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Things Girls Don’t realize!?

1. Guys are more emotional then you think, if they loved you at one point, it’ll take them a lot longer then you think to let you go, and it hurts every second that they try.

2. Guys may be flirting around all day, but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.

3. Guys go crazy over a girl’s smile.

4. Guys will to anything just to get you to notice him.

5. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend or ex love-interest. Unless they’re goin for the let-her-complain-to-you-and-then-have-he… how-wonderful-and-nice-you-are method.

6. A guy who likes you wants to be the only guy you talk to.

7. Boyfriends need to be reassured often that they’re still loved.

8. Guys don’t care how gorgeous you are, if you’re a *****– Goodbye.

9. Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!..uh…nevermind.." would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking. And he’ll assume he did something wrong and he’ll obsess about it trying to figure it out.

10. Girls are guys’ weaknesses.

11. Guys are very open about themselves.

12. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don’t need to give advice.

13. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.

14. Guys love you more than you love them.

15. Guys use words like hot or cute to describe girls. They rarely use beautiful or gorgeous. If a guy uses that, he loves you or likes you a whole hell of a lot.

16. No matter how much guys talk about asses and boobs, personality is key.

17. Guys worry about the thin line between being compassionate and being whipped.

18. Guys think WAY too much. One small thing a girl does, even if she doesn’t notice it can make the guy think about it for hours, trying to figure out what it meant.

19. If the guy does something stupid in front of the girl, he will think about it for the next couple days or until the next time he spends time with the girl.

20. If a guy looks unusually calm and laid back, he’s probably faking it and is spazzing inside.

21. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl, he really is. Guys rarely say that.

22. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he’s just actually saying, "Please come and listen to me."

23. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him. It doesn’t happen that often, so when it does, you know something’s up.

24. When a guy tells you that you are beautiful, don’t say you aren’t. It makes them want to stop telling you because they don’t want you to disagree with them.

25. When a guy looks at you for longer than a second, he’s definitely thinking something.

26. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.

27. Don’t be a snob. Guys can be intimidated and give up easily.

28. Guys talk about girls more than girls talk about guys.

29. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions and are MAD confusing but somehow are drawn even more to them.

30. A guy would give his right nut to be able to read a girl’s mind for a day.

31. No guy can handle all his problems on his own. He’s just too stubborn to admit it.

32. Not all guys are assholes. Just because ONE is a jackass doesnt mean he represents ALL of them.

33. They love it when girls talk about their boobs.

34. When a guy hits your butt it means that he wants you sexually

35. Even if they refuse it all guys are ticklish on the ribs.

36. Guys love neck rubs and if he lets you keep doing it ..it means that he really likes you or his neck really hurts.

37. When a guy sacrifices his sleep and health just to be with you, he really likes you and wants to be with you as much as possible.

38. Even if you dump a guy months ago and he loved you he probably still does and if he had one wish it would be you to come back into his life.

—Ladies, if u don’t repost this within 1 hr then you will lose the guy of your life

—Guys, if you don’t repost this in one hr then you will lose the girl of your life.

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I tried to explain that biology exacerbates psychology and if a person is severely traumatized and abused from a very young age, psychology BECOMES biology, which is why Psychiatric Medications work.

If, say, depression is all "In your head" and can be controlled through sheer force of will, why would antidepressant medications work?

I have Borderline Personality Disorder, depression, anxiety, and PTDS. These things have been diagnosed by a Psychiatrist and I am trying my best to "maintain" through the use of multiple reuptake inhibitors and, ironically enough, sheer force of will but it feels like a losing batter.

I told my father a few days ago that I was just having "A really bad day" because I was depressed to the point of crying that day and had spent the whole night waking up unable to breath because of the panic attacks… I had done all I could that day just to not cut myself but didn’t succeed totally and had clawed at my arms and exacerbated a number of small wounds I had picked in myself over the last few days…

He asked me flat out what, specifically, was causing this and I responded with "I have no idea… If I knew what triggered all of this, I would be able to prevent it!"

He demanded to know if what I was dealing with was Psychological or Biological… Because if it is "Just Psychological" to DEAL with it and stop making myself miserable.

At this point, the Borderline Personality Disorder’s tendency to flip the hell out in anger took hold and I had to leave the room before I threw something at him.

As if I were doing this for attention!?!?!?

As if I were doing this "To Myself" for what? WHAT?

Why on earth would I WANT to be unable to have close relationships with anyone?

Why on earth would I WANT to never be able to sleep because I keep having nightmares and panic attacks in the middle of the nigh?

Why on earth would I WANT to swing back and forth from depressed to outright hostile ALL THE TIME?

Why on earth would I WANT to be pissed off at the whole of the world?

Sometimes I’m barely able to dress myself, let alone get EVERYTHING I need to do done day in and day out… I’m just trying to stop thinking about killing myself long enough to get the invoices processed… I’m on medication… I’ve sought all kinds of therapy but don’t have money for it… Therapists just RAPE their patients with 0.00 an hour bills and then try to sell you a .00 bottle of "Noni Juice" that CURES depression AND causes you to lose weight without exercise! *MAGIC!*

I’m TRYING to cope with this… I really am… But what else can I do?

