About three months ago I lied to my fiance about texting one of my friend’s friend. I wanted to find out where people were going out etc. she was a girl. I didn’t tell her because I was scared she would get mad. Now, she told me that i had to quit drinking, go to therapy, and take medication. I love this woman with all my heart. we been together for 1 1/2 years. I would do anything for her. I have gone to therapy, taken medication for adhd, quit drinking, quit going out. I don’t talk to the "friends" i had when I was going out anymore. We have had some money troubles so i went out and got a second job. She has no job. I take care of everything. She now says, after all this hard work that I have done that she doesn’t want to be with me. She wants to be friends, but she can not promise anything as to working it out. What sucks is I was making so much progress. She also said she doesn’t want to have kids with me because i have 2 from previous and that it wont b special. What do I do?
all I want to say is..Sunji H,,,you are so wrong to even be on yahoo answers…no are no help to anyone.
I also want to say that she says she can’t trust me. Which I accept and I am doing everything i can to rebuild that. She has all my passwords, access to every call on my cell (we are on a family plan), I know she loves me and that I have been good to her. and I also have hurt her..that is why i have done all this work. I just wish she would love me for who I have become…not my past…is there any way to fix it? I am in counseling, maybe if she came with, it would help.
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My husband lost his second job in 6 months. I am currently 7 months pregnant. We have 3 other kids. All he will do is sleep. My dad offered him a small job and he went to bed. A friend offered him a small job and he went to bed. Right now he is sleeping of the couch while our kids are fighting. He won’t help me at all. I am so sick of this. I get so mad that last night I locked him out of our room. He tried to call me at 4:00 in the morning to let him in. Would you try to work it out or call it quits?
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What bothers me is he doesn’t tell me he loves me. He never was a mushy man, he is very very masculine and always has a shield up. But he would say it maybe a couple times a week.
Now a day I will tell him "I love you" and he either nods or says "outstanding". He does not hold hands, he does not touch or play. We do not have sex very much. I come on to him almost everyday but he says "to wait till later", but when he is ready it is 1am -5am, and I like to sleep from 11pm -6:30am. Most nights if I go to bed before him he won’t join me. He would rather sleep on the couch. he says our bed hurts his back. But he blames me that we "never" have sex. (never meaning 4-5 times a week).
But sometimes he does the sweetest things. He will cook these huge gormet meals for me when I get home from my jobs/school. He does this 4-5 times a week. When he gets drunk he tells me he loves me, and sometimes he would grab me into his arms and dance and sing Sinatra.
But for the most part he doesn’t even look at me.
He is in the Navy and when he comes home from a couple weeks out to sea he won’t even kiss me he will just say " What do you want for dinner"?
I don’t know if he loves me anymore and I don’t know how to make him love me again.
He told me to get a second job even though I am a full time student, so I did. He wants his house spotless, so I clean constantly. I don’t know what else to do to make him happy. When he is happy I am happy, and I have not been happy for a long time.
What do I do? Oh, and he doesn’t believe in going to a marriage therapist. He thinks psychology is mumbo-jumbo. Even when that is the field I am studying.
PLEASE HELP!
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