I love my wife; she is younger than me, beautiful and has a great sense of humor. But when she gets mad she starts insulting, beating me and saying terrible things. This is my 8th time that she slaps me in the face or hit me hard with a bat when she gets upset. Every time we receive help from friends, physiologist, she always talks the most awful things about me instead of being at my side. We have been into 4 counseling sessions and the 4 therapist’s advice is to get away from her since she is violent and doesn’t respect… I am trying to avoid divorce and she doesn’t want to get help even though she admit the aggression problem. Now she threat me of comiting suicide.. im going crazy… it seems that the only thing that worries her is being back at her mom’s house or having to work since I provided her with everything. I don’t want to sound as a dork but I am just trying to save this marriage. I just dont know how to handle this and need advice from serious users please.
Everytime I decide for separation she acts like an angel from heaven until the next comfrontation … she just transformed into evil … what should I do.??
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My nephews 20 year old father committed suicide just 5 hours ago. He felt so alone and hopeless that he hung himself in his aunts basement. Now i didn’t hate him but because of some words we had had between us i had said and done some mean things to him since than, such as making him sit outside to visit his son because i was angry with him and didn’t want him in my house, or making him feel unwelcome when i did let him stay with me because he had no place else to stay. But i did still care about him i was just angry and this was my petty way of showing it i guess.This was awhile back and me and him haven’t even spoken since last christmas where we were very civil to each other because i was over being angry by than. However now the guilt is overriding me i have cried so much my face is raw because he has had such a hard life he really did as a child he was abused, molested, bounced through foster home to foster home. And as an adult he has struggled with drugs, trouble, and mental illness, i just keep seeing him and imagining how alone he must have felt, and i feel i am one of the reasons he felt so unwanted and unloved in this world that he didn’t want to live in it anymore. I know that isn’t realistic with all the other stuff he has had happen to him but i just want to take it all back and tell him how sorry i am and that he is cared about and its too late and its killing me.He was only 20 years old and he felt so unwanted and hopeless that he endured the suffering of hanging for 45 minutes before he was found, i cant get that image out of my head it will haunt me forever. How do i at least let go of enough of the guilt that i can move on enough to cope? I am a single mom of four kids and i have really not been all that much good to them since i heard the news cuz i cant stop crying for more than 5 minutes at a time. I think i have post partum on top of this and i’m just a real mess right now as you can probably tell. I wish i could just go back 5 hours and call him and tell him he’s not alone, i know what it feels like to feel all alone and i wish i hadn’t let him feel that way
Jessi thank you we did try so much to help him when he first entered our family but it seemed like he always fell back down. I guess he had just been damaged too much by the time he got to us. There were some pretty bad things done that led me to act the way i did to him but now that he’s gone it just feels insignificant and petty and although i know the few things i did that happened almost 2 years ago were probably the last thing on his mind as i said im a single mom of 4 so i know what its like to feel so alone and hopeless and i just wish i hadn’t done anything to make him feel that way if i did. i wish i could apologize and tell him he was still loved and cared for regardless of what he had done wrong. It probably wouldn’t have changed the outcome with everything he has been through but it would have eased my soul a little. The guilt is a big burden an i will never let my babies go to bed without telling them how much i love ever again. thank you for your kind words and prayers
Josh wherever you are i hope you are no longer hurting and are finally at peace like you could never be here on earth. Forgive me if i ever did or said anything to make you feel unloved or unwanted because you were loved and wanted and you will be missed more than you would have believed. I wish someone would have helped you when you were little before you had to go through what you did than maybe things would have been different and my nephew would still have his daddy. I miss you i hope your suffering has ended finally, i’m so sorry we couldn’t give you whatever it was you needed 
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My brother and I are both gay I have a boyfriend and we never broke up. My brother and his boyfriend have been apart for 6 months now but, my brother claims to love his ex too much to look for another. I told him to move on and leave his ex but, he won’t. They keep in touch as friends how can I get them back together.
P.S. My brother’s ex is also suicidal and has tried to commit suicide once when they first broke up.
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he had been with for over three years. He decided to leave the relationship and live in a state with no family of his own to be with a girl ( with a jail record and who is known in her neighborhood as easy) and her child over his own flesh. He chooses to see his daughters once a month, if he could ,instead of being a constant father figure as he is for another man’s child. After being there for his first born (who is born on his birthday) for seven months of her life, he now says he was not ready 2b a father. What type of statement is that if you are viewed as a provider (bought a home for this girl and her child) for another man’s child? Do you understand this? Would you neglect your own flesh to be apart of someone elses? Men please let me know.
Ranger D you must be the person whom im talking about. Again I just had two babies with months of each other. Again, our relationship should hold no bearing on his relationship with his babies. You seem to be guilty of neglecting your children but thanks for your immature and not knowing what ur talking about answer.
