ex girlfriend is confusing me .. help ! [ 10 points ]?

I will always and forever have my ex girlfriend back … and I know she will always have mine …

She broke up with me for no clear reason last month … but she wants be to REAL TIGHT with me still … she told me : "I don’t know if you let ur friends talk about me.. but I would never let a guy come up to me trying to disrespect you or what we had.. and thats my word."

While we were together .. we always said it was going to last forever, because we liked each other for a whole year, and we never argued or anything … we were like soulmates .

But a month after breaking it off with me..she finds a new guy [a past dude she went out with two years ago.] , and they dont even talk much .. but she always signs on when I’m on and puts up these away messages saying "I’ve made alot of mistakes in my life … I need a change."

We don’t talk as much, but she always IMs me about something random.. [ ie : stop photoshoppin ur pics loser. lol ]
and she took my side when me and her friend was having a playful arguement .. what is her deal ? She doesn’t like her other past ex boyfriends .. so why does she still cling on to me with dear life ?

Heres a convo we just recently had :

Her: thns 4 hiiten me baq
Me: uh oh. what i do.
Her: u didnt im me baq~
Me: if i dont IM you back. then im either doin suttin or Matt is on. lol. my b
Me: u signed off when i came back
Her: ooo
Her: nd i commeted ur pic the other day nd got nuutttin!
Her: THANK YOU
Me: iight. i’ll comment.
Me: =]
Her: sureeeee! after i complained
Her: lol
Me: lol. whoopss.
Her: i do look mad spanish with my hair like that
Her: right
Me: nah
Her: yes!
Her: i hate lookin spanish lmao
Me: too bad u dont look it.
Me: lol.
Her: lmao good thats shat i like to hear



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How to convince my fiance to get rid of/move on from his abusive ex-girlfriend?

My fiance (who I’ll call P) and I have been together for over a year (he only recently popped the question, and don’t plan to get married for another year or so when we graduate from graduate school).

Anyways, I found a box under the bookshelf in the living room today that contained old letters and A HUNDRED photos of him & his ex-girlfriend (who I’ll call X), who he dated 12 years ago for 4 years (and KEPT IN TOUCH WITH until he met me).

This is how the two of them met: X had a boyfriend, but cheated on him to begin dating my fiance, beginning a 4-year-long relationship that consisted of her telling my fiance that they were soulmates (and belonged together for life), but cheated on him with that other guy (and many other guys) for those 4 years.

The fourth year that X and P dated, X found some guy that she was planning on marrying, but she told P, "if you say youll marry me, I won’t marry this guy." By that time, my fiance P wasn’t sure if he could trust her so he said no. She went off and married the guy, had kids, and till this day still e-mailed him about how they were soulmates and belonged together.

My bf has a very good heart and always sees the good in people. I don’t care if he keeps in touch with his other exes but I can tell that this woman is still manipulating him (pretending to be a nice and "changed," and telling him she hopes hes in a happy relationship.

Anyways, I have been trying to tell my fiance that just because she didn’t PHYSICALLY abusive to him doesn’t mean she wasn’t abusive. She made him lose faith in love until he met me. I asked him, "if I was in a 4 year relationship where the man beat me every day but told me we were soulmates and that he loved me, I would also lose faith in love. But if I met you and felt safe again, WOULDN’T YOU BE BOTHERED if I still kept photos of this guy, letters he wrote me, and kept talking to him (even though he was still telling me we were soulmates)?

My fiance said, "you have to believe in forgiveness," and I replied, "some people don’t deserve forgiveness. If I cheated on you and abused you for so long, I DON’T DESERVE to have you in my life anymore."

Okay, story over :/.

What can I do/say to make him see this? What can I do to make him throw out the photos/letters?

Even if he does it, will it CHANGE the way he feels?

If I leave him, will he realize he needs to change then?


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