My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. We really do love eachother but have certain areas where we just dont connect well. We have tried counseling even. We finally decided that we cannot fix our problem and broke up. I just struggle with the idea that two people can love eachother so much and still not be right to be together?
My ex broke up with me a few months ago and she told me she just wanted to be independent when she went away for school for a few months. I let go and told her I would not stand in her way of anything. We are still friends and talk quite a bit. After some struggle on her part to get back in my life, I wanted to be left alone and needed space and time to heal from the break up but she contacted me constantly and said she still needed me in her life. This I felt was selfish on her part and I told her that and she said she is still to close to me to let me go that we still have a lot of personal connection between us. I agree but its not on the level I want. So we talk but it’s just bs talk, how are you? whats new? blah blah blah. She is always asking me to come and visit her. She lives a few hours away.
I love her very much still and would like to be with her again but now is just not the right time. I think she may be starting to see someone else which really doesn’t bother me all that much as they are long distance and it could just be a rebound thing for her. This guy is a lot older and kind of a player from what I hear. So this doesn’t really bother me all that much.
My question is what is the best way to go about getting her back. I have many things to no avail. Staying away and not talking to her drives her insane and she just calls me or texts me till I talk to her and I feel like going the friends route may not me any good either. As a friend I need to remain selfless and be happy for her in whatever she does and as I try I can do it but not just yet. It still sucks not talking to her on the same level we used to.
So does anybody have any tips that could help either way? I am carrying on with my life and doing new things for me and meeting and hanging out with new people, she supports me but constantly asks me who I have been with and if I am seeing anybody in round about ways. Are communication feels so false and I do not like that and I know we are both hiding something as we dance around it all the time.
So what should I do?
Please don’t tell me to move on or she is my ex for a reason. I am not interested in that banter!
I’m writing a romance and i normally write horror so as you can imagine is a Challange. Haha. And one thing defiantly need help with is when the main characters are kissing for ages. Just now they finally got back together. After a long struggle… It was cute the way they kissed.
Basically he she said one word… That confirms it. And he launches himself at her because they have wanted each other for so long. But i want them to kiss for awhile. But how do i write that? I normally just pull out the movements..
Eg’ explain how there touching each other (romanticly) and then randomly remind the readers they are still kissing.
I was wondering if there were any better technique or random ideas that could inspire my writing.
Another question i have is for the main characters friend.. Hes kind of a sleaze to put him nicley. He plays the roll of the bad guy that always manages to get the attractive girls. Nothing is ever stated, it’s just noticed. That he always has a new girl clinging to his harm. Right now he’s dirty dancing with an old girlfriend who is apart of the story line later on in the story. And i wanted him to ‘take her home’ to put it nicley. Because its the kind of character my second male is. Would it be bad if i were to slyly say “were going up stairs, take the couch.” too my other characters ?
Would that be too crass? Because it gives my other characters a chance to bond as well. Cause then i can say ‘want to go for a walk?’ and they can speak about there past. Which i need them too.
The story is writen from my main girl characters perspective. By the way 
Thanks for your oppinion.
Examples are deeply apreciated!!
best answer wins XD
We had a HUGE FIGHT it ended with me fighting another woman…finding out i was pregnant and being so very depressed! Oh and now i am single. He broke up with me he called me crazy for fighting the girl. She kept pushing herself onto him and i had had enough so i lashed out. But now i am basically in need of getting him back. I allowed him to take my happiness. I need him back in order to get that back. So do you have any positive suggestions. Please do not judge me for you do not know our struggle. Just suggestions on how we could work on getting back together.
this is actually my first fight! i never lose my cool
as i see i am being judged anyway…we were together for 3 1/2 years i never got out of control as i did that day. we barely argued. We were happy and if we were not i would not fight so hard to get him back. it was an act of rage and anger and my self esteem i too thought was higher than what it turned out to be. I will be a good mother regardless of what the father turns out to be. Nevertheless he will be a great father. Husband im not so sure. We were engaged. I do not cause much drama nor do i like to be involved in any. So all of this is out of my element and i am just using this as a tool to express my feelings right now. Again please don’t judge me. I have enough people doing that. Thank you
Being in a bad relationship is a tough thing to do. Nothing is worse than being married and lonely at the same time. If you think the best way to save your relationship is to ‘spice up your sex life’ you may want to think again. Here is some advice on sex to repair your relationship.
First of all don’t buy into the old cliche that if you have great sex your partner will be satisfied and not leave. Unless your partner is an adolescent, or just acts like one, sex alone won’t be enough to keep your relationship strong. A good adult relationship is made up of many components and until you can get it clicking on at least several levels, not just sexual, you will struggle and most likely won’t be happy in the relationship.
A word of caution though, no one is perfect and no relationship is perfect. You will have times when you and your partner are not on the same page, and that’s ok. It’s more about balance, in your relationship as a whole you should be on the same page more often than not. If it’s balanced the other way, where you are at odds more often than you are in sync you should seriously consider ending the relationship because the two of you just aren’t a good fit, and that’s unlikely to change.
So before you decide that hotter sex is the key to making your relationship what you really want it to be, consider some of these points:
1. How was your relationship in the beginning? Did you have a lot of hobbies that you shared together? What did you do, besides sex, when you spent time together? If you don’t do those things together anymore, why not? If you analyze these changes in your relationship you will be a lot closer to figuring out what you need to work on to make your relationship strong again.
2. Have you asked your partner what they think is going on with your relationship? After all you’re both part of the situation, and the problem. Why not share with each other what you are feeling, instead of complaining to your girlfriends, or buddies, why not ask your partner? No one will know what they are thinking better than they do.
Make sure that when you ask your partner what they’re thinking you give them the opportunity to tell you how they feel in a ‘safe’ environment. What I mean by that is don’t get mad and yell at them if they say something you don’t want to hear. If you do then you are sending them a signal that they can’t open up to you or it will get ugly, so they won’t turn to you. That is the beginning of the end for many relationships.
Once they’ve told you how they feel, it’s your turn. And the same rules apply. You have the right to express your feelings without being persecuted by your partner.
If you and your partner have reached a rough patch in your relationship it can be tempting to think that if you can reignite a fire in bed you’ll be able to save your relationship, unfortunately that’s simply not the case. Use the advice on sex to repair your relationship tips I’ve given you above to start to rebuild your relationship in a healthy way.
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