My Heart IS BREAKING…I dont want to break up, but how do I fix him controling our sex life?
I have an issue with my boyfriend that he gets sex when he wants it, but when I start trying to have sex with him…
He changes what we are doing. He will do anything to stop it.
This has been a problem since the begining of our relationship,but I dont know how to handle it.I did of course speak to him about how that made me feel.
I told him that I thought our relationship should be equal and that I have sexual needs that he is treating like they dont matter.
He usually responds to me,”sex isn’t the most important thing in our relationship,right?” Then what do i say?When we do have sex, the sex is great!
I hate to say it, but every time he has ever tried,I have never been able to say no.
I just love him,and long for that connection we do have during sex. I dont want to be one of those sad girls that will just take what she can get when she can get it,but sadly I really have been.
I want to feel like a sexy woman that can turn her man on!
This has broken my selfesteem a lot!
What should I do?
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sex therapy is the last chance i have to save my marriage but i don’t even feel like going. how can you expect to save a marriage when you are not even attracted to the person? we have zero chemistry & sadly, i can’t even remember why i was attracted to him in the first place. i know i was drawn to him because i knew he would take care of me….but i’m older now & don’t need a caretaker. (i was 19 when i married, now i’m 23 and he’s 30).
i actually recommended sex therapy a few years ago but that suggestion was brushed aside. now we are separated (for 7 months) & now he wants to try. he says he’ll do anything.
he is a good man with a heart of gold. i love him more than anyone…..but he just doesn’t get my juices flowing.
so, should i visit a sex tharapist with him, even if i don’t want to? the only reason i’m considering is because he’s really truly willing to do anything…& i feel rotten for not returning the favor….plus, i don’t feel right getting a divorce w/o trying
PS: I have already cheated on him. he knows about it and took me back with open arms, as it was an eye opener for him—-he realized he was not taking care of my emotional and sexual needs.
isn’t it too soon to be feeling the "7 year itch"? i’ve only been married 4 years and started feeling it after a year.
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