I have been with my husband for five years. We have one child and one on the way. Over the years we have basically turned into roomates and have no sparks left in our marriage. We have been through many things over the years, infidenlity on his part, him feeling inferior due to my salary from my job. What can I do to bring back that "spark" and make our marriage last?
Like many others, I see myself as a victim of the world economic downturn. 6 months ago, I left my baby, my wife, my mother and my sister (we have a small family) behind in the UK to go abroad and help us out financially. We have achieved financial stability (for the short term) as a result. I am fortunate that I stay with relatives who although I don’t get on with but do enough to get by every day. This has meant that I do not have to worry about rent etc. My only cost is a lease car which I pay for every month.
I work in one of the Gulf States and was accepted a job on whim out here which meant that I was able to double my salary. I now send 90% of what I earn back to the UK to help cover the mortgage and bills back home. I also left the UK with debts of around 6000 pounds because I was earning less than what I was paying out every month. I would always end up being overdrawn every month. I save very little here although I am making progress in repaying my debts. Before I left the UK, I was stuck in a dead end job which I worked really hard at but was stitched up by the management who treated me very badly when I decided to apply for numerous internal job openings. I worked for this company for two years and got nothing out of it.
I do not like living here. It is a complete culture shock. 6 months in, I am feeling angry, frustrated, lonely, home sick and I feel quite ill on a mental level. I am due to fly out to visit my family in June but do not know how I will be able to cope when I return back to the Gulf. I feel very insecure about myself and my family feels the same way.
Add to that, our fixed term mortgage is going to end in October so we need to find a new affordable mortgage. I am worried that it may be more expensive than what we are paying at the moment. Our main challenge in the UK was that we (wife and I) earned less than what we were spending. We did not even have a lavish lifestyle and only went out once a month but our bills were through the roof.
Now as I wait to fly out in two weeks, I am both happy that I will be seeing my baby for the first time since she was born 6 months ago and my small family who are the world to me, but sad because we may have to endure more emotional pain. I don’t honesty know how I will be able to cope if the worse happens and we were to live separately for longer. The worse fear is that our marriage may be put under strain which I dread because me and my wife have a beautiful relationship. I am sorry if I have rambled on for a long time but I am sitting here in the office in front of the computer totally lost and drained under the stresses of my mind.
I was in love with a beautiful woman and still love her so much. We live together for 3 months she is the most beautiful woman i ever had Intelligent smart beautiful body. She is rich as well has own big house 2 cars good job and salary. I was stupid and one day when i was upset I took part of my stuff and left her house and went to live to one of mine female colleague. An hour later i realised what mistake i have done and beg her to go back but she said everything is over. I got upset and started harrasing her I sent her police with falce aligation spreaded bad lies about her told everyone that she throw me on the street. She took restraining order against me and never talked to me again. I miss her badly and want her back. Can someone advice me what could i do to make her forgive me.
They say that money can’t buy happiness. I totally aggree with this but There have been studies about this and there is an amount that is a sort of cut-off.
From total pennilessness to this $ amount – gaining more income actually does help with your everyday happiness. But from that $ amount on up – no matter what the salary one makes, ones happiness doesn’t change. At that point any happiness gained is only from what’s in your heart and from who/what you are and what you make of life.
What is that Dollar amount (anual salary)?
Whilst with my ex, I paid of £3750 of a drug debt for him, as we were a family and it made sense to do so, as I had the money – he has now left, and still owes me the money. I have proof of withdrawing the cash from my savings, and his bank would have proof of me paying it in, but he just refuses to give it back, saying he doesn’t have it. He works full time, earns and OK salary, so don’t see why I should be so out of pocket, as now I am on my own and have children (his also) to look after I really do need the money.
I have thought of small claims court (here in the uk) any advice out there please?
Many thanks
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