My husband wants a divorce, is depressed and doesn’t love me…hmmm?
Basically my husband came to me about 3months ago saying he didn’t know how to feel about me. About 1 to 2 weeks later he began showing major signs of depression. He went to the doctor and is now on anit-depressants. In those weeks he became very distant and then said that he did not love me.
He wanted to try couseling as a last resort. We went and each time he was very confused, got the counselor and I very confused too. The 4th time we went he finally told me he wanted a divorce b/c his feelings haven’t changed and that he didn’t think they ever could. Fast forward, we decided to see couselors individually and last night his couselor told him that “he didn’t know what love is” and that before he can ever love me again he has to be able to forgive and trust me again. In the last year I will completely admit that I have been selfish and not loving enough to him. As a result of it I have become more close with God then I ever have been before. I have also been reading about love and what it is and how it truly can’t just be a feeling.
Anyway I have made personal discoveries about myself and how I need to change. I want to work as hard as I can to help my marriage suceed and I am fully commited. My husband however is so depressed and confused about our marriage and himself that he says he wants to give up and doesn’t even want to live anymore. He says that his mind is telling him to stay but his heart is not in it and he doesn’t want to try. I need to know how I can help him and if anyone out there thinks it is possible to fall in love with the same person again.
These answers are great so far. I am definetly dedicated to saving my marriage! He is still atracted to me and I still turn him on but he says he feels bad when he touches me etc… Should I still try and be intimate with him or back off a little. I don’t want to be clingy… he doesn’t even want kisses from me right now.
