Okay I have been with this man for 4 years and 9 as friends. I have been over weight all my life. He met me much bigger than what I look now. He said he doesn’t want to be with me because I’m overweight, he wants a different girl and he stopped loving me last year.
We broke up 2 months ago and 3 days b4 the break up we were already broken up. So he decides to run after me with flowers and kiss me unexpectedly and tell me he had no clue what he was doing living life without me, he told me he loves me and he doesn’t care about looks he just wants me to be healthy…. Okay so 3 days later he tells me he doesn’t love me and he wants a different girl…. so its been 2 months and let me point out we were going to get married… everything planned est,,,, we met up a week ago and he said that in the future if we are meant to be we might just end up together,,,,
He also said he didnt mean to say im overweight and that the breakup has nothing to do with my looks. I asked for the engagment ring and he said he wanted to keep it which i found it strange… what do u think this man wants or is trying to say…..
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Myself and partner broke up about 3 weeks ago. He moved out of my house. I was pretty upset the first week. We had been doing a fair bit of argueing during the lead up to the break up.
This is his 3rd week being gone and I haven’t seen him around. I was a bit upset at the weekend and the mornings seemed to be pretty hard but now it seems to be getting easier. Is this a normal feeling or is there worse to come. I cry every so often but I have been keeping a diary of my feelings and the devastation seems to be passing. We were together for 4 years.
My question is, is this normal or am I avoiding this whole thing. I feel strange!!!
Some advice would be great
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I really don’t understand this whole ‘vampire’ thing. I understand how ‘magic’ plays a part, but vampires are too much of a plot hole to be even classified as near human.
For example. How are vampires always beautiful? Does their skin magically transform into a thing of beauty once they’re a vampire? A zombie, another dead creature, rots. Why doesn’t a vampire rot? Is it something in their skin that keeps them from rotting? And, if they’re dead, why don’t they smell like death and decay? The vampires, that is.
Also, don’t dead bodies also carry diseases? If a vampire is walking around and touching things, shouldn’t a lot more people get sick from strange illnesses? Vampires are supposed to be hundreds of years old, after all. So, they would have older diseases festering on their skin. Furthermore, as the bacteria meets new bacteria, wouldn’t new cases of diseases come to be? I’m not an expert on bacteria and disease, but they seem like a walking cesspool of death.
Could a vampire ever be affected by human diseases, even though they can’t die from them? Like cancer. Or the common cold. I know the immune system would have to play a part somehow, and white blood cells would have to be involved. So, vampires might have not any immune system. Therefore, wouldn’t they always be sick?
Why is a vampire always rich and never questioned by authority? I get the idea that they would have old money, but there has to be someone in the family who makes awful decisions or is a bad gambler. Or, maybe, they have to pay the police all this hush money. Otherwise, they’d be constantly running from the law, which is also never mentioned. These things aren’t cheap. Especially living in grand homes and wearing expensive clothing. They have to pay for things. Like water. And electricity.
Speaking of water, do vampires ever bathe? I mean, even if they somehow don’t smell as if they’ve been dead for a hundred years, they would still smell after a few days after not showering. Why does no one mention that?
And, how can they be even classified as dead if they have human/animalistic needs? They need to feed off of human blood–I don’t care what you Twi-clones say; those fairies aren’t vampires. They have sexual urges.
Speaking of feeding, don’t they ever have to go to the bathroom? Even if all they’re doing is drinking, wouldn’t they have the need to pee? Do they really need every cell that makes up blood, or that is in the blood stream? Does the blood become fat and store? Wouldn’t that mean that there would be fat vampires? What about vampires that get constipated? Or have to always use the bathroom?
Just because a story is fantasy, that doesn’t mean it can’t have realistic elements. Look at the creatures and characters in Harry Potter. They have depth, and they’re realistic.
By the explanation of Irina, that essentially makes vampires the Mary Sues of the mythological world. Eventually, vampires would run out of young, pretty people to bite. Placing them into a separate category and giving them special rules that defy logic isn’t fantasy; it’s lazy.
If they’re even somewhat ‘alive’, they’d get some sort of sickness.
I don’t buy that money theory. Just because they’re vampires, that doesn’t make them geniuses. Eventually, someone is going to mess up. Someone is going to squander away billions.
