Here’s a long story.

Dated my best friend for three years starting freshman year. Last couple months have been rocky – I picked fights over everything accidentally, but still didn’t stop. We talked last Sunday about being sad in the relationship because no one is budging, and I suggested since he seemed so doubtful about what to do, that we should break up. To my surprise, he didn’t deny it as he usually would (with him or with another partner, never again will I try the reverse psychology…no games). I begged him Sunday night thru Tuesday night, and eventually he went from being nice about it to telling me he fell out of love with me and that he was unwilling to work on the relationship and he didn’t want it. Of course I’m devastated. Well that was Tuesday, where he also said he didn’t miss me. It had only been two days at that point and I know he’s been under a lot of stress, and he thinks that this will fix our problem – running away from it. He said he wants to be friends (the classic line to soften the blow) but I don’t want that, but now I can’t fight it. So I’m going along with it, and Friday he sees me and comes up to me at school and hugs me, then goes on to say, "Oooh girl you smell good." It’s like why would he do that? Then Friday night I go out with my friend and shop. Saturday he texts me saying good morning, much like a friend WOULDN’T do. That’s not just friendly at all. He stopped doing that when we were dating even months ago, and probably around the same time he claimed he fell out of love. Then all day he texted me, asking me what I did Friday night, who I went with, where I went, what I bought, what I was doing Saturday, where I was going, and who I was going with. He NEVER did that before when we were dating. Why now? Why is he complicating this? He said he wants friends but it’s not just friendly talk. He’s not being sexual but it’s not always strictly being sexual that makes a relationship. Then Sunday he didn’t talk to me at all. He’s hot and cold! He had told me before that he didn’t like how I acted, but he was never as explicit to why until it was too late. But I feel like he’s fighting with himself on his decision. A lot of our mutual friends are ambushing him asking him what’s the deal, and now he’s shutting even his best guy friend out about it. I think he needs time to figure things out once his obligations quiet down and he gets to think about what’s going on, but can someone tell me what’s going through his mind? He’s not trying to be friends in a good way because if I need to move on I will, but I can wait for him. I just won’t wait forever, and he can’t put me through this heartache of trying to figure him out. He even had said that he wants our friendship to be natural, and if it comes back to being together, then it does, but we shouldn’t force it. It seems like he’s forcing it to stay friendly at times even when he feels like he wants more. That’s also not natural if he is falling slightly for me again…he’s fighting himself. I wish I could get him to listen to his heart and not just his head. I don’t want to fight either but I can’t show him that we won’t fight unless we’re together. Friends don’t just fight for no reason – couples fight because of couple problems. Help…how can I show him that we should be together by being his friend?
*I have evaluated my issues and our issues and they’re just a matter of dealing with problems better, not lashing out for stupid things. I just want to to prove to him that this can work – but I want to know how to make it to that point. He said he loves me but isn’t in love with me, so there’s that love there. I think he’s scared to get back into it and be hurt, but I want to show him that being with me or having an us doesn’t have to be painful – it shouldn’t hurt.

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we have been getting really close since last summer. were co workers. in august he asked me to be his GF i was shocked i was also still getting to know him, i told him i’d have to think about it. I thought he would come back to me on it… But he never did.
i wish i could just go back in time to him just asking me so i can just say yes without all this stress right now…

since then, we have been texting, flirting, making out. i just want us to be official. i feel i am in love with him.

i dont know what to say to him… i REALLY like him. and he likes me too. i just want us to be official! im really shy to bring it up, so i thought about saying something like this (tell me what you think/give advice!! please!) "Where do we stand? We have been making out for MONTHS. with no commitment so far". .. im not saying i want to be his GF like to his face, but if he brings it up, i WILL say yes.
i really need help. i have been thinking about this so much i have no one really to talk to.. finally i came to the conclusion i can push my shyness aside by saying something like that…. do you think that could work??

