My girlfriend of 2 years says she needs space?

my girlfriend has been acting weird for the past 4 weeks we only used to go out to the movies and restaurants because i have always love drinking and if we go out i spend all my money and we are trying to save to go live someplace else.. anyways to make a huge story short i let her go out one Friday 3 weeks ago but i told her to promise me she was not going to drink and get home early, so i called her at 3am and she still was not home and she sounded very drunk so the next day i confronted hear and told her that i trusted her and that she broke my trust and she was not going out because i cant even trust her not to do that.. fast forward to the next weekend comes Friday we go to the movies and to eat and she kept telling me how tired she was and how much she wanted to go home so at 11PM i left her home and went to take a shower to my house and started watching a movie it becomes 1am i call her phone and sure enough she was at a club i got so mad i broke up with her the next day but she started crying and calling me so i forgave her and went back with her again… fast forward again to Friday, we got in a small fight and told me that she was going to her friends house and that she never spends time with her blah blah blah so i said ok but stop to by my house once you take a shower and get ready to go with her, so she did but i noticed to much makeup on her face so i was very suspicions that she was going to a club, so i opened her cars trunk and there it was a new ward drove. so i told her why are you doing this to me i give you everything and do everything for you and you throw it all away for partying? she said you know what i am going and that’s it, so she left and went to the club… next day i had a date with some random chick NOW she starts throwing a fit and she starts to tell me that she is sorry that she only did it because she was mad at me and stuff so like the dumbazz i am i forgave her so NOW THIS WEEK she gets a call from an ex boyfriend and tells me to tell him not to call her again and i said no you tell him that and you put it on speaker, so she said no and i got out of the car and she left… a few hours pass and i cool-off and she comes to my house everything was fine but now today she told me she wants some space that she needs to thinking throw… what should i do?? i love her more than my self more than anyone else more than anything what should i do??? it kills me inside i work so hard to give her everything but she said she want a break and i told her nooo decide to stay with me or to breakup.. she couldn’t answer… what do i do? i am going crazy how can someone throw everything to go party?? wtf i do everything for her and she tells me she needs a break wtf???
Thank you for the answers.. i will also like to add a few details. 1.she has cheated on me twice once when we started going out and then five months after. 2.i don’t mind if she goes out but don’t pussyfoot it around just tell me i am going to get super drunk and dance with random guys , i don’t mind i am super comfortable with my self i just don’t like people to lie or pussyfoot a story or their actions. 3. she is bisexual i didn’t find out until two months in our relationship i didn’t mind at all i have nothing against it so i told her i did not mind if she had a gf or did something with another woman, so she got back with her ex girlfriend and well its nothing serious its just casual sex once in a while.. so you see i let her do anything if she just asks me she can have or buy anything i don’t mind really i just don’t know what else to do. is it my fault for being to open with her??? i don’t think i am a control freak but i like to know the truth and what she will be doing.


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A college buddy of mine, who’s wife did leave him for another man, told me that once his wife started going to lunch outside the office with guys, guys would take her to other places in their cars besides restaurants during lunchtime. I was told it was a bad sign and to watch out.
In the past, I have broken up with girlfriends that I suspected were interested in other men and I felt they were cheating on me although I had no concrete proof. Other women have broken up with me saying that I was too controlling.
My wife only has a half hour for her lunch and her co worker has an hour. She has told me that other people were fired because they were repeatedly late coming back from lunch. I told her I don’t think it’s a good idea for her to go off with this guy for lunch because if she’s late too often she could get fired.
At the place where my wife works they have a strict policy on alcohol use and being under the influence of alcohol in the work place. Two co workers at her office were fired when a manager noticed they were acting strangely after lunch, had two police man called to the work place, administered a breathalyzer and they were both fired. Last week, my wife does not drink, and when we were at a restaurant for dinner, she noticed a wine on the list and said that she tried some of that at lunch earlier that day. Her friend was having a glass of wine and recommended that she try it because it tasted like fruity grape juice.
"So, you had a glass of wine during your lunch break from work?"
Yeah, it was just one glass.
"Do you remember what happened to Susie and Jim when the drank at lunchtime?"
Sure. But they were really being stupid about it. I only had one glass. Can’t get drunk from just one old little glass of wine.
"Do you really want to take that chance? You shouldn’t be drinking during the day. I thought you didn’t drink."
"I don’t. But that wine Kenny had me try didn’t taste like wine at all."
It wouldn’t surprise me if Kenny didn’t slip a roofie in my wife’s drink from the way she was acting that night.
To make things more complex, I was laid off from my employer two years ago and I am working my own business in addition to working a second job in sales, so I am covered under my wife’s health insurance policy.
When I question my wife about this co worker, my wife gets angry and threatens to leave me saying "good luck paying for your own health insurance. Individual plans cost a fortune."
I have been uneasy with any man that my wife enjoys his company. When I was a kid, most wives stayed at home with children and the men worked. Today, many wives are working, and with the recession on, many husbands are not working or are working their own businesses because most companies are simply not hiring anymore.
Does your wife have lunch and socialize with other men at work? Does your wife have other male friends? How do you deal with this as a husband? (The same questions also apply to boyfriends with girlfriends).
My wife says that she and her co worker friend are just "Platonic" and there is nothing sexual or romantic in their friendship. Personally, I think the whole notion of a Platonic relationship between a man and a woman is a load of bull.
Women can answer also although I am primarily looking for men’s opinions on this matter.


