the acting is just plan bad.

Also, I have nothing against Christians as I am one. It is just it gets on my nerves when people suggest it as a be all end all to marriage problems.
It is about 122 minutes. lol
Fireproof is about a fire fighter who is married and doesn’t really respect his wife. Also the wife doesn’t really respect her husband. They are basically room mates and don’t try for each other. After a fight, the wife says she wants out. They continues to live together, but husband’s dad gives him a 30 day love dare. Huband does the dare, it takes some time to get started and then my the end of the movie they love each other and make out.
BTW, I think the love dare is a great tool for people who think they have lost the spark or fire or passion in their marriage and would recommend it in a heart beat. I just don’t think it is a replacement for a seriously damaged relationship through physical abuse, unfaithfulness or something along those lines.


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