LOL…sounds crazy, right? I started dating my boyfriend several months ago. He was at the end of the 1 year seperation required by SC law before a divorce can be granted. His ex was going to go to his lawyer, sign the papers, and they were going to be done with it. Ever since she found out that he is dating someone new (me:-) she has announced she "is not signing shit" (classy, huh?) and that she is taking him to court, is out for blood, custody of the 2 kids, and money. He and I don’t want to do it and don’t want to lie to the kids, but we are considering staging a break up…him telling her he failed at his relationship with me and that we are no longer together so she will calm down and sign. Several months later she will find out we "got back together". Is this crazy? Bad idea? Good idea? Advice please and thank you!
I’ve been married for ten years. The last five have been difficult and my husband asked me to date others- after faking a relationship for a year I finally met someone- and our romance grew. After 9 months I thought it was time to leave my marriage but I find that I am holding back from committing with my boyfriend. Now after 3 months of seperation, during which my estranged husband was wonderful and understanding- everything he wasnt when we were together- he has asked for a second chance after he has determined that I have second thoughts about the BF. This is my question. Husband for ten years- knows me the best- wonderful father- excellent provider- who basically gave me away. Boyfriend- excellent lover-positive &socially active as I like to be-with clinginess and maybe not as intelligently inclined as I would like. I care for them both very much. But im thinking of my children and my future. Husband is stable we have a home- boyfriend is a renter and needs to quit smoking.help
I know its weird! Trust me I didnt think he was serious- at first it was a fantasy that later got stronger for the real thing- which is why I faked it for a year that I was with someone else. He now says it was the worst mistake to ever share me. I agree its weird- im not asking you to chose- maybe im asking whats the best way to chose and what I should consider. and you are probably right- maybe I should be alone first and figure out what I need to do for myself before involving other lives.
THIS IS A MAD LONG STORY – SORRY BROS
who ever reads and answers this though, I <3 you
My ex girlfriend and i broke up a few months ago. we were going out for over a year. And i really do care about her, and i still love her even though i have tryed everything. During the seperation, i tryed ignoring/blocking all communications withher.
It surprisingly worked, until 3 weeks ago. For some reason, I just started missing her all over again. Everytime I see her, I feel sick. I just want her and I miss that feeling of being happy with her. Not to sound gay, but she was my complete everything. I did everything for her, just to see her smile. Anywho, because I don’t have her I started smoking.
And, the only reason why I do it because it copes with my depression. I am just not me anymore. When I was with her, I never thought for a single second of trying it. Now without her, I am just a different person. I don’t care at all about life anymore, without her. I know I sound desperate or pathetic, but its just whats going on right now. She was the only thing that made me happy. I am also barely passing school, my grades are mad low because of this shit. Again, its because I do not care at all what so ever. When ever I walk around in the halls, shes always looking at me for some reason.
Also, when I am with my friends, she usually steps in and starts talking about her new boyfriend with her friends. Like on the spot, if I come in to talk to my homies, she’ll immediately start talking about Jimmy(Her New Boyfriend). And I am sick of it! I cant stand it, I hate that kid so much and I just want to bash his face in. He claims hes going to fight me, which he wont. He doesn’t even look at me when I stare at him and he wont fight me because my ex keeps telling him not to.
I don’t get it at all! I want to completely ANNIHILATE him, but I’d just be happy if I stole my ex from him. Also, if I am walking in the halls and if she sees him, she’ll be completely all over him like in a second. Its crazy, at my dance I was slow dancing with this one chick. And I saw her with her boyfriend, and she looked at me. Then immediately started making out with him. Like WTF.
just love her so much, and I do miss her. I want her back, but I don’t know what steps to do. I tried standing at the end of her street where her house is [I was high] waiting for her to come and talk to me. I want to tell her how I feel, but I don’t know if I should. Instead, she started crying and said she’ll call the cops. I want to fight Jimmy, Jimmy doesn’t but he says he does. And she doesn’t want us to fight. A week ago, I walked over to him and her and started talking to Jimmy.
I apologized for our fighting [ as a joke ] and reached my hand out. Instead he tried acting all tough telling me to apologise to my ex for going to her house. I immediately said no I will not, and he started yelling telling me that I will. So I said no I fucking wont and I walked off. And as the big man he is, he screamed at the end of the hall that Im walking away as usual and said F you to me. So I said it back and called him a pu$$y.
This sucks, I want to fight him but I want her back. He’s 2 years older than me and my ex by the way. She always looks at me and tries to talk to me. But I don’t know what to do. She kept asking me today what was it I wanted to tell her. But I just replied with a “oh nothing.” My friends say that she is probably just trying to make me jealous and will ask me out soon, but I just don’t know and I waited for too long. I want her back now, so I can be happy and so I can change completely for her.
The reason why we broke up was because we were both insanely jealous from each other talking to different sexes. I just didn’t want to lose her, and I guess she didn’t either. She kept thinking I would cheat on her, yet I would never do that.
Can anyone tell me how to get her back, and end this whole stress nightmare once and for all.
After a year of seperation and my husband swearing he is a better man and knows he took us for granted. Can I fall in love with him again after being apart this long and seeing other people. Our divorce should have been final months ago but seems like it for some reason kept being pushed back not by us but by stupid silly reasons from the courts mishaps or perhaps it wasn’t really meant to be. I feel like if he has changed I should give him another chance not only because of him but our children. Can someone shed any light to this or maybe have they had this happen to them?
Married 8years.Everything was great in our marriage untill about 4 yrs ago when i cheated on her. Stayed together.(she says the only reason she stayed with me was because of our then 6 month old baby).I quit my job, sold my new vehicle, and did all of the things required to change my life.There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t feel guilty for what i did.I’m different now..everything I do is to preserve our family(cook, clean,active with our child). Also I do romantic things, flowers,etc..I’ve been starting a new business for the last year and money has been tight. She is bitter because we used up a small saving account to survive the last year. We are not in debt except for some money we borrowed from her mother and my father. My business is really taking off and I ‘ve told her she can quit her job and take the job she really wants! Now that things are getting better she tells me she doesn’t love me anymore and wants a divorce.We tried seperation and counseling???? Is there hope?
I really am a good man … I made a horribly mistake 4 years ago and I will do anything to preserve our family!! I would appreciated anyones constructive advise!
sorry about the spelling!
I guess one thing I need to add is that during and after counseling she said she loved me and wanted to work on marriage… then a few weeks later she stopped working on our marriage…when I asked her why …she just said I don’t love you anymore. I’m little concern she might have some degree of depression…due to the fact that her mood changes quickly…and she never seems to be able to look at most situations in a positive manner!! I do love her dearly and would do anything to make her and my daughter happy!