I am 100% positive he can not stand me and he never did. Weather his is happy is questionable but i guess you think you know he is. Jealousy over my babies of course but you will never be apart of their lives WHORE
To superKitten, I read read questions you wrote and I see you’re crazy. But thank you for not knowing what ur talking about.
Again to super Kitten, you are obviously hurting to be so hurtful to someone you do not know. I see many of your questions you ask is about sucide. Your anger explains why you are suicidal. You do not know me to judge me. If your experience with men has made you bitter then instead of asking about suicide see a psyciatrist. You have ABSOLUTELY no idea what you’re talking about. No one is perfect but a person’s imperfection should not allow others to treat them badly especially innocent babies. Your imperfections got you asking questions about suicide.
SuperKitten, what are you talking about. You have no idea what you are talking about! The other person’s child is NOT his, he just met her and her child is older so please do not talk what you do not know. You are talking about me and did not address the question. You have no clue what you’re talking about and I did not pick on Ranger, I just enlightened him further about his situation is not the same because his kids are older. You obviously have no problem with adultery, which they are both doing, and you obviously have no problem with children getting hurt for self-fish reasons. You started with the attack, look at your first sentence. I will not stoop to your level because what I have learned thru it all is if someone is being cruel, do not minimize yourself to be like them, just get rid of the negative energy. Believe me when I say, if you knew it all you would be sanging a different tune. I do not have to specify to you.You gave your answer and I appreciate it.
you speak of death and suicide and your energy is does not fit mine. You do not have to be a horrible person to be treated horrible. There are good people who get used , scamed and mistreated by horribe people.
One last thing "super kitten" my "stupid question" maybe a personal questions for others. Like the say in school, no question is stupid question because someone might have the same one in mind. Again just reading your Q&A and your comment here, you are a bitter person and a hypercrit. If you felt the question was "stupid" then why answer it? One might consider your questions stupid and a bit crazy. Should they judge you w/o knowing what they are talking about? You’re just one of many so I will ignore you, because as I said, I learned my lesson about minimize my character to stoop to levels beneath me.
Again you are messing the point. It shows you need to stop passing judgement without knowing everything. I asked a specific question, period. I did not have to tell anyone that he left me with a 7 mnth old and 3 months pregnant or even that he allowed our house to foreclose and left me and his infant daughter w/o adequate housing all because he says he went into something w/o being ready. His reasons or new life has no bearing on the one he created. They should be erased because he made a "mistake". I should not have to explain how her refuses to pay child support because he feels they do not need that much and is now questioning his daughter’s parternity because he feels it will delay his support order not caring how it may one day make her feel. Before you judge me, yes we argued but I never cheated nor disrespected him. My attack on this "innocent girl" as you put it is just because she stepped foot in my home while I went to visit my mother. At the time I was clueless.
Even if I was the type to miss with a married man, I would never step foot in another woman’s home nor would I make it difficult for him to see his kids if I could not be present. Again you made judgement calls that 1-had nothing to do with the ques. asked and 2- did not need explaining. We are in court and I have moved on. You saying I want him back, where was that in the ques? You saying the other girl kid is his, when we just moved to the state he met her in, where is that asked in my question, and her treating him better because I was horrible to him, where was that asked. If you really want to know his own family members are the ones who helped me see he was living a double life. My response to Ranger was due to his comment of my weight, when I specified his 18mnth old and 2mnth old.Do the math. Like my mother use to tell me " stop and think before speaking" .
running another woman down? that only fits if I am making false comments. Again talking what you do not know. She is far from a woman and anyone who KNOWS THE SITUATION says the same even those who are related to him. Please stop wasting your time insulting those you have no clue about. My reason for bringing up her true characteristics were for MEN to address based on her qualities. It was not said out of "jealousy" or making false statements. I have no reason to be jealous of her. She’s not even on my level.
Date: Fri, 01 Jun 2007 13:27:36 -0400
From: "June McF
To: "M PIERRE-LOUIS" <mpierre_louis0827@yahoo.com>
Subject: Re: We miss you
You are better off without him. Your kids deserve to be love and cared
about. That paternity test is just to stall for time. I believe in
carma. What you do comes back to you. He will be very sorry for doing
this. I’m just sorry you have to suffer in the mean time.
This is a real email from an old neighbor who knew both of us and his own close netword says the same. I have no other comment to you but stop attacking people without knowing what you are talking about. Answer the question at hand. If you need to be rude because "you feel the question asked is "stupid" then use your intelligence towards questions that are suitable for you. thank you for telling others that it is ok to mistreat people, even those who are innocent for totally selfish and unjust reasons.
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