I recently broke up with female who has a negative attitude towards life and it wasn’t a healthy relationship for me to stay in. She has two children and lives in a house the she and her soon to be “ex” husband bought a year ago. Also, she quit her job even though I told her not to, and is now struggeling with $$ because unemployment rejected her claim for benefits (she quites). Her only income is a part time job. Her soon to be “ex” husband” does not want to pay for the bills they have together, and only pays child support when he wants to. I have my own place. However, I did stay at her house from time to time. We started arguing a lot towards the end mainly because she’s never happy and that mindset was on a daily basis. She and her own children admitted this to me that she has always been like that. My biggest problem was more so her financial situation. A few weeks ago an argument started because she believed I never helped her out with any of the bills. My view was that the bills where created by her and the (ex) husband and should be handled by themselves or even consider suing him for that. But she claimed, because I stayed at her house I should of payed the light, water, and so on. True, I do stay there, however, I have my own place (bills), and if it came down to it, I could of simply just visit her if that was the case. Besides, I offered for her to spend QT at my place but towards the end she insisted of me staying at her house. A few months back she called me cheap because I eased on my spending habits when we were going out to eat/dance/Ect. I always calculated on how much things cost… In any event, the last few months we have been on/off because she was so negative about everything. Even though I took her to places such as parks, different restaurants, movies, ect. We really had good/great times together, but the minute we got home or we left the place, I felt her negative energy taking over the relationship. It got to the point that she truly believed that my ex put a spell on her and decided to see some witch () who claimed that the reason our relationship didn’t workout was because my ex who put a spell on us… (rolling my eyes) so the witch gave her some water mixed with green/smelly stuff. One night when we took a shower she quickly threw some of that green/smelly stuff on me. My body and the entire freaking bathroom stunk (lol). This past Tuesday she broke it off with me because of a silly argument that she couldn’t get ahold of me on the cellphone. Now, here is the problem. I have been trying to let go (break up) with her for the last couple of weeks, maybe more… and every time I think I am able to let go… I get sucked back into her. It’s like something is holding me back from moving forwards in life and end up back right with her. I really thought that it was for good…. but for two days straight I received blocked calls but nobody said anything. This was going on up until yesterday evening she told me in a very angry tone that she cleaned her house and noticed a few movies missing (which she gave to me) and for me to mail them back to her, and wished me good luck going back with my ex… as I stated this to her to make sure she would back off once and for all. She attempted to call me back a few more times blocked but I refused to pick up. I haven’t received anymore calls since than. Even though I only believe in one higher being (GOD), I begin to think that this nut basket actually put some crazy vodoo/witch craft on me…. what is your take on this…….?? Thanks!
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I recently broke up with female who has a negative attitude towards life and it wasn’t a healthy relationship for me to stay in. She has two children and lives in a house the she and her soon to be “ex” husband bought a year ago. Also, she quit her job even though I told her not to, and is now struggeling with $$ because unemployment rejected her claim for benefits (she quites). Her only income is a part time job. Her soon to be “ex” husband” does not want to pay for the bills they have together, and only pays child support when he wants to. I have my own place. However, I did stay at her house from time to time. We started arguing a lot towards the end mainly because she’s never happy and that mindset was on a daily basis. She and her own children admitted this to me that she has always been like that. My biggest problem was more so her financial situation. A few weeks ago an argument started because she believed I never helped her out with any of the bills. My view was that the bills where created by her and the (ex) husband and should be handled by themselves or even consider suing him for that. But she claimed, because I stayed at her house I should of payed the light, water, and so on. True, I do stay there, however, I have my own place (bills), and if it came down to it, I could of simply just visit her if that was the case. Besides, I offered for her to spend QT at my place but towards the end she insisted of me staying at her house. A few months back she called me cheap because I eased on my spending habits when we were going out to eat/dance/Ect. I always