I got dumped a month ago, a couple of days of pleading now and then failed completely, and now we’re barely on speaking terms. I’m trying to recover but it’s taking a lot longer than I expected.
There are all these articles and ebooks and programs online from ‘dating coaches’ that claim to give you advice or even training on how to get your ex back, are any of them for real?
http://www.google.com.sa/search?hl=en&q=get+your+ex-girlfriend+back&aq=f&oq=&safe=active
Did any guy here have this experience, only with a good ending?
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So this guy John that I have known for almost 3 yrs dated since July/August of 2009 until Feb 2010.We split up and had no communication for almost 2 months(non-speaking terms).Anyways I saw him around a couple of times at the same bar that he goes to where I was with(once 5 weeks ago or so) and once last week.Last week I asked him if he would like to grab a cup of coffee with me and catch up.I was trying to be civilized etc and just polite.He said "no" which I expected and accepted and I was about to walk away when he started to vent abt. the break up and his life and so forth.I listened to all of this for 20 minutes of so,he was raising his voice,I was telling him to calm down and next thing I know he kissed me and proposed to me.I accepted the proposal(stupid I know!) but hrs. later found out that my ex had a couple of drinks with his friends.Anyways him and I chatted,catched up,all his friends knew that we both were outside and talking.I was introduced that night to his dad who has lung cancer as his fiance.His dad was so happy that his son found someone to make him happy.The ex and I talked until 4am and 9am comes and the ex had some errands to run,I call my ex a couple of hrs later b/c we needed to talk and he calls back.He finally says that the prior night was us moving too fast and that we should remain good friends.I said sure yet even though I was not sure how I would take it.Monday of this week I called and asked him if he meant what he said,he played the dumb role and asked me what part and I told him the whole thing on Thursday.I guess he still remembered since he was not opened to talk about the subject and always said comments like how I should drop the subject and how he does not want any more drama.I asked him my final question which was how someone can say something and 12 hrs later have those words taken back.He still wanted to be friends he said after I asked him all those 2 questions.After that we did not speak for a couple of days.I called him 2 days ago and he was busy and I made it a 20 second convo saying that since he is too busy I will let him go(what he usually does anyways).Today I was polite to call and wish him happy Good Friday.We talked briefly and he had to go since he hates driving and talking at the same time.I told him that I could be his friend but I cannot.I still like him more than a friend so here is my question:do I sit down with him and tell him "John, look I know we have agreed that we ought to remain friends.But I cannot be your friend because I like you more than a friend.I understand if you cannot or do not return my feelings but I cannot be stuck here in limbo."….I just want to tell him how I really feel so I can get it off my chest.I had the guts to ask him to grab coffee and that took a lot of guts.I am not sure how to approach this and tell him how I still feel with out making him uncomfortable.
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Him,our mutual friend Hanan and I were best friends before him and I started to date.Now since I am best friends with Hanan and she is good friends with him as well well it became complicated.Mine and his break up was supposed to be personal but expanded to include a large group of friends,our siblings,close and best friends,etc.Now he gave our mutual friend an ultimatum:that she has to choose who she wants to be friends with either him or I which I find stupid.My friend wants to stay out of the drama and same here except that he does not realize that he,himself is creating the drama or at least most of it now.My friend Hanan and I have stepped away from the whole drama about the break up yet the was the one who could not let go if he made our friend choose.
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we just had a babygirl – our first child. she is from europe and I am from the U.S. The last 4 months of her pregnancy (during which we were fighting and sometimes not even on speaking terms) she spent in her home country and during that time her ex-bf intervened and played the supporting role and now she and he are "together"…I am desperate and am seeking advice as to how to put our marriage back together. she will not go to counciling but has agreed to read some articles I have found on saving marriages. her claim is that she and I are incompatible because we rationalize about things differently and make decisions differently…that our lifestyles are too different but we’ve only been married for two years. she says her ex gives her security but this is the same guy who while they were dating for 10 years, slept with her best friend and her sister. All I want are my wife and daughter back. she is standing her ground and says she doesnt love me anymore but there was a reason she left him for me. I have to believe there is a way and that deep down she still loves me! I don’t want to give up. can someone please lend me some advice? thank you very much,
james
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i was dating a girl for four months and after about 3 and a half i was unsure about the relationship. after a one day break SHE broke up with ME. I realized how much life sucked without her, and did everything i could and got her back. We were together for 2 weeks before i found out she had been talking to another guy behind my back. This was the second time she had been talking to him. i tried talking to her about it and she didnt want to hear it, so she called me after school and broke up with me. i was devastated. i tried a couple more times to rekindle the love by pouring my heart out to her. we were friends for a little while after this, but then i got into a fight with the guy she had been talking to. because of this she was not talking to me. i made up with her again and now we are on speaking terms. i guess the thing is that this girl is my first love, and i am still in love with her. although i know she likes someone else, i am in love with her. what can i do?
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I got dumped a month ago, a couple of days of pleading now and then failed completely, and now we’re barely on speaking terms. I’m trying to recover but it’s taking a lot longer than I expected.
There are all these articles and ebooks and programs online from ‘dating coaches’ that claim to give you advice or even training on how to get your ex back, are any of them for real?
http://www.google.com.sa/search?hl=en&q=get+your+ex-girlfriend+back&aq=f&oq=&safe=active
Did any guy here have this experience, only with a good ending?
Sam1979: Get bloody assraped.
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