I have my family telling me I’m doing all of this "For Attention" or that I can just "Think Happy Thoughts"…

How on earth can I explain how severe childhood abuse… having your own mom put a gun to your head… Telling you she can kill you any time she likes… Having her beat the crap out of you because you poured her vodka down the drain… Watching the same mom put a bullet in her own brain when I was 16… Having an abusive relationship that just mind-raped me… And now trying to cope with just being ALIVE, let alone being productive…

How on earth do you explain all of this to people that tell you to just think happy thoughts or walk it off?

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I am 37, female, professional, extremely hard working and responsible, single and childfree both by choice. Dedicated all my life to work (not regrets-I am very well known and respected in my work internationally). I have a 63 year old mother whom I support financially (she has no income). She has a very hard time showing her loving feelings – and to my understanding she has many unsolved issues with her own mother and her ex-husband (my father) which always haunted our family. I have a 34 year old brother, intelligente, healthy, university educated who was raised up to beleive that if he put enough drama, he would always get what he asked for (and actually he did). Expensive cars, very expensive apartment, ridiculously expensive life whilst he was a student – whilst he never worked, even if we had a family business and we could use his help. I had to work all my life to obtain what I wanted, but this was my choice. My family was a wealthy one, who now are in deep economical crisis.
That big a crisis, now going on for the last 10 months, that there was a time that there was not enough money to eat andwe are facing the posibility to loose our house (my mother’s house).

During that time my brother (who was living in my house after he lost his and went to bankrupcy), he would not do anything at home, would not help me with coping with business and economical problems, would get drunk all day (because he was "stressed" and "we ruined his life", would be verbally abusive to my mother (though I must admit she does not know how to handle anything when it comes to feelings – she breaks my b…s too, but still…she is a old woman and my mother who must be treated with respect), and do anything he could to make things even worse that they were. he would live, drink, sleep and spend on my money. My mother also lived in my house since we could not afford to have it otherwise. She would do the cleaning, cooking and shopping all by herself as I must work very long hours and my brother wont lift a finger.

Two weeks ago I talked to him for last time: you either help me finish liquidating our only business and we take it from there as a family and we recover, you assist at home with cleaning, shopping and everything a home needs, you stop drinking NOW and put your feet in the ground or you leave this house right NOW and never come back.

Did I mention he is lazy and also admits it?

Well, he left. Once minute later the usual fight with my mother who thinks I am too cruel and we should support him because he is weak and confused. To cut a long story short, I told her that I had enough of him and her in this respect and I need to stay calm in order to survive this very difficult bankrupcy and see what i can do in the future to guarantee life for me and her. Period. anything else now is secondary. Her son must leave house and she must go home (I managed to make some money to be sure she will be ok for the next 6 months. She left. She called 2 days later to tell me that what happened was the correct thing and that she loves me and hopes my brother finds his way in life.

I forgot to mention: my father, another abusive relationship, is a scam, pathologic lyer, who tried to get what money was left out of the business and leave. i stopped him, as this money must be directed to paying debts. Then he left inadvertedly and here I am:

Alone, in a country far away from mine, where I do not longer wish to be, with no money, trying to liquidate my business in order to pay debts (though legally speaking I am allowed to simply declare banckrupcy and nothing happens), under very difficult circumstances, finally away from an abusive, scam father, with a brother who I care for but will not take him any more, a mother whom I love but wish she would be away from me and well and feeling extremely tired.

I am not afraid of life. Not at all. I don’t care about the loss of money or business. These I can do and loose again and again and again. But I feel this is too much for one person. I am sure I did the right thing asking my brother to make up his mind and asking my mother to leave (she was going to get ill with all this happening around her). But still…

They are my family – not matter how abusive, they will always be my family.

This was the first time in my life I made a point and kept to it. It worked so far. My brother, knowing there is nobody to turn to for cash, is moving towards finding a job and I think he stopped drinking. Mom is back home together with the rest of the family and certainly better than here. My father – well, I don;t care. He can be anywere, as long as there is an ocean between us. Enough is enough.

Did I do well?
How does all that sound?

Thanks your answers

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125 Most Romantic Things to Do with Your Lover

1. Watch the sunset together.
2. Take showers together.
3. Back rubs and massages.
4. Listen to classical music and cuddle in the dark or with black light.
5. French Kiss.
6. Hold her with hands inside the back of her shirt.
7. Whisper to each other.
8. Cook for each other.
9. Skinny dip.

10. Make out in the rain.
11. Dress each other.
12. Undress each other.
13. Kiss every part of their body.
14. Hold hands.
15. Sleep together. (Actually sleep with each other…not sex)
16. One word…Foreplay
17. Sit and talk in just underwear.
18. Buy gifts for each other.
19. Roses.
20. Find out their favorite cologne or perfume and wear it every time you’re together.

21. Wear his clothes.
22. Find a nice secluded place to lie and watch the stars.
23. Incense/candles/oils/black lights and music make for great cuddling/sex.
24. Kiss at every chance you get.
25. Don’t wear underwear and let them find out.
26. Kinky is bad…Blindfolds are good.
27. Lightly kiss their collarbone and their jawbone just below the ear, then whisper I love you.
28. Bubble baths.
29. Go for a long walk down the beach at midnight.
30. Make love.