i appreciate your help! thank u

BTW the other day we were in my car, i totally thought about saying something… But i was so exausted i just got out of working a long shift and i didnt know if he wanted to sit there and talk to me, but we ended up talking for about 10 mins before he went in his house… i drove him home and i coulda totally brought something up. I wanted to, but i couldn’t find the courage! =/ I didnt know what he was going to say… when or how i was gonna bring it up. I NEED HELLPP!! becausse it has been SO LONG. we havent went out together in months, and honestly, i love him BUT i feel like he is slowly moving on from me.. because he doesnt talk to me as much like on our days off when he used to text me almost daily. now i am always the one that has to text him first. and he talks and flirts with me at work a lot, but less than say.. a couple months ago. =/

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Ok so my girlfriend which is now my EX have dated for 2 years and 5 months. Ive recently started to go back to school because she told me to show her that you can improve with your life. So after signing up for classes, I reminded her that I was going to be busy with work and school. I work 40 hours a week and with school in the way now, im super busy. Anyways, a couple nights ago she broke up with me because we’ve been rocky for about a month and us being too busy with each other. I’ve done so much for her even hop on to her phone plan to help ease stress and pay half the bill for her. She’s been hurt by her EX bf’s and I thought she would understand how it feels and im sure she does because I told her that she must know how Im feeling right now. But anyways, she said it was the last straw and doesnt have the same feelings anymore. I try and try till this day for her to take me back and she still doesnt budge. I’m planning on giving all the stuff she gave me back to her on her birthday. After giving all her stuff back Im going to ignore, not that I want to but Im sure this is what she wants. Me out of her life..Question is, how do you think she would feel?

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My Girlfriend & I have been together for almost a year now & things were (up until recently) going really great. Just yesterday when we had been spending some quality time together, she tells me that she loves me, but she does not want to get into a serious relationship anymore (I understand where she’s coming from because she’s a free-spirited, fun-loving person that can’t be tied down to commitments & I for one will never keep her like a prisoner or some sort of prize. I also know that she’s been through relationships before that really changed her mindset about taking that route or ever finding that perfect love – a guy who will appreciate her & love her for who she is – ever again).

She then says to me that she would only be wasting my time & end up hurting me, so it’s best that we remain good friends. I don’t know if she’s doing this just to protect me, but I don’t believe that she would be wasting my time (as she put it). I realize that maybe she just needed space to think for a while (especially with the stress she had during the past week), but I love her with all of my heart & soul. I have mentioned to her that if ever she needed anything, I will be there for her (& I have done so already, never expecting anything in return because just being able to be there for her makes me happy – she appreciates that & it only makes her love me even more).

I don’t know why she’s changed her mind about us (because I know I haven’t done anything wrong & I know she isn’t anyone else), but it’s not going to change the way I feel about her & it’s not going to stop me from caring. I love her, but I don’t want to lose her.

Is this all it’s ever going to be? Are we nothing more than friends?
I made that mistake once before (& I nearly lost her), I promise that I will do whatever it takes to make sure it doesn’t happen again.

Yes, I AM prepared to wait for her & I know that she needs a little space to breathe, especially after what she’s been through last week (I have thought about everything & I know what I want. I love & adore her & I will be here for her no matter what).

What can I do or say to reassure her of this?
I know that I shouldn’t be asking for too much & I don’t mind our relationship being open-ended with no pressure, no expectations & not being tied down or feeling like a prisoner. I just don’t want to lose her by messing up, that’s all.

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After almost tree years relationship ( including a year and four months of being engaged) my fiance has decided to take a break, bc hes been stressfull lately. I, gave him the time he wanted. i havent call him or write him, bc i understand he wants to think things, as he told me he wanted to do this. all his family are very united with me; his brother told me hes not like wanting to date girls or do crazy things overthere, he just shut down himself.

I was very confused at the beginning (its been a week it happened) bc i dont even live around him like for him to feel stress. I do believe he loves me alot and dont want to hurt me at all. i cant deny i had cried about this. I gotta say too i had let it gone the fact of being myself as i was when he used to come to visit me the very first times. now i am working into myself for when we get back he would be more than in love with me and we will gonna be ready for marriage (as long as i havent finish college, i asked him to wait till
i get my degree and i could move to the USA with him.

what should i do?

