I’m a black male 35 y/o who got divorced seven years ago. I married a woman with two children and had a daughter with her. I worked hard and we moved from federal housing projects into our own home. She never worked more than part time during the marriage. We divorced as a result of her infidelity, multiple times during the marriage with the last one being with a close family member of mine. She got to live in the house rent free for three years afterwards and she got child child support for my daughter also during this time. I had to live with my mother. But I’ve managed to get the house back and now I have custody of my daughter. But what bothers me is because of all the financial stuff and the living situation, I have been unable to date or find a significant other. I’ve been alone for seven years and women have told me that I’m not marriage material because of my finances and the fact that I can’t provide for another family. So as women on this forum, how am I suppose to feel or react? Women’s rights or empowerment has done nothing for me and men like myself. Women who are financially stable or well off say that I’m a downgrade for them. So how am I suppose to feel about this? My ex-wife gets to date and sleep with whomever and here I am lonely night after night. Where’s the fairness and equality in that?
I’m a 23-year-old lesbian, my relationship ended almost nine months ago. We were together about seven years, how long should it take me to get over it? I really need some good advice, so give it to me.
About a month ago, my fiance decided I could do alot better than him and we weren’t "in love" anymore. The wedding was called off. He moved out. For about the past couple weeks he’s been calling me and texting me saying that he made the biggest mistake of his life, etc. He came over unannounced a couple of times. He even came by my work yesterday with flowers! I was pissed! FYI, we were together for seven years. I mean I was confused before he wanted me back, and now I’m sooo confused. Part of the problem was that he was unemployed. He just got hired with a temp agency, but doesn’t even work everyday. Not my idea of a job. I know that I’m not just going to take him back. But its just a really hard and emotionally exhausting scenario. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks.
He says that I did a 180 change and that it’s not fun anymore and that I didn’t care for his feelings. So he no longer has any feelings for me. I still am so much in love with him, that I think I’d take him back regardless of what has happened … what to do? He doesn’t understand the stress of planning wedding, wants nothing to do with planning, can not answer any wedding related questions and is hypocritical in his reasons for calling it off …
I did give him time, a whole month – actually a little longer, at the end, when I didn’t bug him at all, and after I tried to explain the stress I was under, telling him I understand how he feels and wanting to talk/work it through. I apologized and took 100% responsibility, I know this took over, but he said he no longer wants to fix it, that it’s too late … It just does not make sense … and it hurts so much!
I know that this planning took over) and I only saw him about twice a week, because of our work schedules and (work related) traveling), but when I asked that he share and help, I got nothing in return. He still wants to live his life as if we weren’t planning a wedding … he’s changed too – of course he says it’s because I made him change, and that he is not responsible. I can’t take all the blame, although it seems I have … he was my best friend, my greatest love, now it’s all gone …
I do/did want a marriage with him, not a wedding – I would have LOVED to just elope or have a small ceremony in the back yard with just family. This was going to be lifetime … I think someone here made a strong point, maybe our foundation wasn’t strong enough. My world is crumbling, and I don’t know that I am that strong. But for now I have to be, because I have to call all the vendors and all the family and friends, and I am left with selling the rings to pay for everything that is outstanding. This just plain sucks! Seven years of our lives – gone in the blink of an eye!
I really need help on this one,Please.What are your feelings on starting a relationship again with an ex-wife?
I’ve recently been talking on the phone with my ex-wife, we sometimes talk for two or more hours. She’s thirty eight,I’m forty one.
When we were married we had the the best of times together, Everything was great until she came to the realization that her need to have a child was greater than the Love that we Shared. She knew before we were married that I wasn’t able to have children but it wasn’t a problem then.
She was completely honest with me about her reason for wanting to separate, I was crushed and I feel that it hurt her deeply too. She broke my heart. It’s been seven years since we’ve been apart. She’s single now and has a five year old daughter and has come back into my Life.
It feels like we are falling in Love again or like we have never been apart. I almost don’t know how to feel. I’m Torn.
Could you please give me some of your thoughts on this?