31. Write poetry for each other.
32. Kiss and smell her hair.
33. Hugs are the universal medicine.
34. Say I love you, only when you mean it and make sure they know you mean it.
35. Give random gifts of flowers, candy, poetry etc.
36. Tell her that she’s the only girl you ever want. Don’t lie.
37. Spend every second possible together.
38. Tell her that she doesn’t have to do anything she doesn’t want to. And mean it.
39. Look into each other’s eyes.
40. Very lightly push up her chin, look into her eyes, tell her you love her, and kiss her lightly.

41. Talk to each other using only body language and your eyes.
42. When in public, only flirt with each other.
43. Walk behind her and put your hands in her front pockets.
44. Put love notes in their pockets when they aren’t looking.
45. Clothes are no fun.
46. Buy her a ring.
47. Keep one of her bras somewhere where you see it everyday.
48. Sing to each other.
49. Read to each other.
50. PDA = Public Display of Affection.

51. Take advantage of any time alone together.
52. Tell her about how you answered every question in math with her name.
53. Draw. (If you can)
54. Let her sit on your lap.
55. Go hiking and camp out together in the woods or on a mountain.
56. Lips were made for kissing. So were eyes, and fingers, and cheeks, and collarbones, and hands, and ears.
57. Kiss her stomach.
58. Always hold her around her hips, sides.
59. Guys like half-shirts.
60. Take her to dinner and do the dinner for two deal.

61. Spaghetti… ( Ever see Lady and the Tramp ?)
62. Hold her hand, stare into her eyes, kiss her hand and then put it over your heart.
63. Unless you can feel their heart beating, you aren’t close enough.
64. Dance together.
65. Sit in front of a roaring fire and make out, make love.
66. I love the way a girl looks right after she’s fallen asleep with her head in my lap.
67. Carry her to bed.
68. Waterbeds are fun.
69. You figure it out.
70. Do cute things like write I love you in a note so that they have to look in a mirror to read it.

71. Break every one of your parent’s relationship rules for them.
72. Make excuses to call them every 5 minutes
73. Even if you are really busy doing something, go out of your way to call and say I love you.
74. Call from your vacation spot to tell them you were thinking about them.
75. Remember your dreams and tell her about them.
76. Ride your bike 8 miles just to see them for a few hours.
77. Ride home and call them.
78. Tell each other your most sacred secrets ,fears.
79. Somehow incorporate them into any kind of religion or worship you have.
80. Be Prince Charming to her parents. ( Brownie Points )

81. Act out mutual fantasies together. ( Not necessarily sexual )
82. Brush her hair out of her face for her.
83. Stay up all night to think of 101 ways to be sweet to them.
84. Hang out with his, her friends. ( more brownie points )
85. Go to church, pray and worship together.
86. Take her to see a romantic movie and remember the parts she liked.
87. Cuddle together under a full moon on a clear night.
88. Learn from each other and don’t make the same mistake twice.
89. Everyone deserves a second chance.
90. Describe the joy you feel just to be with him, her.

91. Make sacrifices for each other.
92. Really love each other, or don’t stay together.
93. Write a fictional story about how you met, fell in love, etc. and give it to them.
94. Let there never be a sec. during any given day that you aren’t thinking about them, and make sure they know it.
95. Love yourself before you love anyone else.
96. Learn to say sweet things in foreign languages.
97. Dedicate songs to them on the radio.
98. Fall asleep on the phone with each other.
99. Sleep naked together.
100. Stand up for them when someone talks trash.
101. Never forget the kiss goodnight. And always remember to say, " Sweet dreams. "

102. Have flowers sent to your girl/guy at their place of work.
103. Plan a surprise trip out of town and don’t tell your loved one where the two of you are going until you get there.
104. Rent a motel/hotel room in town. Just because you’re not out of town doesn’t mean you can’t pretend!
105. Write her/him a poem and put it in their lunch bag.
106. Write them a love letter and put it in the mail.
107. Write on the bathroom mirror in lipstick, I LOVE YOU.
108. Make your sweetheart breakfast in bed.
109. Call your honey at work and tell him/her you’re thinking of him/her.
110. Spoil your love with a nice massage.
111. Write a list of all the reasons why you love your sweetheart, then slip it into their lunch bag.

112. Buy tickets to their favorite concert or play and surprise him/her with them.
113. Buy a gift certificate for her for a day of pampering at a beauty salon.
114. Slow dance with your sweetheart to your favorite song.
115. Go for a walk at the beach and search for seashells together
116. Dedicate a song to her/him over the radio.
117. Watch the sunset together. Or a sunrise.
118. Do not limit romantic occasions to just the weekend.
119. Light some candles to enhance a romantic situation.
120. Compliment her/him.
121. Plan one night a week as a Date Night.

122. Wear his cologne or her perfume for the day.. to remind you of her/him.
123. When you kiss … cup your hands around your lover’s face.. and look deeply into their eyes while saying their name.
124. Surprise your sweetheart by hiding a gift in an obscure spot, like in their desk or in their bed, right below their pillow.
125. Brush her hair. She’ll love you for it!

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I admitted to my husband, I slept with someone else and messed up last week after our five month marriage went sour. I told him I still loved him and wanted to save our marriage. He threw me out but then the next day relented and let me move back in on probation. I now have to report everything I do for the next month and sleep on old mattress in the back pantry as a punishment during that time. So I really am suffering, since its old and damp in there but I am willingly to do anything to save my marriage because I love my husband.

