I love my husband. But a few weeks ago i found out he was going out with another girl. I found a picture of him making out with her in his phone and it broke me. He moved out. Now he says it was nothing more than a few kisses and that he has never been intimate with anyone. However, when he is upset he is very cruel and tells me how much he enjoys being with other girls parties and fun. But when he is fine, he tells me it was a lie to get me upset. I love him, but now i’m afriad to show him, or to get close to him. I"m afraid to get hurt. He agrees to counseling sessions, but when it comes down to it, he does not want to.
We have a baby, we are about to turn 6yrs of marriage. I dont know how to deal to with this. Sometimes it seems he is playing wiht my feelings. I’m not sure how to trust him. Im not sure what to believe.
He has been the only man in my life… but what he has done really hurts. I’m afraid to give up now that he wants to "try" and me regret it later. I need help.
My wife has decided we are done and wants a divorce we still live together but there is no intimacy she treats me indifferently or ignores me, i have tried to just carry on and to change all the things that bothered her before. i have used the 180 techniques doing totally different things instead of my usual response but she is in complete lock down and will not discuss anything with me. she says she is not interested in counseling at all and will not even consider it, i have no money to spare so the tempting marriage coaches i see online for 0 for 5 sessions are way out of reach i cannot even afford the divorce busting books. we still sleep in the same bed but in separate blankets she also keeps telling me she has not felt the same about me since our first son was born now aged 3 1/2 we have another boy on the way due in a few months i do not want to loose my kids they mean everything to me not to mention i love this woman with my entire being.
We all know that relationships are not easy and that two people living under the same roof raising kids and dealing with the stress in life both outside of the home and within, do not always get along. When times get tough and you find yourselves arguing everyday about the stupidest things, when the sex becomes non existent, when your goals become different, when you stop making time for each other… how do you push through the "divorce talks" and re-kindle your marriage? How do people make their marriage last a lifetime?
My husband and I are not quitters by any means, but our marriage feels like it is falling apart. We have a two year old and we want him to be raised in a loving home. But, it hasn’t felt like a loving home for about a year and a half. We don’t do anything together, we don’t agree on anything, we bicker, I nag, he ignores. Depression, anger, excuses, hostility, confusion, frustration… too many emotions constantly filling our home. We have been through counseling and he refuses to go to any sessions. I’ve tried the marriage self help books, involving myself in other activities and church to help me feel better… I am just stumped. I feel myself feeling more annoyed with him everyday and I’m to the point where I can’t stand being around him and I cringe whenever he touches me.
What is wrong with me? How the heck do I get back to feeling my marriage is worth saving? I know I can’t change my husband and all I can do is improve myself and my actions. I took my vows seriously… but how do I make it last until death do us part… through good times and bad?
Advice? (Yes we have talked about all of the above emotions and situations numerous times… but I am frustrated so I am on here asking)
I was simply stating the known facts about marriage… it is hard work! Nobody has all the answers… I just want to know what other people have done to get through the ups and downs of their marriages.
How do you make your marriage last a lifetime?
A few months ago my husband told me he was not in love with me anymore. I have been devastated. 2 weeks ago we have started marriage counseling, but i see no sign of improvement. The problem is that besides the counseling sessions he is completely shut down and does not want to talk about it. I bought the entire store of sexy sleepwear, but it seems like i am invisible…Sometimes it seems like i could take off my skin but he would be completely unaware of my presence. I am trying to be nice, loving and attentive but he ignores me at best. I have been feeling less and less attractive and my self-esteem does not exist. I am like a pet frog – an unsightly, unworthy and repulsive. I feel like every day goes by and this hole in my ches is just getting bigger, swallowing my being. I know he does not love me or believes he does not. What do i do? How should i behave to make him fall in love with me? I appreciate your suggestions.
