How do i get my ex-girlfriend back? Even when 3 weeks after ending it she found another man?

I was with my ex for nearly a year. However towards the end, we made a stupid mistake and she became pregnant. Due to our age and other circumstances, i knew that it would not have been possible to raise the child. She wanted to keep it though. However for fear of losing me, she went through with the abortion. This made her hate me. She lost all feelings for me and although we tried working through it… she said she couldnt do it anymore. This killed me as we were really in love and already knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together.
For comfort, she went to her colleagues house most nights. And one thing led to another and 3 weeks later they were in a relationship. This killed me as i was trying to get her back. However just before they started their relationship we shared an extremely passionate kiss and she said she missed me and if it wasnt for what happened, she would still be with me. She told me she is over what happened and doesnt blame me anymore.

Recently we have become very close friends. She stops over at my house on the way home from her boyfriends for a chat. We are on the same course at university and have lunch together or go out shopping together when uni is finished. She is always wanting to chill with me and everyone says things are looking good for me. However she is still with her boyfriend and i found out they booked to go on holiday in june 2009… they booked this 2 weeks after being together!!

just wondering if anyone has any tips on how i can win her back. She calls me all the time and we seem to do everything together that we are allowed to do without cheating… (lots of hugging and kissing on the cheek)… her boyfriend doesnt know she even talks to me let alone meeting up cos he wont allow her to.. She is a girl that needs lots of attention and i have heard from her friends that she is having problems with him cos he wont give her any attention.

Does she really like this guy or is it just a rebound.. and is it looking good for me???



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How do i get my ex-girlfriend back? Even when 3 weeks after ending it she found another man?

I was with my ex for nearly a year. However towards the end, we made a stupid mistake and she became pregnant. Due to our age and other circumstances, i knew that it would not have been possible to raise the child. She wanted to keep it though. However for fear of losing me, she went through with the abortion. This made her hate me. She lost all feelings for me and although we tried working through it… she said she couldnt do it anymore. This killed me as we were really in love and already knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together.
For comfort, she went to her colleagues house most nights. And one thing led to another and 3 weeks later they were in a relationship. This killed me as i was trying to get her back. However just before they started their relationship we shared an extremely passionate kiss and she said she missed me and if it wasnt for what happened, she would still be with me. She told me she is over what happened and doesnt blame me anymore.

Recently we have become very close friends. She stops over at my house on the way home from her boyfriends for a chat. We are on the same course at university and have lunch together or go out shopping together when uni is finished. She is always wanting to chill with me and everyone says things are looking good for me. However she is still with her boyfriend and i found out they booked to go on holiday in june 2009… they booked this 2 weeks after being together!!

just wondering if anyone has any tips on how i can win her back. She calls me all the time and we seem to do everything together that we are allowed to do without cheating… (lots of hugging and kissing on the cheek)… her boyfriend doesnt know she even talks to me let alone meeting up cos he wont allow her to.. She is a girl that needs lots of attention and i have heard from her friends that she is having problems with him cos he wont give her any attention.

Does she really like this guy or is it just a rebound.. and is it looking good for me???


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How Do I Get My Ex-Girlfriend Back? She Found Another

How do i get my ex-girlfriend back? Even when 3 weeks after ending it she found another man?

I was with my ex for nearly a year. However towards the end, we made a stupid mistake and she became pregnant. Due to our age and other circumstances, i knew that it would not have been possible to raise the child.

She wanted to keep it though. However for fear of losing me, she went through with the abortion. This made her hate me. She lost all feelings for me and although we tried working through it… she said she couldnt do it anymore. This killed me as we were really in love and already knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together.

For comfort, she went to her colleagues house most nights. And one thing led to another and 3 weeks later they were in a relationship. This killed me as i was trying to get her back. However just before they started their relationship we shared an extremely passionate kiss and she said she missed me and if it wasnt for what happened, she would still be with me. She told me she is over what happened and doesnt blame me anymore.

Recently we have become very close friends. She stops over at my house on the way home from her boyfriends for a chat. We are on the same course at university and have lunch together or go out shopping together when uni is finished. She is always wanting to chill with me and everyone says things are looking good for me. However she is still with her boyfriend and i found out they booked to go on holiday in june 2009… they booked this 2 weeks after being together!!

just wondering if anyone has any tips on how i can win her back. She calls me all the time and we seem to do everything together that we are allowed to do without cheating… (lots of hugging and kissing on the cheek)… her boyfriend doesnt know she even talks to me let alone meeting up cos he wont allow her to.. She is a girl that needs lots of attention and i have heard from her friends that she is having problems with him cos he wont give her any attention.

Does she really like this guy or is it just a rebound.. and is it looking good for me???


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How can I help my wife fall back in love?

She says she still deeply loves me. She still Holds my Hand and Kisses me without me doing it first. She says she loves me very very much. She still wants sex from time to time even, and says I turn her on.

We have 2 boys 7 and 12 yrs old. We got married when she was 18 and I was 22. She is now 34 and I 38. She is a CRNA Nurse Anesthesia Resident and is in school or working about 65 hrs a week. I put her through school working as hard as could over the years to help her get her RN and BSN.