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Married 20 years. Two teenage children.
Difficult relationship/marriage from the very start. Basically is really seems we are not a good match at all. Many instances of horrible fights (some witnessed by the kids) including her getting physical toward me. She has attacked me physically numerous times over the years, some scars still remain. It has been a while since the last time. Maybe a year. She had an affair on me 10 years ago and we were separated for one year. During which she lived with this man. After I did my begging to save marriage and she refused, I re-connected with a high school sweetheart whom I feel is the love of my life to this very day. My wife finally came back and asked to work things out. I decided to try only because the kids were so young then. I broke that girl heart whom I was seeing.
The time since then has been the same with us as a couple. Some good times but so much discord. She has asked me many times to leave. She has multiple times told me she hates me. We are not good together.

Fast Forward: We are separated again. We are in different states now. This all due to her getting into legal trouble with the law. She is currently awaiting her fate with the courts. I have discovered she has been again talking to her lover from the affair 10 years ago. I have been alone, raising our two kids through all this. She cannot get a job because of her problems. In a nutshell, she has ruined our lives. I also blame her for health problems my father developed from all the stress of this.
I no longer love this woman. I took much time to gather all my thoughts and told her I want a Divorce. I have also told my children. I do not want to go back after all that has happened. And going back will have so many problems financially and she will have fines and penalties. We will have to claim BK. All because of her foolish actions against the law. And getting caught!!

Before I told her and the kids, I was resolute!! I have the support of my family. It’s sad, it’s not what I wanted for my life. But now she is throwing all the emotional cards at me. Begging, pleading, telling me she will change. Telling me I an ruining the kids lives. I am throwing away 20 years and things will get better. And she will get help with her anger issues etc etc etc…. Crying and Begging.

I was so sure of myself. And I think deep down I still am. But all her words have stalled my momentum. And because I do feel sorry for her, I let her continue to plead her case.

I don’t think there is any way the marriage is viable. But I am stalled at finally shutting her down and starting my life over. Why?

I love my kids. I am here for them. But I just can’t make the same decision twice based solely on them. They by the way are not happy with my decision….. But they don’t know all of what I’ve told above either….

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So we’ve been dating for about 5 months, and we were both in a relationship before. I had remained single after my previous relationship for a few months until i’d met him- he was in a relationship and started developing feelings for me. (Nothing physically happened between us whilst he was with his ex)

I wanted to take things slowly, having been through a bad time with my ex and also because I had become used to enjoying my own company.
I felt that he had slightly pushed me, or possibly made me feel guilty about us not being in a relationship, but utimately it was my decision.
During our 5 months of dating I said something which he interpreted the wrong way and led him to beleive we were no longer seeing each other. I had a lot of assignments on and couldn’t deal with the stress of the way he had overreacted at what I supposedly said, and in that time period he got back with his ex. I found it surprising but I wasn’t particularly bothered.

So after much ado, we are together. However, I find him too needy. He constantly texts me and if I dont reply within half an hour he texts again. He tells me he misses me all the time- something that I frequently tell him not to say. He has also told me he loves me, I did not say it back and he said he wouldn’t say it again until I said it first, which he not has done. There are several other things that I find too overwhelming but I think I’ve gone on long enough lol.

I have previously told him that I find him too needy/clingy but nothing has changed, so I guess my question is how can I easily break it off with him, without him going out drinking and ending up in a mess. Furthermore I think that he just doesn’t like to be by himself (having been with his ex for 4 years). Also, he lives with a couple of my friends from uni, which are now ulimately his friends (prior arguments have left our friends often taking his side due to his overeactions), so how can I make them not feel uncomfortable? What to do? What to do? Thanks
I guess I didn’t include any good things in there because I have been focusing on the bad.
We do have a lot in common, extremely strange things that I have never had in common with anyone. Sort of freaky actually. He is very kind to me, and I know I take that for granted

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Hey guys..

