I’d rather not hear any til death do you part stuff…I already know that.
Here is the kicker – He doesn’t hit me, or cheat, drink too much or anything like that. I am just very unhappy and he is a total workaholic and I don’t feel like I am getting "my money’s worth" so to speak. I love him, but we have a daughter that needs him too and he just is NOT available. Work takes priority over everything, then hobbies, then his personal time. We come last.
This has been going on for 3 years….we have little sex and it is always on his terms, i.e. very quick and unfulfilling and he gets up right away and runs back to his computer. NO romance, no real dialogue and he is always angry…not at me, just in general and he takes it out on me and our daughter. I’m at my wits end and have come to realise I am wasting my time, I can do better and he seems to need to be single so he isn’t pressured to spend time with any family. I guess I wonder if I moved out for a while, if he would even notice
Yes, we’ve talked repeatedly, yes, we’ve gone to counseling, I have tried everything.
I also work full time and am the sole caretaker for home and our child.
I also might add that he does not have a drivers license due to stupid things before I met him…so I have to drive evryone to/from where they need to go.
And the last time I talked to him about seperating he had no clue why, and asked me if I was interested in someone else!?! Completely clueless!
I don’t want to leave and this is upsetting, but i’m kindof freaking out. I can live like this, sure. But who would want to?
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I haven’t talked to my ex ever since probably a few days before New Years and just a few weeks ago I was talking to my best friend about old pictures and I remembered when I was with my ex, we would fight a lot and he’d try to find stupid things to get on me about, to use it against me in an argument, which was very pathetic. So one day he had taken a few CDs from me that had a lot of old photos on them that included pictures with my first boyfriend, old friends, just good, old memories in general. Well, he took them and yeah, used pictures I had with guys from the past, against me since there was nothing else. He never gave them back and we broke up on bad terms and now he has a new girlfriend. I don’t know how I should ask him for my things back because first of all, he lives 2 hours away from me, I don’t want to look stupid and he ends up ignoring me, and I do not want him to think that I miss him at all. I know how he is. Big headed over dumb shit.
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okay i was dating my ex-girlfriend long distance and we broke up because the stupid things we fought over and we talked a lot. but she said we will get back together when i can actually be with her. i tried telling her this time it be different but i said it in the past so she doesn’t believe me for nothing. and i really want her back what can i do to convince her it be different and make her want me back… she treats me different now..so what can i do? please help
what can i do to show her i can be different
because shes goin to homecoming next month and i need her before she goes bc if she does stuff that will hurt me badly. i still love her and she loves me still..as far as she says
i tried to show her it be different but she still wont believe me please. i need her.
dont say i should move on i wont. i jst cant
look. she took my virginity..so thats one reason why its hard to let her go..
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We Broke Up About Three Weeks Ago Because I Was A Jealous Idiot I Accused Her Of Stupid Things That I Shouldnt Have Shes The Best Thing That Has Ever Happened To Me I Love Her She Stuck By Me Thru It All And I Lost Her Because I Was A Jerk I Would Do Anything Just To Have Her Again I Dont Know What To Do I Wrote Her This But Im Not Sure If I Should Give It To Her "February 22nd 2010 You Made Me The Happiest Guy Ever
You Are The Sunshine Of My Days The Highlight Of My Day Is Whenever I See You Smile Lately
That Hasnt Been Happening I’ve Been A Total Idiot And Because Of That I Lost You And Im Sorry
For That I Know Things May Never Go Back To The Way They Were When We First Met And It
Sucks All Because I Was A Stupid Jerk That Got Wayy To Jealous That Jealousy Was Because I
Was Scared To Lose You Like I Lost All My Past Girlfriends Because They Would Always Find Some Other Guy And I Was Afraid That You Would To But That Wasnt The Case You Were The One Who Always Stood Beside Me Thru Everything And I Was The One Who Messed Things Up That One Thing That I Regret In My While Life Was Doing What I Did To You Becuase For Everyone Of Your Tears That You Have Shed For Me Theres A Crack In My Heart From The Bottom Of My Heart I Am Sorry For Every Little Pain Every Sad Moment I Have Caused You Because I Never Wanted To I Want You To Be Happy The First Time We Did Things I Acted Like An Idiot And You Still Loved Me I Broke My Promises To You And Hurt You Every Day I Think About How Much I Messed Up Everynight I Lay In Bed Thinking About You Not Being Able To Sleep Because Your Not Mine To Hold Im Slowly Dying From Missing You Too Much From Seeing You At School But Not Able To Go Up To You Give You A Hug Or A Kiss I Was Reading Our Conversations That We Used To Have I Miss Those How We Talked About Forever Making You My Wife And Having A Baby Like You Wished For And Tomorow Your Going Away For A Few Days So That Means I Wont Be Able To Talk To You And Like I Said Before How I Would Walk In To Pouring Rain Just To See You I Would Walk To Monteray To See You I Know Im Nothing Close To Perfect You Still Hold My Heart Its Your If You Want It And I Ask You For One Thing One Last Chance This Time I Will Do Things Differently I Wont Get Jealous I Wont Acuse You Of Things I Would Love The Right Wayy I Will Never Neglect You And Always Try To Keep You Happy Because Your The Last Person I Want To Lose Im Yours If You Want Me I Love You [her name] Always And Forever" please Help Me
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he cheated, he lied, he humiliated, he spread things, he slagged you off behind your back, he yelled abuse at you in bad grammar calling you immature pathetic and childish.
All you did was discover his other girlfriend and apologizes for getting in the way, to get it off my conscience and also secretly to give her ample warning that she can make her judgments on. But i made that part quite subtle.
Now he’s getting his friends toa apologize for him saying "he didn’t mean it that way" and "you know he says stupid things when he’s mad"
He approaches you at a social evening. He tries apologize to you, what do you say?
if you took it, and then he tried to hug you, what do you do/say?
if you were passive, and civil, and he tried to hug you, what would you do/say?
if you got mad and he tried to hug you, what would you do or say?
etc you get the picture explain your answer please, because this will be me tonight – and NO i don’t want him back!
PS i THINK i’m gonna go passive and if he tries anything i’ll say "Don’t push your luck, boy."…yes, or no? (the boy part is to show how i think HE is teh immature one!)
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