We have been married for 14 years and I have not always been easy to talk to, I would always end up blowing up with a temper when she asked me to help clean house or something by saying she was nagging. She got to the point where she bottled feelings (because she felt we couldn’t talk, and I don’t blame her) and let build up to the point where we are where we are at now.

She says it started with her just over year ago. It started about a 2-3 weeks ago when I came home to a letter saying she was at her Moms and we need to separate. We text-ed all day and eventually talked and I talked her into coming back home so we could talk. I thought I was listening but I was still only hearing her, when she told me she needed help around the house.

The next time and last time we fought (which was last Thurs. night) I got mad and threw my clothes in my truck and left for the night. This was a bad move. I called her and told her I loved her very much and I was coming home, that leaving was very wrong and I am going to make this work. She said she loved me too. I came home and we talked for hours and from then on I have been doing all the laundry, washing dishes. making the kids school lunches just what ever I can to help.

We spent last weekend together shopping and tried a new Church on Sunday, holding hands and again assuring her I loved her. We hadn’t been to church in many years. We had sex 3 times over the weekend she even played dress up on Saturday night, She said she enjoyed the weekend. I now stay calm when she has a concern, assuring her she can talk to me.

That’s how I found I was a little late with my change and she is no longer “in love with me”. I CALMLY told her that it was ok and I don’t blame her. I assured her that I am a new man, and I love her, and I will not give up. She said she loves me very much too, and it’s just something she needs to work on. We are trying to get into a counselor. I tell all the time I love her, even texting her at work and saying it. (maybe too much?), I told her she was the best thing that ever happened to me and she is the best wife I could ever have and how beautiful she is.

She says she feels like she can move forward easier knowing I know how she feels and I love her. I am very scared and I pray I am not to late. She wants deeply to work it out as much as I do, I just hope she can. I have a company Christmas Party Sat. night that we are going to together. I called her and asked her out and asked her if she would like to go like I would a “girlfriend”. She said she thought that was cute! I hope I can rekindle something on this night (God I hope).

My Questions: How can I help her? Am I trying “too hard”? To the point I could be doing more harm than good by smothering her? I love her so much and I know she loves me. I just want her to be ‘in-love” with me again. What can I do?


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How do I save my marriage from my passive husband and demonic step children?

My step children are hideously selfish and don’t listen to a thing I tell them. They won’t even bathe! They’re 14(boy) and 11(girl). My husband has a passive parenting style. He hates to hear any fussing or fighting and likes to avoid confrontations. He knows that they treat me bad, but he says he doesn’t understand why he lets them do it. He says he just doesn’t know how to make them do the right thing. He’s tried punishment, rewards, and a combination of both. Nothing seems to work. I know that he loves me very much and it bothers him that he can’t figure out how to make the children behave and do as they’re told. He also loves his children, but they are tearing our marriage apart. Anyone have any ideas or have you ever been in this same situation??
A little more info:
We have a two year old daughter together. Mu husband just deployed to Iraq and will be gone 15 months. The mother rarely calls, lives out of state and is schizophrenic . She sees them maybe once every other year. My husband is a good man and a good father to my baby. He carries a lot of guilt about his divorce and the impact it had on his kids. I didn’t mean to make it sound like he was spinelss. I think his passiveness stems more from guilt than anything else.
We’ve been married for about 3 1/2 years.
I tried for the first two years to have some sort of relationship with the two of them. I’ve done things with them/for them, I’m the one who takes them shopping, I’m the one who buys them new clothes, I’m the one who makes their father take them to the library, the park, etc. After two years of doing for them and getting nothing (respect) in return, I stopped doing so much for them. They are just REALLY selfish children who were used to being the bosses and getting what they wanted. I’ve even suggested family counselling, but now that my husband is deployed, it’s too late for that.
Just a little nore in defense of myself: My husband is in the military and he’s not home much. The children are left in my care. I have provided them with structure and activities. It’s easy for a few to point the finger at me and say I’m the one being selfish, but if you any idea how many "talks" the kidsa and I have had about our relationship, you’d understand why, at this point, I’m pulling my hair out. I agree with some of the negative comments. You’re right, I shouldn’t let their behavior bother me, but I don’t know of any way to just "turn off" my emotions when they treat me so badly. Even their father ADMITS that they treat me badly. Again, I have suggested (on several occasions) that we seek family councelling. I work, their father is gone, and I’m taking care of all three children. Is it so much to ask, for them to just follow a few rules? I’ve compromised a lot. I stopped nagging them to bathe, brush teeth, do homework or clean up after themselves!
By the way, Skidoo, my screen name was a joke between my sister and myself. One I’ve had for years. No hidden meaning whatsoever. :)

And for any of you who took offense to the term "demonic step children", come on! It was a phrase to show just how frustrated I am with them! I’ve done more for those two chilldren since I’ve known them than either their real mother or their father. I’ve taught them why they shouldn’t lie or steal, how to have compassion for others, how to take care of themselves, and a lot of other real life skills they need to become productive adults. The issues they have were going on a looooong time before I was ever in the picture. I tried to give them what they needed but they rejected me, so don’t point fingers at me for getting tired of trying to help them when they don’t want or appreciate my help. Sometimes, I think the only ones who really understand are the ones who have walked in my shoes. And some called ME judgemental?


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