Me and my boyfriend been happily in love for a year until this summer he sat down with me and said that he don’t know if we’ll make it through uni when he is away..and he is going to a really far uni…he says it would be hard to see me and commit to me as i wont b there with him he says he really loves me but it might be possible that we’ll break up …
After that ive started doubting things and wether we should be together soo i would always pick on him for little things and argue with him cus i was so scared to lose him id have doubts and everytime we would have an argument i’d tell him maybe we shouldnt be together or i dont c us working out…but we would stay together then later on we would still argue and he would tell me he’s not commited enough for the stress and really wants to concentrate on his studies so he can make it to uni…he said that we should be having fun not arguing over little stupid things …then we decided to go on a break because i had so so many doubts but this break didnt help as we argued even more then we split up…we go the same college together so it was hard for us to move on everytime id see him in college he would hug me and kiss me and act like we were still together but he didnt want to get back with me cos of college work he wanted to do well….then we occasionally c each other and go cinema and one dayy he told me he really misses me and if there were a chance of us seein each other agen so we did for a bit then i text him saying whats happening with us are we back together or not he said he didnt no what he wanted soo it ended in a big argument again ..and we didnt speak then few days after that i was out with my mates and he were out aswell ..we ended up in the same place…one of the boys was trying it on me and he punched him..he just switched his mates said he still loves you thats why he’s done it…when before when we broke up he was saying how after us arguing so much his feelings changed later on that week he text me saying he really wants to be with me so we got back together everything was fine but we didnt tell each other " i love you" cus of the past break up and we was hurt…but then we started arguing agen and recently we split up again ..because of the whole uni thing and we have been so stressed lately we had an arguement n i told him to split up with me …he couldt later on that day i went to his house to pick up my things and then i said its over then yeah he said please give me few more days so i gave him space…next day he messaged me saying i miss you,i have faith in us …do you??so i said i do…then few hours later we spoke but he acted really off with me he aksed me if i wanted to go out for a drink and a good chat …so we did but he was breaking up with me..i was distraught what made him change his mind in a few hours?That night i stayed at his cos i wasnt in the state to go home so i slept in his spare room but he slept in the same bed wiith me calling me baby and cuddling me…we were still split up so i text him saying why u change ur mind n then break up with me then act like u dont wanna let me go he said he said that he was using his head not his heart atm then i said how hurt i was and he said that he was hurt also and he was really sorry that things were like that and he really did wish things were different and that it was just wrong time for us…i love him and so badly want to be with him…
He also apologised to me cos when he went to college he set himself a goal of not meeting or getting ith anyone but he said he couldnt help how he felt for me…he also said i was the first girl he ever felt close to since he been with his ex girlfriend of 2 years and that he’s been with many other girls but not got with any of them …he also said that i was literally perfect…does that make special?
What do i do know?Shalll i leave him alone?I feel like he wont ever get back with me cus of uni and so much stress cus of me doubting things over uni…when we broke up he said he’ll b there for me no matter what and to call him no matter what the problem was or time he ll always be there for me if i need him …but i said its better if we don;t speak so we can move on …then next he deleted me of myspace and facebook then ive asked him why he said i dnt want to see your profile especially when other boys chat to youu…i dont understand his behaviour does he love me or not and what do i do…do i leave him alone till he contacts me or just move on??He also said to me in the past that he wished he met me years later when he finished uni and was all settled in…specialy that he told me i was the first girlfriend since his ex gives me this hope that he will miss me and come back someday …after dating other girls and realise he wants me…so what do i do?

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of course, she pulls the "I just wanna be friends" type of deal and I still do not understand why women insist on that.

Well we had a a minor fight, and the next day she said she just wanted to be friends adding how she doesn’t have those types of feelings for me.