But, having that liquid in them would have somehow awaken their bladder, wouldn’t it? And the storage of fats…
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So this past year has been very rocky for my husband and I. I was at my husbands military christmas party and one of his lady co-workers seemed to be acting very strange. I felt funny about it. When we drove home I asked my husband about it. I also asked him how he felt about her. He casually said, "he was close to her, No really close to her". I about dropped my jaw at him saying that so openly. I talked to him about it and asked him what he meant and he said, "we’re just friends close friends from being in the same platoon together for so many years." I still didn’t feel very good about it, So I got snoopy. (No Im not proud of it) But glad I did. I found in his e-mail that he left open on accident that he was e-mailing her and asking to have lunch with her at drill weekends. He was e-mailing her regularly. The e-mail did just seem friendly – not sexual or anything, but he would say maybe we can have lunch this weekend. Then I found he was also signed up for a Adult web site. Which REALLY HURT. I have always loved my husband and been faithful to him so this was a blow to me. Because I had already forgave him for cheating on me when we lived over seas in Italy. He went to school (in the military) and on his off time he would go to a bar and drink with another Navy guy and was sitting with two ladies which over the five weeks turned into dancing and kissing. I was so hurt the first time because I was pregnant at the time and far from all my family. Took a long time to get over but he promised it would NEVER EVER happen again. So to get back to the recent…..I am having a hard time dealing with all of this again. He swearer’s he did nothing with the lady from the military other than a dinner and talking at lunch and swearer’s most of the time other people from the platoon was there.
But then I found out he was flirting with ladies on Myspace, man things just kept getting worse. I was going crazy. I even found a saved phone number from an old girlfriend. He said they messaged each other on classmates and then later looked her number up and saved it in his work phone, but that he never used it. How do I trust him. He has given all his codes to me and swearer’s I am his only one. But I know Cheaters will lie till they go to their GRAVE. So I am always on my toes. We have been to counseling a few times, it did help, But I am still having a hard time…..He promised me the first time he cheated he would never be with a lady alone again, but then he went to dinner with her and lied to me about it, He says, He lied to me because he knew i’d be mad and there was nothing to the dinner, but friendship.
He gets very mad at me when I bring up his past, or when i tell him I don’t trust him. He just doesn’t get what he has destroyed. We are very very close as a couple, (I know that sounds weird) But we are always holding hands, kissing and everyone tells us how cute we are as a couple and wish they could find a relationship like that. Yes our sex life is GREAT also. At least everyday and usually more than that. Yes we have four kids. Yes we have to be creative. We have been married 19 1/2 years now. But I just don’t know what to think. Does he really love me, Why do men flirt with women "IF THEY LOVE THERE WIFE’S SO MUCH" I JUST DON’T KNOW IF I CAN EVER TRUST HIM AGAIN. I LOVE HIM WITH ALL MY HEART. But I feel like things will never be the same again. We have a week or two that goes great and then all my frustrations come back from a flash back. How does one EVER REALLY know if someone is Truly sorry????????? I wish I could really know if he love’s me. I cry often, but he doesn’t know it. I cry because I miss (the KNOWING my husband LOVED ME) It’s a feeling I wish I could get back.
I haven’t told anyone about all this (except the counselor) and I have to always acted like my marriage is great to our family etc. I don’t want everyone to know what he has done. One its embarrassing for me and I don’t want anyone to think badly of him. I know that’s sounds stupid. But You gotta understand I LOVE HIM and I don’t want him hurt in anyway. We have enough pain between us dealing with it than to involve others. Also another reason is our son went though Cancer for a year and We’ve had enough pain, so involving others just would add to it. This is way I am sharing it here. I need to get it out. I know he doesn’t want to loose "US" when I mentioned leaving him he feel apart crying begging me not to leave. He is constantly tell me that he love’s me and never has Cheated since Italy with the Kiss. He tells me he didn’t realize the things he was doing recently was going to hurt me or that I would call it cheating. But I am so confused & not sure if I can trust him. Guys what are some signs that a guy is really sorry. HELP!!!!!!!
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I find it strange but a bit comfortable that we are at a place in our lives that we get along so well. So much so that we are contemplating having lunch or maybe bring the family together for dinner. Is this a better way for the family or is it all to strange?
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