My mom passed away when I was 18…I’m 20 now. And he STILL continues to make remarks like "your mother was an a55hole" or like, one of my siblings is a major "problem child"…she sneaks out of the house and gets drunk, lost her virginity at 15, etc..so he’ll make remarks about how it’s all because she has my mom’s genes. Earlier today, he was like "I know you don’t like hearing it, but the reason she’s like that is because your mother was like that at her age so she got her genes"
And then if I say something like "If you know I don’t like hearing it, then why the heck do you insist on saying it?" He just says something like "Because of the abuse she put me through."
And ughh I get so frustrated because 1) HE abused her if anything…he’s knocked her unconscious before hitting her over the head and stuff.
and 2) It hurts really freaking bad; that was my mom, and I don’t know how I’m supposed to get over the loss as long as he keeps saying things like that over and over again.
and 3) I CANT argue with him about it..he’s so immature and stubborn about it. There have been times when I asked him what in the world makes it okay for him to make such insensitive remarks, and he’s just said "whatever you’re an a55hole" and walked away.
It’s a really complicated situation with my family. About a year and a half he began dating this woman he met online, and she herself passed away after a few months b/c of some reaction to a medication.
And he talks about her like she was the most amazing woman in the world yet trash talks his wife who gave him 4 children.
So sometimes I REALLY just want to make insensitive remarks back about his girlfriend who passed away just to show him what it feels like to have someone basically rubbing it in your face that someone you loved died. But I don’t because that’d make me feel too bad.
And ugh. I can’t just move away; I’m not financially able to right now. I just don’t know what more there is to do in this situation; it almost physically hurts to hear some of the things he says. Another thing he’ll say is that whenever one of my siblings acts up, it’s because "my mother is haunting her."
I’m crying writing this haha blah.
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My dad took my dog to the vet yesterday without warning and put him down. All because my mom made him take the dog for a bit. My parents are separated and my mom already has no job, needs to attend school, has to look after 4 kids, and my dad just dumped the dog on us while he enjoys his freedom without us. My mom got mad at him because she’s had him for 3 months now, and she just asked him to take the dog so she can look after us. And just because he couldn’t have his freedom with one dog, he put him down. That dog LOVED us dearly, and we loved him back. I can’t get him out of my head, and I’m going to a memorial tonight and all I’m going to think about is the death of my baby Bear. I know he’s not coming back, that’s the thing that hurts me. I went into my garage to get some dress shoes and I saw his empty crate with his cozy little blanket. I just want to end this misery! He didn’t live a good life anyway but still, I just want to hold my little puppy again. I went to go upstairs and I saw his favourite toy. I want him back!!! D’: How do I just forget about him? How can I be happy?
The dog was bought for my brother mostly and he had no idea about what happened. My dad bought him because me and my siblings begged him because we wanted a friend. It wasn’t his dog.
He actually bit someone’s arm so my dad probably used that reason. He wasn’t dangerous though, he was just untrained. 
Everything me and my older brother tried to do to train him, my dad untrained him by letting him do whatever he wanted and by kicking him.
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I am holding on with a very fine thread to my last family relationship and wondering whether to hold on or let go.
We had a family conflict over sexual abuse claims five years ago. After that ties were broken with 4 siblings. A year later I returned to initiate reconciliation & 3 said no.
Had a loving chat with the one who was ready to move on from the past but as he lives os we drifted apart w/o communications for a few years. Got back in contact late last year & early this year he had a disabled child. SInce then he has been a bit cold & distant in response to my support. More recently I decided to be more direct & asked him how I could help him feel more relaxed in relationship to me.
Hell broke loose as his Pandora’s box opened. He attacked with angry blame as he feels I hurt my parents by separating from them.
I have now recovered from the razor like wounds & understand his care 4 them. Now wondering whether to reason with him or part ways. What do you suggest?
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I will try to make this story as short and as detailed as possible.
My mom, grandmother, and dad’s siblings told me about a terrible thing that happened to them (my mother and father) when they were dating back in the 90′s. According to old family friends and family members my dad was a very hip, attractive, and popular young man during his teen years. So my dad was like a "player" with many girlfriends until he settled with my mother. Before settling with my mother, my dad had a girlfriend named Eva. She was an attractive young girl. Before long into their relationship, Eva began to cheat and was becoming to controlling. She was also associated with a witch that practiced black magic. My dad broke up with Eva. A few weeks later, my mother and father initiated a relationship. This is when things began to get astonishingly sinister. They were off in search of a place to live, a temporary place. They went looking at a small, worn apartment complex. Along the way, my mother found a small plastic bag containing a picture of my dad. On the back of the picture it read "Charly, return to me" -Eva. The picture had two needles piercing right through my dad’s head, in a wide X shape. It also had red blood-like ink around his mouth and on his shirt. There was also salt inside the bag. My mother showed it to my dad, and said it was nonsense that things like that were not real. Well shortly after their encounter with this plastic bag, my dad began to have very strange behavior during the night. He would vomit blood. He went to go see a doctor who found nothing wrong with him. My mother was terrified and watched over him at night. She would also see bite marks appearing on his arms. Like actually watching them form on his skin. Multiple bite marks. He would suddenly rise from bed in his under wear and claim that a lady with black hair was waiting for him somewhere. After that he began to talk in his sleep, saying things like "let me be" "leave me alone! I do not want to be with you". My mother and grandmother prayed for him and would rub holy water on him to drive the negativity away. He always said that the Holy water burned his skin, a sensation he often felt during these situations. After moving, my dad felt better and improved! Was this the work of Eva and her witch friend? Please help!
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You invited a man into your house and everything started to fall apart when your family found out. You cheated yourself, your family and your friends. They really put their trust in you but you abused it. Now that you’re wrong, your family still love you and pick you up instead of throwing you out of the house. Worse still, your siblings stop talking to you. You felt bad and you tried to do whatever means necessary to get your family back.
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