I have come to terms I cant fix things with my husband overnight, but whats bad our family is turned against me. His 17 year old brother who lives with us, no longer will talk to me and this morning said he doesn’t respect me at all anymore (it was his friend, who is 16, I slipped and cheated with). Before this ugly mess, me and my brother in law got along really well and were close friends. My mother in law thinks my husband should divorce me and leave me with nothing, and his cousin thinks I am a tramp.

The worst part is my stepdaughter. Shes 6 and she loved me like a mother (her own mother died two years back). My mother in law and brother in law are all feeding her crap that I am no good and she told me at dinner tonight I am icky for kissing another man. So really my family life is crumbling too pieces and I want everything back to normal. I am not ready to throw in the towel and be a 20 year old divorcee’. I am willingly to fight for my family and I need some good kind advice on what to do. Where do I start? How do I work things out?

DO NOT suggest therapy. I don’t believe therapy works and I believe its all a scam to make money off peoples problems. Advice is what I need.

And again no one needs to tell me I am too young to get married. I will report anyone who does and down thumb your answer.

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Thank you in advance for reading my extra long question…

So my wife and I haven’t really had a great relationship in the first place. We met when we were 19 and started dating over pure lust and physical attraction for each other. We had some things in common but not really that much. No less than a few months of dating, we moved in with each other (mostly because we both needed a second chance at life because our childhoods sucked). Then a few months later she was pregnant with our first child (now have 2). So life was in the fast lane for us. Like many rushed relationships, we developed over time but it’s still developing and it’s been 8 years…

We kind of have this "power struggle" relationship. If I want something, I’ll nag her to do it until she does it. If she wants something, she’ll nag me until I do it. It’s a constant childish struggle to see how we can manipulate the other person to do something we want them to without doing anything in return for it… Again, very childish… Well until I stopped playing it…

See, I’m trying to better myself, I gained 60 lbs since I met her and I’m trying to work it off. She gained about the same but after the birth of our 2nd child she lost it all (damn women luck). So in the effort to try to better myself, I’ve been too busy dieting and working out that I don’t beg her to do stuff any more. I’m actually just trying to get to know her and see if we can FINALLY have common interests so that way when I come home from work I don’t have to be bored any more because I’m being ignored… She’s decided to watch movies alone, ones that she knows I wouldn’t sit down and watch with her (I can stomach romance movies but old 1920’s films with bad english accents is where I draw the line).

Since my wife would rather play on facebook, watch movies alone, and sleep than hang out with me do you think she’s getting bored of me since I’m not nagging her to dye her hair blonde any more or nagging her to wear 3 inch heels any more…? Shouldn’t correcting my negative behavior be HELPING my marriage???

Part 2 to my question is: What are things that I could do to improve my relationship (besides watching the movies)???

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Me and my two little brothers have recently taken interest in playing D&D. Having played Temple of Elemental Evil and every other turn based CRPG that can be played hotseat-style, we’ve decided to try out D&D. I bought the 3.5 DM guide, Player’s Guide and Monster guide and downloaded a bunch of pre-made adventures from the official site. I know the 4th edition rules are out but we figured instead of constantly having to keep up to date on the new rules we’d just dive into the wellspring of adventures made for 3.5

Most of my questions I’ve been able to find answers for in the books or by looking online. We played nearly completely through the adventure "A Dark and Stormy Night" we found on the official D&D website. We got up to the part where you meet the Dark Knight and he attacked, then they had to go to bed for school in the morning.

There are 2 questions we came across in playing that for the life of us we can’t find the info for.

First off: When you sleep, is there any chance of being attacked? I know that in games like Baldur’s Gate you can get attacked when you rest, but there doesn’t seem to be any modifier or dice roll or whatever to determine if you get attacked while sleeping. If so that’s fine, it’s just it seems odd that you can just rest a bunch of times till fully healed with no apparent repercussions (And if so why gain so little HP for an 8 hour rest?) So yeah, is there a die roll or something used to determine if they sleep unmolested?

Second, they’ve found several magical items so far. However I dunno if I’m supposed to just tell them what the item does off the bat or make them identify it. There are no wizards in their party (Just a barbarian and a ranger) but that’s cuz I’m letting them play as whatever they wanna roleplay as. (I figure if we ever do an adventure that requires a mage for any reason, I’ll create one to join them just for that adventure)

As DM, I told my brother (The ranger) that I’ll allow him to use Identify Item scrolls even if he doesn’t meet the requirements for it so that they don’t have to constantly go to shops and pay 100 GP every time they want to identify something.

However in Baldur’s Gate, I recall my Ranger being able to automatically identify some items (usually the weaker ones) so what determines that? In the description of the items it always reads as:

Item Name
Item description (What it does)
Then in itallics it says "faint" "Moderate" etc. and then a type of magic like "Abjuration" or "Conjuration", then CL and a number (I assume that’s the character level required to use the item?) then what type of item it is (Forge Ring, Craft Wonderous Item, etc. which I assume is to determine it’s base cost) and then some random skill name in ittallics like "Bull rush" or "Comprehend language."

Is there some wisdom or knowlege (insert type of knowledge) check used to determine if they can auto-identify it like my ranger can in Baldur’s Gate? And what does the "Faint, moderate, etc." "Type of magic" mean?

Thanks in advance for all your assistance.

