My ex and I split up four years ago after I caught them cheating. We have both moved on, however have a 5-year-old that we have joint custody over, although I’m the primary residence parent. In the past year they’ve threatened to challenge for custody a number of times, however backed down because they wanted to focus on their newborn. Since the birth of their new son they have indicated that they will no longer be accepting emails from me, but will talk about issues via the phone. Months ago I told them that I didn’t want to discuss issues over the phone because we weren’t communicating well, and email would allow us to be clear and straightforward. Also I wanted a record of the discussion and decisions made, so that they couldn’t say they’d said one thing, when they’d really said another, which they have a history of doing. Now we’re at an impasse as talking to them over the phone is stressful as they tend to get argumentative which solves nothing. I’m passive by nature, however want what’s best for my son. I’ve made it clear it was for health reasons I wanted to move to the email forum rather than over the phone, as the stress was aggrivating a medical condition, however they have ignored my concerns … as they have ignored serious issues such as vaccinations, using untested medications on my son against my will, and other health issues. How do I co-parent with someone who’s refers to medical and educational issues as "trivial issues" that cause them "needless stress?"
Actually I’m a guy … it’s the mother who cheated … twice … initially we weren’t sure my son was mine … then again a year after he was born … the new hubby is the second man she cheated with … they’ve decided together they will not accept any emails for the foreseeable future … my girlfriend keeps pushing me to talk to my lawyer … but I’ve put it off because I don’t want to rock the boat and I think it’s important for him to have access to his mom … that said, it’s getting to the point where if we can’t coparent than one of us should have final decision making power … if only for my son’s best interest!
I’m thinking it may be easier to simply buy a recording device and inform her that I will be recording phone conversations from now on to protect my own interests if we go to court. That way she’s informed about it so it’s legally admissible, and she gets her way regarding the email ….
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So my ex-girlfriend of 4 years called me today wanting me to meet up with her tonight so we can talk (public place). I have a feeling that she wants to get back together.
She broke up with me on Wednesday and the reason being that she feels like being friends rather than bf/gf. This devastated me as it came from nowhere with no signs of any problems. She kept using the terms ‘break’ and ‘break-up’ interchangeably. She said she still cares for me and loves me as a friend. Also that she has felt like this for a couple months.
I’m wanting to believe that the reason was that she just wanted a break for a while. Troubles with school, recent family death, and stress from everything else. But I could have given her time apart so she can relax without even having to have a ‘break’.
I’m getting over it rather quickly, but it still hits me at night. For the 4 years that we have spent together, we talked on the phone almost every single night. I’m not sure if I still love her though. I told people that and myself that I don’t want to be with a person doesn’t want to be with me.
Our relationship before wasn’t bad at all. In the beginning, things were rocky, but as time passed we rarely fought. Yes there would be the occasional argument about tiny things now and then, but over all things seemed like they were going great.
So I’m not sure what to do, and I’m meeting up with her in an hour
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is it ok to cheat if ur wife doesnt satisfy your sexual needs ?
all your stress will be gone , and every one will be happy , you , the wife , and the kids .
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I am reading everywhere online that when one partner calls off the wedding, the romantic relationship is usually over. He called it off because I forced him into it. I thought it would be a way to end our stress. When he tried to voice doubts, I didn’t listen and even got mean. I know I messed up. I love this man with all of my heart and want to get him back. He doesn’t say I love you or hold my hand right now. Could things become romantic again? I wrote him a letter apologizing and telling him that I would wait for him and wanted to take it slow. He thanked me for the letter – said he appreciated it – but no talk about our relationship. Is there a chance of us getting back together? What can I do to convince him I am changed?
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I am reading everywhere online that when one partner calls off the wedding, the romantic relationship is usually over. He called it off because I forced him into it. I thought it would be a way to end our stress. When he tried to voice doubts, I didn’t listen and even got mean. I know I messed up. I love this man with all of my heart and want to get him back. He doesn’t say I love you or hold my hand right now. Could things become romantic again? I wrote him a letter apologizing and telling him that I would wait for him and wanted to take it slow. He thanked me for the letter – said he appreciated it – but no talk about our relationship. Is there a chance of us getting back together? What can I do to convince him I am changed?
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