I know it seems strange but I know that she does have feelings for me..because of all the times we shared and the arguments and fight we got through together, she is my best friend. I asked if something else was the matter, like maybe she thought I cheated on her, lied to her, did something to demean her but there was nothing of the sort except for stress from her parents due to the fact that they do not really want us dating..

and she’s stressed with her finals and I don’t want her to create more unnecessary stress for herself with this conflict. If it truly is not right for us to be together, then I’m willing to accept that, but this spontaneous change of heart is so strange to me, and it doesn’t feel like her and I don’t want her to break my heart, and then realize she never wanted to and wants to get back with me again because I would not…I thought I was being naive saying that what she was doing wasn’t her. She’s shown me so much love and care and she tells me things that are obviously due to love and I try to show her that but she can’t understand it. I tried to be confident about it, telling her that I know we can overcome this lil dilemma and this was just a silly little thing

but I’m not sure what to do, or how I should approach this..the thought of her leaving is starting to take its toll on me…and that confidence is going away..I really love her

if you guys have any advice as to what to do please let me know.
thanks for all your advice. I really like her so I really wanna make this work

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my ex-boyfriend and i call it off today..yep Valentines day . We both decided to break up because he was under stress at home and school and i understood where he was coming from and i made it easier on him to just agree to break up. We were both each others first boyfriend and girlfriend and freshmen in high school. I really did love him but today he confessed that the only reason that he said i love you was because it was in the moment and he said the only people he would ever love is his family and i didnt really take it personally and i understood as well. he also said that we [the relationship] were going to end someday. He got to a point we he talked about home and how he said he was an a**hole to his family and how his mom think he hates her and i was just there trying to make him feel better. Him and his dad wants to move to Wisconsin where his dad side of the family is and i hate that and he told me if he was then he was going to miss me he also wants to go to the Navy when we graduate which i also hate to. Before we started to talk about this he came over today and we just hang out and i guess he just felt like it was wrong leading me on and he told me and that just made me have more respect for him. I am going to miss him and thats what makes me sad and want to cry. Im going to miss texting him, waiting for him after school and hanging out whatever we can and the memories we had. Im not mad at him for breaking up with me on Valentines Day and no matter what i will always love him and will have a special place in my heart for him. We dont have any classes and when we were dating we didnt see each other in the halls unless you wait for a while. So i guess thats good and he told me before we left that can we be friends and not ignore each other in the halls. i said yes and we hugged goodbye. Our relationship started with a hug and ended in a hug. I know he feels bad but i said dont worry about me im okay but the truth is that i was crying a river inside. Im not going to date anymore because i dont feel that there anyone in hs for me. the reason besides him being stressed was that he wasnt ready i guess..he said he wanted to wait because we did move fast and got into some what in a physical relationship. i deleted all the messages from him except his number. i do believe everything happens for a reason and i dont regret dating him or the things we have done. in 10 days we would’ve been dating for 4 months. Again i did love him very much and i guess i will always love him and if he doesnt move to Wisconsin then we still have 3 years old high school left.. and maybe down the road whatever life takes us i hope we can try again. Can anyone else help me get over him or any adivce?
Thanks

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My ex is dating someone else and I want him back.. Success stories?

My boyfriend and I have been together since jan 2006 we had broken up a few times in between…

Without going into detail I was probably dealing with some sexual issues dealing with attraction and we argued about stupid shit … he started dating this person in June of this year …

It was fine in the beginning because again I felt like I could be intimate with whomever with no strings attached…..

Deep down I wanted my ex back but I think it also relieved my stress being without him maybe because if I was sleeping around than I’d know for sure he wouldn’t want me back…

Anyway in September he ended things… I told him over msn how I felt but that I wanted to get my sexual issues sorted out (to find out why I have this compulsive sexual problem) …. he said no guarantees but to ge thru it than see where we were…

But a day after my session I flew out to Vancouver to see my sister and part way into the trip he and that guy got back together….. I wanna keep waiting though even though it’s killing me, I hope I can get him back in du time….

Any success stories ???

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a healhty life as well as stress free ???
He is a business man.

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My ex and I broke up exactly a year and a half ago and haven’t talked since last May, but I’m really interested in talking to her again and trying to get back together.
And I know she’d be willing to, I’m just wondering if it’s ever worked for anyone.

