I have a problem and want to avoid divorce … help !?

I love my wife; she is younger than me, beautiful and has a great sense of humor. But when she gets mad she starts insulting, beating me and saying terrible things. This is my 8th time that she slaps me in the face or hit me hard with a bat when she gets upset. Every time we receive help from friends, physiologist, she always talks the most awful things about me instead of being at my side. We have been into 4 counseling sessions and the 4 therapist’s advice is to get away from her since she is violent and doesn’t respect… I am trying to avoid divorce and she doesn’t want to get help even though she admit the aggression problem. Now she threat me of comiting suicide.. im going crazy… it seems that the only thing that worries her is being back at her mom’s house or having to work since I provided her with everything. I don’t want to sound as a dork but I am just trying to save this marriage. I just dont know how to handle this and need advice from serious users please.
Everytime I decide for separation she acts like an angel from heaven until the next comfrontation … she just transformed into evil … what should I do.??


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Well instead of working to make our relationship better she split. Let me be honest here, I was no angel either, I talked her into the swinging lifestyle thing, and she reluctantly agreed. We messed about with it for a couple of years, and then she said no more.

I was angry and to prove to her she could not tell me what to do, cheated on her. I am aware this was very wrong. But after I told her that I had been unfaithful and begged for her forgiveness, we when to a counselor. I laid it all out to the person we were seeing and was working to be a better husband.

OK let me back up here, she has always had a control issue, and is a true shopaholic. She had kept us on the edge of being broke for the whole 20 years. She was seeing the person I was so she could get help with this as well, but she never did the things that the therapist said she should, in fact she would go right to the mall after our sessions.

She even opened a credit card in my name and racked up ,000 in debt in 5 months, before I caught her. And I sill wanted to work it out, but she HAD to change. Like I said earlier she elected to leave other than change.

I am REALLY angry all the time and it has been almost a year. And I cannot seem to be happy for longer than a day, I am sad all of the time and I can not seem to find anyone new. I know the swinging this was bad for the relationship, and I have learned from this.

But I am very lonely, how do I fix this for me? I do not think anyone will ever love me again. I keep getting turned down or blown off in the dating world, I HATE the online dating thing, why do people think it is OK to be so rude to other people, just because they are attractive?

I do not know what to do! I am sick of being sad.


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I love my husband. But a few weeks ago i found out he was going out with another girl. I found a picture of him making out with her in his phone and it broke me. He moved out. Now he says it was nothing more than a few kisses and that he has never been intimate with anyone. However, when he is upset he is very cruel and tells me how much he enjoys being with other girls parties and fun. But when he is fine, he tells me it was a lie to get me upset. I love him, but now i’m afriad to show him, or to get close to him. I"m afraid to get hurt. He agrees to counseling sessions, but when it comes down to it, he does not want to.
We have a baby, we are about to turn 6yrs of marriage. I dont know how to deal to with this. Sometimes it seems he is playing wiht my feelings. I’m not sure how to trust him. Im not sure what to believe.
He has been the only man in my life… but what he has done really hurts. I’m afraid to give up now that he wants to "try" and me regret it later. I need help.


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We all know that relationships are not easy and that two people living under the same roof raising kids and dealing with the stress in life both outside of the home and within, do not always get along. When times get tough and you find yourselves arguing everyday about the stupidest things, when the sex becomes non existent, when your goals become different, when you stop making time for each other… how do you push through the "divorce talks" and re-kindle your marriage? How do people make their marriage last a lifetime?

My husband and I are not quitters by any means, but our marriage feels like it is falling apart. We have a two year old and we want him to be raised in a loving home. But, it hasn’t felt like a loving home for about a year and a half. We don’t do anything together, we don’t agree on anything, we bicker, I nag, he ignores. Depression, anger, excuses, hostility, confusion, frustration… too many emotions constantly filling our home. We have been through counseling and he refuses to go to any sessions. I’ve tried the marriage self help books, involving myself in other activities and church to help me feel better… I am just stumped. I feel myself feeling more annoyed with him everyday and I’m to the point where I can’t stand being around him and I cringe whenever he touches me.

What is wrong with me? How the heck do I get back to feeling my marriage is worth saving? I know I can’t change my husband and all I can do is improve myself and my actions. I took my vows seriously… but how do I make it last until death do us part… through good times and bad?

Advice? (Yes we have talked about all of the above emotions and situations numerous times… but I am frustrated so I am on here asking)
I was simply stating the known facts about marriage… it is hard work! Nobody has all the answers… I just want to know what other people have done to get through the ups and downs of their marriages.

How do you make your marriage last a lifetime?


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