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Things girls dont realize?
1. Guys are more emotional then you think, if they loved you at one point, it’ll take them a lot longer then you think to let you go, and it hurts every second that they try.

2. Guys may be flirting around all day, but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.

3. Guys go crazy over a girl’s smile.

4. Guys will to anything just to get you to notice him.

5. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend or ex love-interest. Unless they’re goin for the let-her-complain-to-you-and-then-have-he… how-wonderful-and-nice-you-are method.

6. A guy who likes you wants to be the only guy you talk to.

7. Boyfriends need to be reassured often that they’re still loved.

8. Guys don’t care how gorgeous you are, if you’re a *****– Goodbye.

9. Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!..uh…nevermind.." would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking. And he’ll assume he did something wrong and he’ll obsess about it trying to figure it out.

10. Girls are guys’ weaknesses.

11. Guys are very open about themselves.

12. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don’t need to give advice.

13. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.

14. Guys love you more than you love them.

15. Guys use words like hot or cute to describe girls. They rarely use beautiful or gorgeous. If a guy uses that, he loves you or likes you a whole hell of a lot.

16. No matter how much guys talk about asses and boobs, personality is key.

17. Guys worry about the thin line between being compassionate and being whipped.

18. Guys think WAY too much. One small thing a girl does, even if she doesn’t notice it can make the guy think about it for hours, trying to figure out what it meant.

19. If the guy does something stupid in front of the girl, he will think about it for the next couple days or until the next time he spends time with the girl.

20. If a guy looks unusually calm and laid back, he’s probably faking it and is spazzing inside.

21. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl, he really is. Guys rarely say that.

22. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he’s just actually saying, "Please come and listen to me."

23. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him. It doesn’t happen that often, so when it does, you know something’s up.

24. When a guy tells you that you are beautiful, don’t say you aren’t. It makes them want to stop telling you because they don’t want you to disagree with them.

25. When a guy looks at you for longer than a second, he’s definitely thinking something.

26. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.

27. Don’t be a snob. Guys can be intimidated and give up easily.

28. Guys talk about girls more than girls talk about guys.

29. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions and are MAD confusing but somehow are drawn even more to them.

30. A guy would give his right nut to be able to read a girl’s mind for a day.

31. No guy can handle all his problems on his own. He’s just too stubborn to admit it.

32. Not all guys are assholes. Just because ONE is a jackass doesnt mean he represents ALL of them.

33. They love it when girls talk about their boobs.

34. When a guy hits your butt it means that he wants you sexually

35. Even if they refuse it all guys are ticklish on the ribs.

36. Guys love neck rubs and if he lets you keep doing it ..it means that he really likes you or his neck really hurts.

37. When a guy sacrifices his sleep and health just to be with you, he really likes you and wants to be with you as much as possible.

38. Even if you dump a guy months ago and he loved you he probably still does and if he had one wish it would be you to come back into his life.

—Ladies, if u don’t repost this within 1 hr then you will lose the guy of your life

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We dated for three weeks and something, but we’d been best friends for a while. But the thing is, i’m the “school-clown” kind of girl, and he’s really shy.

I felt like we were back in elementary school, to be honest. but anyhow; we just had a lot of problems with the whole shyness thing. and i was about to go to sleep one night and i realized that i didn’t really want to be with him anymore… or so i thought? because the next day when i broke up with him i felt like crap. I couldn’t believe what i did. I spoke to him about a day after; apologizing to him.

But he said he didn’t want me back, and i just told him i could wait for him until he ever changed his mind. =| Last friday.. i guess he “moved on”, he’s dating his best friend.

She’s a grade lower than us, and they’d always be hanging out with her when we were dating.

What should i tell him? Should i keep waiting for him?

I know i made a wrong choice and I really want him back, ut i don’t want to keep living in the shadow of my mistake!

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i have ran out of ideas for music, i dont like heavy or hard rap, but its ok to have a little rap in it. the song has to have a good chorus, i like rock but not rock with a bunch of yelling im not really into bone thugs i like different genres here are some of my favs. if anyone knows any songs that can relate that would help so much. thanks!

two is better than 1 by boys like girls ft taylor swift
lips of an angel by hinder
better than me by hider
i need you now by lady antebellum
bad romance by lady gaga
rise above this by seether
if you only knew by shinedown
second chance by shinedown
nobody by keith sweat
already gone by kelly clarkston
bust it baby by plies ft neyo
down by jay sean ft lil wayne
show me what im lookin for by carolina liar
i will be by leona lewis
how do you sleep by jesse mcartney

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my daughter lost her man to a yonger gitl than her and she cant get him back and she loves him to deth she crys every night to fall a sleep

