Is it normal to think that your husband and his mom are sharing feelings about you behind your back?
For the longest time now, I find fault with how my MIL raised my husband, how she and my husband’s other sisters use my husband for favors, and how they pretend that they like me.
When we’re all together, his mom says that he blows all of his money. She also says taht she wishes she could go back to school, but she can’t because she’s a single, working mom. My husband says comments like "You hate them, they hate you." Whenever I mention how I don’t like them/ what they’re doing. He tells his mom that I think they hate me, and she denies it. I’m fed up with whatever is going on behind my back. My husband claims that they don’t talk shyt on me, but I think everyone does at one point in time. I even heard my husband say that his mom said, "What’s up her ass?" When we got in a fight at her house, and he said that she stated, "What, can’t you stand your wife?"
Sometimes it feels like a constant battle for my husband. Why can’t I have him to myself? When we first were married, we had a nice 1 bedroom apartment, we spent a lot of time together, he didn’t talk to his mom (she was a b!tch and threw him out) and I felt like I had peace and didn’t have to worry. Now that I had a baby and lived with them for 4 months (moved out in Feb. things just keep getting worse though) it’s like a living hell, no matter how far I live from them!
Are they gossiping about me? How do I find out??? Their phone conversations are usually 3 minutes or less at any given time, but he does go to her house once a week to talk or do favors for her.
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Okay so my ex and I broke up a few months ago (he ended it, but it was mutual) and even though I never did anything to him or acted bitchy.. he became the BIGGEST jerk afterwards for no fricken reason. I’m moving in a few months and I want to get rid of the bitterness. I don’t want to contact him on my own. If he contacts me to say bye and I still want to b*tch at him.. should I? I honestly feel like b*tching at him and telling him how big of a jerk he is. I haven’t really b*tched at him so far because I know it’s better to be civil and be the bigger person. I’m so fricken sick of being the bigger person! I just want to let my feelings out on him, but I don’t know how to do it? If ignoring him or being civil with him is the best way to go about things then how do I get rid of these feelings? I tried to forgive and forget but I honestly didn’t deserve how he acted near the end of our relationship and even after that. I can’t seem to forgive him, but I still love him? WHY!? It’s the most annoying thing in the world! I still think of him and miss him sometimes. All I wanted was his friendship and he couldn’t even give me that..BUT I DON’T WANT IT ANYMORE. He doesn’t deserve my friendship. I have tried writing down what I feel and it does help – but only for a little while! I try to avoid thinking of him and everything that happened, but when I happen to think of it again – the bitterness always comes back. I feel like I’ll feel 10 times better once I lash out at him, but at the same time I don’t want to stoop down to his level? Is there a way to let all my feelings out yet end it on a good note? I don’t know about letters because he can use the letter against me..? I have such mixed feelings. I mean, I want to lash out at him but end it on a good note. But is there a point of ending it on a good note if I don’t even care to be friends with him now?
I guess I want to end it on a good note because we’re each others first loves and you always remember your first love. And I don’t want him to think that he did the right thing by being a jerk to me if I end up b*tching at him in the end.
Help..?
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I live in a court. It’s ran by an assocation. The b*tch (president) has never acted as a mediator. She is determined to choose sides. And there’s nothing the police can do since it’s private property. There are usually three 16 yr olds with multiple basketballs pounding on the asphalt in front of my house. I’ve seen them in my driveway, blocking it multiple times. They have hit both my vehicles several times. This usually persists for an entire afternoon every other day. This horrible noise can be heard throughout my entire house; it’s like a jackhammer. The teenager’s father thinks it’s great. He actually partakes in the festivities and does so with some of the older guys in the court. It’s really pissing me off. I’m being singled out. Should I just up and move? It seems like the only solution. Just because one asshole kid and his friends want to harass me, it’s going to cause all this upheavel. GAHHH!
LOL. I’ve talked to them already. It’s not like I’m going to live in Detroit anyway. So, I don’t have to worry about the crime part. Ha.



