Taking ex husband back to court?

Me and my ex husband have been divorce since june 09. We got joint custody. I was never at the divorce hearing because i was never notify of the court date so what he put down he got. My ex has a new child before we was divorce. Even though we live in different states and he is in the army a phone isn’t that hard to do.He never calls to check up on my son he calls like once a month he gives me child support because he has he said he wouldn’t give it to me but since he has to he does. Now I want to take him back to court because I was sole custody of my 2 year old son. My son has been in my custody since day 1. My ex never sent him a birthday card no christmas gifts his mom gets my son gifts and puts my exs name on it. He makes it seem like he is father of the year. everyone knows he has a daughter but they dont know he has a son. So I want to go back to court to get full custody more child support and to make him pay for daycare since I cant get a job in the daytime since both my parents work and dont get home til like 5 or 6. He refuses to pay for daycare or even help me. I start school next month and have to go at night because I have no one to watch my son in days and that’s why its impossible for me to get a job because no one wants to hire me because of my hours of 6-close most jobs night hours are 5-11.

Im not trying to be some bitter women but you just have to put yourself in my shoes. I just think my son deserves better and I dont want to share my son with someone who doesn’t care about him just because he didn’t want a boy but now has a daughter doesn’t mean anything. Any advice how I can get this court case started??? By the way Im 21 I live in VA and my ex i dont know where he stays he lies about his locations with me


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Can i take my ex husband back to court to get back custody of our kids ?

we modify the papers and i gave him sole custody of the kids with me with reasonable visitations he does not let them see me hardly at all now that he is remarried.Can i take him back to court and file for my custody back to our children we live in alabama


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Husband filed for divorce but has not taken the steps to try and finish it. I’m still in love…help!?

We’ve been separated for a while…we have 2 young children together. He filed for divorce 7 mos ago but has not taken the steps to finish it. It seems like he wants me to finish it for him since I have a lawyer and he doesn’t, but that shouldn’t stop him from moving on with the papers himself. We have nothing to divide or settle, really. I’ve filed for child support and was granted sole custody last week (filed these things way before he filed for a divorce).

I have been moving on with all areas of my life except in the love dept. I’ve gone back to school to work on a 2nd degree in the medical field and to also work on my MBA part-time. He on the other hand has not improved as much…deep inside I feel he is a great guy who has made some real bad mistakes (in our marriage) and I feel like we can, if we both put in the effort, to be a family again.

I don’t like feeling like I still love him but sometimes can’t help it because we were once together and we have kids together.

A good friend told me to make sure I have peace about any decisions I make regarding the divorce. My Pastor told me to let the divorce go on (the process) and to not get in the way of it. Well, my feeling like it’s all on him, it’s his decision because he is the one who filed it.

He’ll call once in a while and while I’d rather keep our convos strictly about the kids, he will go off topic discussing his life and asking questions about mine…but doing it in a way that makes it not obvious.

Sometimes, when my kids are talking to him, he’ll ask them where I am or what I’m doing. He may also tell them to give the phone to me, but most of the time I refuse to speak because it still hurts and I feel I would be well on my way to the road towards healing if I cut him off. I mean he can call the kids when ever he’d like, but I don’t think I can be friends with him and not feel anything for him at the same time.

What do you guys think about this? He said he wants someone who wants to do something good with their life and someone who is moving towards a positive direction..including someone who puts God first. And I’m thinking to myself (you HAD her…me…) I’ve even abstained from sex for almost 3 years because it is my belief that I only share my body with my husband.

Sometimes I feel like yelling at him and telling him "you’re looking for something that you already know!!!!!!!" But like others have told me…it’s just best to let it go, he will come back (and straighten up) if it’s meant to be…

what do you think?

it hurts to think I should personally cut him off…but then again it may help me to heal even better…

We haven’t seen each other in almost 3 years.

I’m planning to take a trip where he lives (with our kids) this summer. to also get a sense of closure…

He told me about 2 weeks ago that he does not have any animosity towards me (he was the one unfaithful in the marriage) and that HE is tired and wants to be free. Well, ok, well I feel like HE is the who filed, HE is the one who’s been living a single life. Why should I be the one to finish it? I know it is not good to stay in limbo for a long time. If this continues, I eventually will have to decide to finish it for him, but I don’t feel comfortable doing it now…

In addition, should I tell him how I feel? Or should I just leave things alone and let the chips fall where they may…


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what if my ex doesn’t take our daughter to her court interview today?

i’m trying to get sole custody of my 7 year old daughter b/c she came home on 12-3-09 and told me he had slapped her in the back of the head (where she had 3 staples closing a cut she received the week before from a fall) b/c she didn’t stick with the lie he’d made up for her to miss school. he was supposed to drive her to school that morning but for whatever reason, decided that I should pick her up on my way home from work (he does this all the time) so he told me she hit her head on a car door frame and couldn’t go to school. when I asked my daughter about this, she told me that never happened and when her dad heard her say this, he disconnected our phone call. when I picked my daughter up from his house a few minutes later, she told me after he hung up-he yelled at her "why did you lie to your mom?" then hit her on the back of the head where her staples are then asked her "does your head hurt now?" I called CPS and filed a report but b/c I’m the ex-wife, they assumed I was doing this just b/c I was pissed at him and closed the case. I filed a complaint against the caseworker in because she NEVER called me to discuss anything and this was even after several phone calls were made to her office and me speaking to her superviser twice. after this incident, my ex showed up at our daughter’s school on a day that I TOLD him she was staying hom sick. he showed up to start a fight w/me when I dropped off my other two girls (NOT HIS KIDS). when I got to the school, I saw him on the front porch so I refused to get out of the car b/c things would just escalate so I sent my two girls into the school-my ex ended up harrassing my 10 year old daughter by trying to block her path twice and chasing her down a hallway until a staff member stopped him and made him leave.

I got an order of protection that lasted a month but the court overturned it b/c I couldn’t prove the abuse against our daughter and they wouldn’t interview her.

we had a hearing on friday to change custody where I requested the court interview our daughter b/c without the interview, a fair ruling could not be made. my ex got angry in open court,refusing our daughter’s interview but the judge saw this and decided to order the interview anyways. he then allowed my ex to keep our daughter for 2 days before the interview and told my ex he would be the one taking her to it!! this is all b/c he is listed as the custodial parent in our decree (a mistake on my part-he’s never truly been a custodial parent-I do everything for her medically and educationally).

I am worried my ex won’t show up for this interview today b/c it could incrimenate him. what happens if he doesn’t show up with her and she misses her interview?!! we don’t have another court date until 3-11-10


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