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well it like this we have been married for 36 yrs,but now there no making love or anything,it seem like i am always the one to approach him ,i am the one who always trying to be romantic,he never show any feeling about it.when i try to talk to him about it,he say it turn him .off,but for the last 15 yrs nothing,he treat me like i am his house keeper or just someone to take care of him,,but there is 20 yr differencece in our ages,,i don’t know if that it or not,but he will tak to me about it,i have try to get us help ,,but he wants nothong ti do with it, and get’s very mad if i suggested it to him,he said i stupid,,to pay money for this kind of help and he don’t need any help.he, have try variety of things and pills but he still show no interest in it what so ever,i even try play dressing up, but ,,he tell me to get dress before some one come to our door,….my husband is 74 yrs old and i am 54 yrs old,i feel like he either don’t care or he do not have the desire any more.i have try to get him to get away for a nice week -end of romance,,but he say thats a waste of money, when he has his own house.so now i don’t know what to do.i know, i took vows with this man,and i know sex is not the most important thing in a reationhip..and i know i am his wife,but this has gone to far,he is very protected,and processive..and he watch me evey where i go and what i do even when i am just in my own yard.,if i go visited some one he times me,he will not go with me, but he time how long i stay at my friend home.he never want to go anywhere just stay home,and most time he sleep..as long as he knows i am inside of the house..,,so i hope you all understand ,i have so much feeling right now and i am human and in need of compassion and passion,and i desire the touch of ones love and to feel that love back when it is giving, but i feel like i am the one giving and recieving nothing back,,i have never mess up on this in all the yrs we have been married,,but some where there got to be a thin line drawn,,i hope you can understand how i feel and try to put yourself in my place,,what would you really do.and how would you really feel about this kind of relationship
please.i don’t wany any one to miss undersand ,i hav a very hight sex drive,,age has nothing to do with mine,and i am not saying we never had sex in 36 yrs,,what i am saying is for the last past 15 yrs,there has been no sex ..or anythingno kissing unless i do the kissing,..and as far as the abuse i have live with that for 36 yrs,..both mentally and physically.but he act like i am his slave not his wife..and i have try to get help..but what good is it if i am the one going and not him??as far as love,,yes i love him,but i am not in love with him any more,to me he more like a room mate not a husband ,we don’t even share the samebed room any more.
please.i don’t wany any one to miss undersand ,i hav a very hight sex drive,,age has nothing to do with mine,and i am not saying we never had sex in 36 yrs,,what i am saying is for the last past 15 yrs,there has been no sex ..or anythingno kissing unless i do the kissing,..and as far as the abuse i have live with that for 36 yrs,..both mentally and physically.but he act like i am his slave not his wife..and i have try to get help..but what good is it if i am the one going and not him??as far as love,,yes i love him,but i am not in love with him any more,to me he more like a room mate not a husband ,we don’t even share the samebed room any more.

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High School Sweethearts- First Kiss, First everything I lost interest our their relationship because nothing was changing (I was still living in sin) for almost 6 years! He goes off to College in a different state. I break up with him because I was interested in someone else, and did not want to cheat. and also felt like I would never be good enough to be his wife. I did sleep w/ 2 people in those 5 months. A guy who I have known for almost 2 years, and this other guy who took advantage of me. I told my ex all of this, and all of the details. Maybe I was being too honest, but I love him and I know that he is the one for me but it seems like nothing I do is working. People cheat all of the time, and keep it secret, or their spouse forgives them. He has become quite religious, and I told him that god says forgive people of their sins as he did for us. So, do I deserve a second chance? Or is there no hope in winning him back?

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My husband takes Ambient (sleeping pill) when he has trouble sleeping. So, last night he falls asleep around 8. I didn’t get to bed in till about 1130 around 2am my husband wants to have sex. The one thing about Ambient the people taking it, do not remember what they say or do. We start having sex and he FALLS asleep. WTF. I wake him up and he tells me be quite im trying to enjoy this. Enjoy What you just fell asleep his reaction is no i didn’t. He starts up again and Falls asleep again.. Finally Im just like get off of me Im going to bed. He then gets into this rant about how I disrespectful towards him. I was like YOU FELL ASLEEP ITS 2AM. I need to go to work in the morning. …Mind you HE IS NOT WORKING THIS WEEK. So, I go to the other bedroom to get some sleep he wakes me up at 530 to tell me that he is pissed at me. I explained to him that it was not fair to me that he woke me up and fell asleep during sex and he tells me he didn’t fall asleep.. I have been sleeping with this man for about 3 years I know when my husband is asleep. Plus this happen the night before we had sex and he didn’t even remember having sex because of this damm Ambient.

So, by the time i get to work I have an email in my email box and a nasty voice mail telling me read the email and how dare i leave the house with out telling him I love him.. WTF.. I haven’t open up the email, because im afraid I’m going to blow up…. What an ass. I have never never denied him sex at 12am-6am in the morning. Im sooooo pisst I cant even type this rant right!