We broke up due to stress and anxiety about being in a relationship, at least on her part. I don’t know if anything’s changed, but told me she was willing to get back together months after we broke up.

What are your experiences? How did you do it?

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Ok so I am 18 and my ex gf is 17. She broke up with me the day after Thanksgiving (a little over a month ago). I deserved to be dumped b/c I treated her like complete sh*t. I mainly did this b/c I was hurting so bad inside. I went to the Doctor December 14th (without anyone asking me to get help, so that right there shows you I am wanting to change!) and he diagnosed me with a severe case of clinical depression. I am currently getting my meds under control and start therapy next week.

I contacted my ex today for the first time in nearly 3 weeks and she said that she loves me, she misses me, but she doesnt want to get hurt again. She said it will be MONTHS (yes, she said months!) before we can even become SEMI-friends again. I couldnt believe this! I had admitted to lying to her in the past today, I have also been manipulative towards her, and I always got mad at her over little things, but I have apologized hundreds of times for not getting help sooner; but other than this crap, our near year long relationship was perfect. She said that its caused so much stress on both our families (my bro and her half sister are married…its really not weird or anything so i dont want anyone talking crap), and I will agree that it has. Her parents disagree with her dating me b/c they think we just arent right for each other. SO WHAT CAN I SAY TO HER TO GET HER TO GIVE ME A CHANCE TO SHOW I HAVE CHANGED!?!

**Oh and I dont want to wait to long to get a relationship going again b/c in 7 months we will be going to different colleges that are about 30 minutes apart. BUT dont tell me to just move on b/c I am in absolute love with this girl and I just cant do that! Thanks a lot everyone!

I have also been very suicidal lately and she knows about this and i think i hurt her more (not intentionally) by telling her this but i went and saw my psychiatrist and am getting it worked out now.

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I recently started using the Versa Spa spray tanning system by Magic Tan, and it looks great! No chance of skin cancer, but still a great looking healthy glow. My question is, is there any change it could make your skin break out? I’m 21 and I haven’t had a break out since I was in puberty. It might just be stress, but I couldn’t help but notice the coincidence that it showed up right after my first session.

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I’m 35 years old and never been pregant. All test are okay. I’m a teacher and attend grad school. Really stressed out. Stress is taking a toll. My cycle stopped for 5 months. It is not menopause. How can I build my body back up.

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Ok so I am 18 and my ex gf is 17. She broke up with me the day after Thanksgiving (a little over a month ago). I deserved to be dumped b/c I treated her like complete sh*t. I mainly did this b/c I was hurting so bad inside. I went to the Doctor December 14th (without anyone asking me to get help, so that right there shows you I am wanting to change!) and he diagnosed me with a severe case of clinical depression. I am currently getting my meds under control and start therapy next week.

I contacted my ex today for the first time in nearly 3 weeks and she said that she loves me, she misses me, but she doesnt want to get hurt again. She said it will be MONTHS (yes, she said months!) before we can even become SEMI-friends again. I couldnt believe this! I had admitted to lying to her in the past today, I have apologized hundreds of times for not getting help sooner; but other than this crap, our near year long relationship was perfect. She said that its caused so much stress on both our families (my bro and her half sister are married…its really not weird or anything so i dont want anyone talking crap), and I will agree that it has. Her parents disagree with her dating me b/c they think we just arent right for each other. SO WHAT CAN I SAY TO HER TO GET HER TO GIVE ME A CHANCE TO SHOW I HAVE CHANGED!?!

**Oh and I dont want to wait to long to get a relationship going again b/c in 7 months we will be going to different colleges that are about 30 minutes apart. BUT dont tell me to just move on b/c I am in absolute love with this girl and I just cant do that! Thanks a lot everyone!

