I’m a 28 year old guy. I’ve been with my wife Lauren since our senior year of high school. We got married in 2005 and then she gave birth to our son in 2007. Lauren was the hottest, coolest, craziest rebel chick back in high school. She was bi and all the guys thought she was a total turn-on….including myself. Together, Lauren and I had threesomes with LOTS of women during the 10 years we’ve been together. She fulfilled my "typical straight man’s fantasy". But Lauren broke my heart last year when she admitted to me that she was actually a lesbian instead of bisexual. I felt like dying. After all this time, I can’t believe she was pretending to be in love with me and pretending to enjoy all the love we made together. She’s the mother of my CHILD for God’s sake! But she doesn’t want a divorce because her bigoted parents would KILL her and she also doesn’t want to upset our son. On one hand, I’m upset that Lauren wants to stay in this marriage for all the wrong reasons. But on the other hand, I’m happy because I love her more than words can express and I can’t imagine being without her. However, I made damn sure I never brought another woman into our bed again. That’s how I’m punishing her for lying to me all this time.
Now, I’m a bit of a jerk too because for the past 8 months I’ve been cheating on Lauren with my former secretary Courtney. Two months ago, Courtney got transfered to a different department but we’re still dating. We’re in love and she wants me to leave Lauren. But I’m still in love with my wife who said herself that she doesn’t want a divorce. That gives me hope that she’ll eventually realize she’s not really a lesbian. I’m holding onto that hope. Courtney keeps crying and threatening to dump me but I will do anything to make her stay…….EXCEPT divorce my wife. I love Courtney so much and we’ve shared a lot in these past 8 months of our love affair. To be honest, I hope she gets pregnant. Is there ANY way I can successfully keep both the women I’m in love with? What should I do?
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My husband and I have been married for 18 years and just recently I felt a distance and I confronted him about it, come to find out he says he loves me doesn’t want anything to happen to me kind of love wants to still be in the same house for the kids sake tells me he has felt this way for probably 3 years now but is tired of lying to himself and to me he cries says he doesn’t want to hurt me and that he doesn’t want to feel this way but he don’t know how to get it back he says he crings when I touch him and that the only time he feels close to me is when he is horney and we make love but once were through its back to disgust I have noticed that the nights we make love he wakes me up in the middle of night talking to me being intimate telling me he wants and needs me but then when I talk to him about what he did he doesn’t remember it and were back to the distance again he tells me I need to make him fall in love with me all over again. Can anyone help? Its killing me
everyone has to know the reason I say 3 years it was about that time that I cheated on him which I horribly terribly regret because it was a huge mistake he told me he thinks that that is what this is steming from feeling he was 2nd best he took me back and we went on with our lifes he really is sincere in his words when he tells me he doesn’t want to feel this way he wants to love me he wants to be loved he just don’t know how to get back and he don’t know if it will ever come back he wants me to find myself, be happy, don’t push and maybe it will bring the feeling back
and what I don’t understand is the middle of the night intimacy thing, where is that coming from I mean I swear he truly talks to me likes he is awake. Example: This happened last night he told me how badly he wanted me and needed me and that he didn’t want anyone else to ever feel this. I truly believe there is no one else because it seems this is tearing him apart as well and no he doesn’t want to go to counseling he said how is talking to someone going to make him love me again
and just so everyone knows he says its definately not me as far as the way I look actually I have lost so much weight because of this he tells me he can tell me he loves me act like nothing has happened but he says I’m beautiful but he doesn’t want to get me false hope
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So I’m trying to do it for him, this is what I got for him in 5 min. I’m more of a rock writer, but I tried so don’t laugh…
They say that I’m the target,
And they say I was the favorite,
but this time I’m going to walmart cause,
…well I’m to far from toys’ r us
Everything is cheaper, and well my dignity is a keeper
Target is a bit closer, but I rather be working on a bull dozer…
add something to it :-}
Needs help*
I need some help from drake,
cus for F*** sake,
I sound like a fake,
I honestly rather bake a cake (not really)
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Two years ago, I dated a guy that I fell head over heels for. The problem was that he didn’t know what he wanted, and he was heavy into drugs. I’m a very serious person by nature, and once I realized that he was flighty – I had to cut him off. But I was heartbroken; he had treated me badly throughout the relationship.
I went to school and met a great guy – smart, ambitious, funny – but I kept comparing him to my ex (because as great as this current guy is, I still love the ex more). I finally managed to put that aside for the boyfriend’s sake, because he is very good to me.
Well, last night I got a phone call, and sure enough it was my ex (we talk pretty often, although I have always made it clear we were just friends). He told me he wanted to get back together and that he still loves me; he said he was working on quitting drugs, and has already stopped the drinking, and is actively going to a therapist. A few other people confirm this story.
He wants me to go on a romantic getaway with him, and to date him again. But I don’t want to hurt my boyfriend because he treats me well, and loves me very much and I can imagine a future with him. At the same time, I can imagine a future with my ex (one involving a lot of love).
Should I go on the trip, or tell him I can’t and cut him off? And who do you think is the best choice – dating someone I love more than anything, or dating someone safe who I have learned to love?
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