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we were together over 13 years since i was 17. we were married 11 of them. I come from a broken home my mother is married to an alcoholic that was abusive to her. My grandmother took me away from her when i was 10. but every time they would get into it. We would go get her and help her get away from him and then she would go back. This went on even until I was married with my own kids and own problems. Finally when i was 23 she moved in with us and i told her if she went back that I would never help her again because i couldn’t take it anymore. She went back less than 3 months later.
Well my relationship started at a time in my life that i was headed down the wrong path and at 17 i had my heart broken to many times falling for the wrong guys.
then me and my ex started dating and we were in separable. We married just a little over a year dating i got pregnant. Had my first son at 19. My ex always had a temper and would blow up even before we got married. he was really jealous. i couldn’t go do stuff with my friends unless he came.
He didn’t start drinking till after we got married. i was 7 months along.
We lived right down the road from his parents. So i got really close to them. Some verbal abuse and his drinking got worse over time he would push or just threaten me.
Time went on we had another son and it would get so bad that i would l leave and get away even if i had to sleep in my car. i debated on leaving for years. but he has a good paying job and anytime anything would happen i would go buy me something.
It wasn’t always bad we had a lot of good times too. I love him more than anything he was my world. His family was the family i never had.
But when things would happen no one ever knew cause i would pretend we were a perfect family because that’s all i ever wanted. then 3 years ago my dreams came true we found some land built us a new house.
but during the time of building our new house he had started hanging around a guy that is a drug head and theif.
He would lie to me and go pick the guy up without my knowledge and put himself insituations that were he could have been killed.
Of course we would fight and pushing and shoving got worse with the verbal and emotional abuse. I would catch him in lies over and over.
one time went swimming with this guy with my kids after dark in a creek. He would never answer the phone and come to find out he was skinny dipping with 2 girls. But i stuck in there was getting my big new house.
Time we on the lies the fighting the drinking got worse. Finally after not even living in the new house i gave up. I found out he was selling pills and just hanging out with losers that don’t work and were single. i just started to hate him. So 6 more months went by just getting worse. I was going crazy cause I loved him so much and was begging him to change. Pick me or his drug loser friends. So finally Christmas morning in 2007 i refused to go to his family because of the fighting morning. I told his mother that i couldn’t handle the drinking anymore. Two nights later we went out with friends for drinks and met another man.
well now it’s been 1 1/2 later. I’ve divorced him. but i keep going back in forth between my ex husband and ex boyfriend. I love them both in different ways, they have both now physically and mentally abused me. But my ex boyfriend has went to counseling and still talks to a pastor. My ex still drinks as always and even now has started cussing my kids. But I still Love him!!! i wish everything could work but i can’t take the lies and the verbal and physical abuse. i want to go back now! but not even 2 weeks ago he choked me till i almost past out!
he doesn’t spend much time with my kids but he is trying.
My ex boyfriends worships the ground i walk on!! He loves my kids and they love him. What should i do go back to there dad? Get back with my ex boyfriend. Just confused please HELP!!!
Plus all my so called friends love my ex husband since they know as the great couple lol but they go back and tell him what i’m doing. so i have no friends to turn to… thanks

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i desperatley want to know how to find that spark my husband and I once had, he lied to me about texting a friend of mine which was innocent on his side because all he asked her was where was she, i saw the text..but she thought it was more and accused him of wanting to sleep with her..later my friends and I found out she was the one who actually had the crush on him and tried to break us up so she could have him.., i accept that he made a mistake but i cant move on not knowing if he will ever lie to me again..and i hate myself for allowing this person to come between my partner and I. I feel sick and want to vomit thinking if she ever tried to make a move on him and he never has told me, basically im having a hard time believing whats true and whats not??? i know i could never know if it would happen but i really really want to go back to the way we were, free spirits in love and happy around our kids..I need to stop bringing it up, and he is sooo over hearing it and doesnt want to deal with it anymore, but i feel like IM the one picking up the pieces of whats happend…
most importantly need to learn to forgive..how can someone do that!

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I had a six month casual relationship with this guy who I lost my virginity to. I got too attached to him and told him how I felt and that I either want an official relationship from him or thats it. So he asked me to be his girlfriend and that was the best in my life. But then, he went MIA for a while and when I finally called him, he told me that he didnt want a girlfriend right now and only needed to focus on his studies. He asked if we could still be friends and because I have strong feelings for him, I agreed. When we would "hang out", he would act like my boyfriend again, cuddle with me, hold my hand, making false promises and giving me false hope. I have realized that he was just playing with my feelings so that he was the only one who could have me and he was hoping for me to sleep with him again. I have decided to end it for good and have ignored him for the past few weeks.

Ever since we broke up two months ago, I have suffered major depression and have cried almost every night. I lost all of my closest friends because they had warned me about him but being so in love with him, I was too blind to see it. So I can’t talk to anyone about this, as I have no close friends. I try to be stong, act like nothing is wrong and put on a smile for everyone who knows me but I am dying on the inside. I have tried to forget about this with alcohol and partying but that just makes it worse. I feel like I am not worthy of a real relationship and I will never be loved. Please help! Will I ever get over this?

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Ok! I always felt in my heart that my husband was cheating on me…he was acting weird, he’s crazy busy all the time, he never made time for me, never calls me or text me. My husband is a Bounty Hunter and a Private Investigator therefore for me to follow him or hire someone to catch him was almost impossible. #1 because of the kind of job my husband has he is always on the phone! Every time the phone rings he goes downstairs and runs his mouth on the phone! My husband is always on the phone!
#2 My husband always keep his phone on him, at night when he is sleeping the phone is always near him, under his pillow I mean he never leave the phone out of his site!
He locks his phone! he wont give me his voice mail password! He wont give me his e-mail password! These are the reason why I had these guts feeling about my husband cheating on me! I am a open book I have no secrets with my husband and he was never so secretive when we got married. But why can’t I believe that my husband could ever sleep with another women! I just can’t believe he is capable of doing something like this.
I asked God please i’m going crazy if my husband is cheating on me please send me a sign I need to know!
My sister was driving her truck, I was on the passenger side and my husband in the back and I saw him texting someone and when i turned my head again I saw the picture of a beautiful girl on his phone!
I was like who is that? he said no one! he denied knowing who she was. Later on he confessed to me and said that he met the girl when he was working as a security person at a club! He gave her his business card and she texted him and he said he just love the attention. He said nothing happened between them and that was the 1st time and only time he ever texted a girl! Please you guys what should I do…gosh this man wont tell me the truth! Oh and the worst thing is when we were talking about the situation I asked him to see his phone and check his messages but he didn’t want me to touch his phone!
What should I do I want to save my marriage!