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ok this is not the usual cheating case. i have hurt her in another way. I will put it short. i am a person who is stubborn and like things to go my way in a relationship. The girl is someone who loves me a lot and try to suit what i want and keep her unhappiness regarding us to herself . She’s a quiet person as well. From the start of our relationship, when we are together, we really enjoyed ourself. The problem come when we are not together. I was the one who ask her out and start a chat with her most of the time. This makes me feel that she is not interested and she said she will try to change. But whenever i bring up to her that she’s not changing, we end up both unhappy. I feel that she could do more for the relationship. My problem then were that, i feel i am right and hence expect her to change for me. i expect her to do a lot. amd she really did. she make a lot of time for us to go out, go out late with me despite her parents don like, always talk to me when i wanted to, tried to change herself to suit me, give in to my sexual advances(not sex) even though she’s shy, never scolded me even when she’s unhappy etc. But some of the things i don get, i will insist on it. Like she did not really change herself to ask me out or chat with me more often to what i expect, ends up unhappy whenver we talk about it and this gives her stress i guess. Whenever she can’t go out when i want to, i will be unhappy and this gives her stress. She told me that she felt that ” i think if she like me she should go out with me, she could do better to suit me”. After all those things she did and stress she took, i still feel that she does not love me wholeheartedly and did not put in much effort in our relationship simply because(i think) i am someone who is very insitent on doing things my way. When she cannot meet my expectations, i feel she did not put in much effort and doesn’t love me that much. Before we broke off, i even scolded her’: if you love me, don just say it, show it! This hurt her so much that she cannot take it and wanted to break off. Now, i am totally regretting it. I want her back. We are still talking and going on 1 on 1 outing once in 2 weeks. But, i really want to win her back. She told me that she still like me. but those times where i hurt her keep on coming back to haunt her even after 10 months. I realise my mistake. I shouldn’t have been so stubborn and only focus on things i want, this gives a lot of stress. She did a lot for me, but maybe because i took them for granted, that’s why i felt that she didn’t do much and hence felt that she don love me that much. If only i am not so insistent on doing things my way, take note and appreciate more of the things she did for me, i wouldn’t have felt that she don love me and we could have been very happy. Please let me know if i am wrong. This are the problems with me that i concluded after tons of relection. I feel that our situation rersembles that of a men cheating on his wife and hurting her, then regrets it and want her back. It looks like a very difficult task. Can some people please tell me what can i do? what can i do to make her trust me again? she say she still likes me, but can’t forget the times where i hurt her.

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Me and my ex were together for 9 and a half months. We broke up because of arguments that were my fault. We were planning on getting eloped in January. She told me she wanted me to find the person she fell in love with and to realize the real reasons that i got with her in the first place. I did that and a whole lot more. Then family problems and other stress drove her to become emotionless and she couldn’t love anybody. I tried to show her how much i cared and wanted to help ease her pain. Then i was laid off from my job (only place i could really see her in person) and now after a month since then and no contact what so ever. She has a new boyfriend that i know is a liar and all around bad guy. Shes a good person and i feel fully responsible for her fall from who she really is and i can see shes somewhat lost. I saw here at a party recently and her new boyfriend tried to start a fight with me when i was standing up for her because a friend of his called her a b****. I wouldn’t fight him because i promised her i wouldn’t fight any new guy unless she gave me the word. before i left the party i let her know that i love her through my friend delivering the message since i wasn’t able to see her after that. It made her smile and she said she was sorry. I’m not entirely sure whats she was sorry for but i let her know once everyday that i love her. Then one time i text her that i love her and using her phone he told me to leave his girlfriend (her) alone. I told him "I love her and i let her know that everyday. If she wanted me to stop she’d say so." and plus i told him that i don’t listen to him i listen to her and i got nothing back after that. Is there a chance at all i can get her back?

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we’ve been dating for a while 4 months and its perfect. i might be rushing this love thing? but i feel it. && my last boyfriends werent nothing compared to him. i just want to live in the moment. No Stress u know?

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My husband is an active duty soldier with the U.S. Army and we have several problems. I want to leave him, I can’t handle the stress of not being who he wants me to be anymore. I am broke, I don’t work and I know he won’t give me any money to get me and my things back home, which is 1500 miles away. I’m just wondering if there are any programs that offer assistance in these circumstances that would be available immediately?