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she said she loved me too.. and i believed her but now it’s hard to tell if she ever did. We only were serious for 3 months but we were hanging out and hooking up for 5. Ive already made all the mistakes of trying to get her back, acting needy, telling her i love her over and over, begging, to be honest i even tried to commit suicide over it and ended up in the hospital for a week.. Im better on that note but im still in love. I have been talking to her for a month and she is trying not to contact me but still talks to me when i need to. We never had an unhealthy relationship we broke up over a misunderstanding where she heard i hooked up with someone else so she did too the same night and started dating him right then and there, and than she found out i didn’t do that. She said while she was with him she still loves me and wants me back but couldnt bring herserlf to leave him. It’s killing me i want to spend my life with her. The problem is I had suspicions that she was hooking up with someone else so i didnt trust her and it lead to a couple fights and us breaking up 3 or 4 times and this drove her to think i didnt care. I realized she wasnt and i feel so bad. To make matters worse she had a rebound boy for about 3-4 weeks. He strook up a conversation with me and was begging me to tell him what she was saying to me. So sent part of our conversation and he FLIPPED, it was just about her caring about me and still having feelings. He dumped her. She got pissed at me and thinks its my fault. I tried to express how sorry I am and did not know that would happen. She now tells me there is no hope in us ever getting back together. That she just has major trust issues and it will take her very long to even think about trusting me again. I know I hurt her but she had geniuine feelings for me at one point I know this and I know they could come back, if they are gone. I just had a good conversation with her telling her that my love had changed for her and i still love her on the level that i will always care about her and i helped her with some problems in her life. I think shes greatful that she has me to confide in. Now im gonna break all contact for a while and work on myself. Im working with the magic of making up. Should i go through with this i really do love her and want her back in my life to show her what this really means to me. Do you think if i stick to a plan i have any chance at all? or is her mind made up about me. Can i bring back her trust by changing myself and showing her that I am strong and am able to fix things. Or is she always going to resent me leading her to the rash decision that we will never work out? Please, i appreciate all insight. By the way, im 17.. i may seem blind to you but i know i am in love. She still makes me happy even with the pain of this. Weve always made eachother happy.
i know i can move on and i’ll forget her but the thing is i dont want to and i know this..

READ THE WHOLE THING IF YOUR GONNA COMMENT CUS THATS WHAT YOU NEED TO DO TO UNDERSTAND THE WHOLE SITUATION.

even though you probably wont come close..

haha reading it for myself i probably sound a little out of my mind but i know il get along without her and meet someone else she just has special meaning to me and i can honestly say that noone else has done this for me.

all i want to know is two things, CAN I EVER GAIN HER TRUST BACK, and DO A STAND A CHANCE AT ALL

i know exactly what i need to do and im prepared to do it.. just dont wanna waste my time if it’s impossible…
i know i can move on and i’ll forget her but the thing is i dont want to and i know this..

READ THE WHOLE THING IF YOUR GONNA COMMENT CUS THATS WHAT YOU NEED TO DO TO UNDERSTAND THE WHOLE SITUATION.

even though you probably wont come close..

haha reading it for myself i probably sound a little out of my mind but i know il get along without her and meet someone else she just has special meaning to me and i can honestly say that noone else has done this for me.

all i want to know is two things, CAN I EVER GAIN HER TRUST BACK, and DO A STAND A CHANCE AT ALL

i know exactly what i need to do and im prepared to do it.. just dont wanna waste my time if it’s impossible…

thanks for the input though i really appreciate you taking the time to try and help. I also thank anyone who takes the time to really read this over and tries to understand what im going through. It means the world to me..


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