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Let’s say you told your wife or girlfriend not to speak or see someone (a man) and you gave your reasons why you don’t want her to be speaking to this man, but she goes and does all this any way behind your back. Would you consider this cheating? If not, what would this be considered to you? How would you feel and/ or how would react or think you would react (if you found out on your own/by someone else or if she told you)?

Please let me know anything you want to say about this. It’s okay if it doesn’t answer the questions above. Any comments related to this matter are accepted and appreciated.

It would be a big help. I need a man’s point of view to know the amount of trouble I’m in or what I should be expecting if he finds out. Or just how you all feel about it.

Thank you so much!

xox,
Pixie

P.S. I know I already post this question, but I had it under the category Singles & Dating (accident). I only got two answers and would like more than that to really help me out.
Women are more than welcome to give their opinion on this subject matter, as well. =)
I happen to really like this man and enjoy spending time with him. I always seem to have the urge to see or speak to him. I can’t help it!
Why he told me not to see him:
He told me not to see him because this guy has wanted to ‘get with me’ for a while now. We happen to be friends, but a couple of months ago, he told my husband that he wants to be with me. He may have also said that he ‘won’t rest’ until he manages to sleep with me. That probably sounds really bad, but it’s not really… Him and my husband have had prior conflicts before this.
What gives my husband the RIGHT to tell me who I can and cannot see? I know he told my husband that he won’t rest until he sleeps with me, but him telling me to cut off contact with this guy just shows that he DOES NOT trust me. I’ve never done anything for him to think that I’d turn around and have sex with another guy. I am NOT my husband property.
Apparently this is more serious than I thought, judging by some of the comments. =S

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Me and my husband got married got married at a super young age. It’s because I got pregnant. I was 18 and he 20. First months of our life together were generally good, but a little after that, we would start arguing way too much. It started off by him wanting to go out and I was too tired because I was pregnant and just wanted to sleep, so I would let him go, but then he would come back till’ 1 in the morning all drunk like almost every day. I kept telling him how mad and unhappy that made me nut he just told me that it shouldn’t matter because he’s still young and needs to have fun and shouldn’t suffer because I’m pregnant and he’s not, we have different responsibilities. Then I just decided to stick it out through all this fighting and see how he’ll act when the baby’s here. So when our gorgeous baby was born he hasn’t changed much. I mean we argue allot and stuff but by the end of the day would forgive each other because we were so in love. then one time our arguments got so bad that he got physical and hit me. I got so mad and called the cops on him. they put him in jail for couple hours and bla bla. well it turned good for him no charges or anything and we worked it out after all. Now our arguments are just as bad we would argue every other day and now eventually after a pretty big argument we had he totally changed his feelings for me. All of a sudden he’s tired of all this drama and tired of me and doesn’t wanna be with me anymore. No matter hOw much I’ve been begging him. I know we argue way too much and our marriage is a big big mess, but I love him with all of myself and really don’t want to lose him and separate our family. What should I do? Move on? Or how can I fix our marriage? And how can I make him fall in love with me again?

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How can i make him want me back??

We broke up a month ago…he broke up with me actually…too much stuff went down…

I thought he was cheating or about to, so i kicked him out. Some of his stuff is still here…today i called after a month and said you have until wed. to pick it up, thats it.

Then something told me to call him back. So i did, i asked if he was busy tonight, he said he had to go to sleep early for work…he said what about tomorrow…i think well meet for coffee…im just looking for closure…he really hurt me bad…i know i hurt him too…

But according to his friend he was always flirting around and he did ask a girl out on myspace…some of my guy friends were asking me out…maybe he was jealous? He said no…anyway…

How can i show him im strong and have moved on…and make him a little curious and regret letting me go?

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My husband lost his second job in 6 months. I am currently 7 months pregnant. We have 3 other kids. All he will do is sleep. My dad offered him a small job and he went to bed. A friend offered him a small job and he went to bed. Right now he is sleeping of the couch while our kids are fighting. He won’t help me at all. I am so sick of this. I get so mad that last night I locked him out of our room. He tried to call me at 4:00 in the morning to let him in. Would you try to work it out or call it quits?

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I feel terrible. I wasn’t expecting this. She just broke up with me, and after 2 hours of talking to me, the only reason she gave was that I acted too shy around her friends. Wow. And now I can’t sleep.

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I was not strong enough to relized he did love me and i was falling in my ex-husband trap to make me be under his control. my Exboyfriend knows i love him and he said he loves me. I can’t eat nor sleep because he on my mind. We are still friends(best friend) i appolize and beg him. but i don’t know what elsa to do. i just know that i want him. I relized that i don’t need him. He wants me to stand on my own to feet to quite letting everyone controll me. He treat me like I somebody. He the first I ever want to fight for. what can i do?

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When I moved out of my boyfriends’s house a couple of months ago my son started acting funny about going to sleep in his own crib, we’ve both been sick and so to make it easier I just keep putting him to sleep in my bed. Now what do I do to break him of that? I NEED my space back fast!!!

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