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We all know that relationships are not easy and that two people living under the same roof raising kids and dealing with the stress in life both outside of the home and within, do not always get along. When times get tough and you find yourselves arguing everyday about the stupidest things, when the sex becomes non existent, when your goals become different, when you stop making time for each other… how do you push through the "divorce talks" and re-kindle your marriage? How do people make their marriage last a lifetime?

My husband and I are not quitters by any means, but our marriage feels like it is falling apart. We have a two year old and we want him to be raised in a loving home. But, it hasn’t felt like a loving home for about a year and a half. We don’t do anything together, we don’t agree on anything, we bicker, I nag, he ignores. Depression, anger, excuses, hostility, confusion, frustration… too many emotions constantly filling our home. We have been through counseling and he refuses to go to any sessions. I’ve tried the marriage self help books, involving myself in other activities and church to help me feel better… I am just stumped. I feel myself feeling more annoyed with him everyday and I’m to the point where I can’t stand being around him and I cringe whenever he touches me.

What is wrong with me? How the heck do I get back to feeling my marriage is worth saving? I know I can’t change my husband and all I can do is improve myself and my actions. I took my vows seriously… but how do I make it last until death do us part… through good times and bad?

Advice? (Yes we have talked about all of the above emotions and situations numerous times… but I am frustrated so I am on here asking)
I was simply stating the known facts about marriage… it is hard work! Nobody has all the answers… I just want to know what other people have done to get through the ups and downs of their marriages.

How do you make your marriage last a lifetime?

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I really want her back and she always talks to me.Shes been pretty ill lately and I think the stress of everything was too much for her and she needed a break.Shes starting to get back on her feel though,so if I wait it out do you think there’s still a chance to get back with her?

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I just got my heartbroken, and now I want revenge. I know how much my boyfriend loves his car, so I want to tear it up. Since he drives to school, that is where I want it to be done. Also, I rather do it at school during the day with my friends, than be in his driveway doing it at night. I can easily skip lunch and do it then, without getting caught. But my propblem is what to do? I don’t want to damage anything permantly or him have to pay a ton of money to get it fixed, just a little surprise that might stress him out for a little while. So far, I want to do something with glue, baby oil, flour, tampons/pads, and maybe milk. Haha cause nothing smells worse than sour milk! But, yeah, I only have 25 mins to do it and I can’t get inside his car, so the damage has to be on the outside. Help! any ideas?!

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I am 18 and so is my girlfriend. I’ll be a freshman this year at a college in town and she is a senior in high school. We have been dating for almost 3 years and towards the end of the summer our intense fights were starting to get the best of us so she decides maybe we should take a break. I didn’t see the good in this choice but there wasn’t anything I could really do about it. The reason for her needing space is because our relationship has been stressful lately and she is always working or doing things with school and just didn’t need our stress. I know people think there is another guy or something but I can assure you there isn’t. She says she loves me very much and knows we will get back together and it will be ok. We have been apart for a little over a month now and within the past couple weeks we have started talking a lot again. We have even hung out a couple times just as friends, and its been great because I feel like we have been getting to know each other all over again. Well, a couple days ago we hung out and I was about ready to leave and she hugs me and then she kisses me. Of course I don’t really stop it because its not what I truly want. I end up staying for another hour in her room. We kiss heavily and all those kinds of things, and she starts crying and tells me how much she misses me and needs me and loves me. It felt as though we were dating and everything was just perfect. But she still says..we cant get back together yet, I love you so much but we cant..Im sorry for making things even harder. You know I understand her reasons for being alone and I can accept that, but how things have gone lately I feel as though she is just being selfish now. Its not fair to me to be on a roller coaster with my feelings and just having to wait around. Im not really implying the she is out having the time of her life and im crying at home, its not like that at all. I just dint get how we love each other but cant date yet? I truly believe her and everything, but I have been in this situation before and I fear the same thing will happen to me again. Based off what I have said what do you feel is going on?

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