calculated on how much things cost… In any event, the last few months we have been on/off because she was so negative about everything. Even though I took her to places such as parks, different restaurants, movies, ect. We really had good/great times together, but the minute we got home or we left the place, I felt her negative energy taking over the relationship. It got to the point that she truly believed that my ex put a spell on her and decided to see some witch () who claimed that the reason our relationship didn’t workout was because my ex who put a spell on us… (rolling my eyes) so the witch gave her some water mixed with green/smelly stuff. One night when we took a shower she quickly threw some of that green/smelly stuff on me. My body and the entire freaking bathroom stunk (lol). This past Tuesday she broke it off with me because of a silly argument that she couldn’t get ahold of me on the cellphone. Now, here is the problem. I have been trying to let go (break up) with her for the last couple of weeks, maybe more… and every time I think I am able to let go… I get sucked back into her. It’s like something is holding me back from moving forwards in life and end up back right with her. I really thought that it was for good…. but for two days straight I received blocked calls but nobody said anything. This was going on up until yesterday evening she told me in a very angry tone that she cleaned her house and noticed a few movies missing (which she gave to me) and for me to mail them back to her, and wished me good luck going back with my ex… as I stated this to her to make sure she would back off once and for all. She attempted to call me back a few more times blocked but I refused to pick up. I haven’t received anymore calls since than. Even though I only believe in one higher being (GOD), I begin to think that this nut basket actually put some crazy vodoo/witch craft on me…. what is your take on this…….?? Thanks!
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So over the past few months my boyfriend and I have been arguing a lot. Mainly it’s b/c we’re talking about buying a house together (no comments on you should wait to get married..it’s an investment and he’s a partner) and trying to get our credit scores up by paying off some small stuff on our reports and try to pay down CC etc…basically just get our finance in order. Our fights mainly center around small stuff like cleaning the house and stuff like that.
But about 2 days ago he received a letter in the mail in regards to some Medical CC that was no interest for 12 months. Well, he went beyond the 12 months and now has to pay back interest. The thing is, i told him about this a year ago. He’s always lecturing me on my spending habits..but i have an excel spread..i run my finances/house like a business..i have income, expenses NOI per month…and the excel spreadsheet matches my bank acct to the dollar. NEway, he’s all pissed off now b/c he paid only half of the bill in a years time and now with the back interest it calcuates out to he’s only really paid like . so he’s back to where he was a year ago. He’s pissed. I mentioned that he should have listened to me a year ago when I tried tell him he needs to pay no less than 0 a month (more would optional) to make sure you don’t accrue the interest at the end of the year. Of course, he starts an aguement, even then, claiming I don’t konw what I’m talking about.
So today we got into a major agruement b/c i went to Chipotle for lunch..he starts to lecture me about how i need to save (i make slightly more than him) for a house blah blah blah. It just really pissed me off b/c i’m totally in control of my finances..i have even suggested that i give him the excel spread i use..it’s simple to use and it would help him. But he refuses. So then the fact that he works at a dead end job came into play and he gets all huffy. It’s like, i’m bust my butt at work..i do commerical real estate..its really slow right now, but i have been searching for other options myself lately. Like maybe working full time and go back to get my masters…i have asked him today if he doesn’t have enough money to pay his bills has he thought of pursuing other options. He always blames it on something..right now it’s ecnonomy before it was "i like my job..it’s low stress". I feel that he’s not trying.
So my question is….can some married or long-term relationship ppl offer some advice on how i can get him to listen. He acts like i don’t know what i’m talking about half the time….but i’m more business savy than him. I read contracts etc etc. He doesn’t even want to reliquinsh the ropes to me either. I have suggested even doing his bills for him. He’s horrible with money management. I have talked about marriage, but seriously, i can’t marry him if he’s not gonna reliniquish the finance management robes to me. He’s has proved to me he cannot management his money "our" money in the future. Any suggestion please on how to approach this situation so it will make sense to him and will concede. I almost have to make it like it was his idea. Men are soooo prideful and odd sometimes.
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