I have found my first love from 17 yrs ago. We were young, both barely 18 then and he came to visit his uncle who stayed on my street in Ohio. We fell deeply in love but both planned to attend college soon in our home states and were afraid of moving because of no jobs or finances so we broken heartedly let things go. We found each other on Facebook and have been talking every since Oct. He still lives in Arkansaw and I am still in Ohio. Also I am still married to my husband of 10yrs. We have not been happy for the last 7yrs. Before I even got back in touch with my friend I have wanted out. Life has been filled with no intimacy or laughter in so long that I have almost forgotten how good it feels just to enjoy someones conversation. I do not want life to pass me by without experiencing true love and happiness. And I know my children are not benifiting from such a dry and lifeless marriage either. My lost love says that he is willing to wait and that he never stopped looking for me. He said that he will love my children as his own and is willing to do whatever it takes to have me in his life again. He tells me he loves me everyday. My husband doesn’t have a clue as usual. He just works and complains and in between watches a little television. Whether I move to be with this man or not, I know that I am not happy here. And I have tried to make it work but after 7yrs, I just can’t settle for what my husband is willing to give to the relationship. I don’t want to grow old with this man. Please offer some advice as to what I should do. I know what my heart is saying. My head is just so use to restricting myself and playing it safe because my husband has not cheated (that I know of), and I am not being abused. Please help me to take the leap…. or should I?
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I guess you could just say that I’m a little bothered by this fact, because it seemed like my ex didn’t care at all because he got over the relationship so fast. Don’t get me wrong though, we had a great relationship and we were really good to each other. It’s just that the spark started drifting over 2 years, and we both decided that it’d best for our future to break up, hence he was leaving to university after senior year of high school. It took me about 3 months, and I’m necessarily over him yet but I’m almost there. It took him about what, 2 weeks or less? Apparently it was proven on television (I know that a lot of people are gullible when it comes to television, and I happen to be one of them. :/) that men recover faster from relationships than women do. Why is this? Tips on how to recover from a break up will be appreciated.
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Isn’t that the whole reason you’re watching it in the first place, to get away from your mundane routine of a life? If T.V shows were EXACTLY like your real life, would you watch them? No you wouldn’t, because it would suck. It’s like doing acid then complaining that your brain is starting to work in different dimensions, which was the whole point anyway. If we listened to all the people that said T.V creates unrealistic standards for beauty, would they be more comfortable taking off all the Jessica Simpsons and the Orlando Blooms and replacing them with the kind of dreary bleak defeated human beings they tried to get away from by watching T.V to begin with? Maybe that’s why I’m watching in the first place, to see half-siliconed up/ half-plastic pretty people with negligible I.Qs dance around a bit to make me forget the fact that I’ve got more alcohol and magic mushrooms in my system than a Russian heroin trafficking vessel. The moment T.V becomes realistic, the moment everyone will realize how utterly boring their lives are, and then drug use and obesity will increase tenfold. Not to mention the people that actually have some Y chromosome in them who will have no problem taking out their anger by slashing YOUR throat open with a rusty tin can and kidnapping your daughters till they get cash refunds for that now-realistic machine they call the television.
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I’ve got both Xena and Legend and The Seeker on DVDs at home! And I watch them a lot everyday too! I love how Xena The Sweet Warrior Princess fights with her magic sword and takes down any enemy who gets in her way! She’s a very beautiful female warrior and is one of my favorites. And it’s really cool how Richard makes all his enemies look like noobies in Legend Of The Seeker and how he discovers and finds out that he’s the true Seeker too! From Xena Warrior Princess and Legend and Legend Of The Seeker, Xena and Richard are both 2 of the most powerful and toughest sword fighters and warriors I’ve seen on television so far in my life. Xena for her God Of War sword fighting tecniques and beautiful sweet passion, and Richard for his cool sword abilities, Kahlan, and his power as The Seeker! So I always imagined how cool it would be if they both TEAM UP together for the very first time to battle against numerous enemies and save Earth during a special fighting event!
I always wondered how awesome it would be if Xena and Richard from Legend Of The Seeker were to
team up together for a special occassion. Xena and Richards are both cool swords fighters and warriors and they always send their enemies a liitle message called "Hit Me With Your Best Shot" too!
So if Richard {Legend Of The Seeker} and Xena were to team up for the first time do you thinhk that be totally awesome? And if they were to team up…
Who do you think they should fight against, and what should their MISSION BE TOO???
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Looking at my wife, you would say she is a 10 out of 10. Nearly every guy we pass makes eyes at her, and so on. There is one thing holding her back. She feels her womanly parts are unattractive. She has felt like this her whole life. It makes her so insecure that if someone she feels is good looking is comes across the television for one second she looks at me to see if I am looking. I do not "check out other women." I am much in love with my wife and think she is the most beautiful girl I have ever met. I have told her that her body is very beautiful all over (and I am being honest). It boggles my mind that she does not think so but I know I have no control over how she views herself. I guess I just want to make her feel beautiful. Telling her does not do it, and the ways that I have tried to show her do not seem to work either. She hides it during sex, and has only let me see it twice. She had an incident when she was younger, and I think that plays a large role of her feeling insecure. We have been married almost a year and have been together for three years.
To add fuel to the fire I made a HUGE mistake. She really enjoys sex a lot. Ideally, I think she wants to have it once a day. A few months ago, I tried to make myself be able to last longer at sex by "servicing myself" when I could so that when we had sex I wouldn’t finish so fast. A few times I looked at porn, and randomly one day she asked if I had ever watched porn. I was open and honest and told her a few times and I told her why. I said that if it didn’t make her comfortable I would not do it anymore. She said she didn’t care as long as I’m happy. A few days later I did not delete my internet history and she saw what I was looking at. She did not see what it was, she just saw it was porn and she flipped. She got so mad at me and said she wasn’t enough and was very upset. I said (honestly) it was a rare thing and she said it was ok, and I only did it to last longer. I apologized again and again and she says she forgives me but will never forget it and feels like I almost cheated on her and that I used other women to "get-off". She has lost almost all trust in me because of this. She thinks I am looking at other girls sexually all of the time. She does not want to even bring her friends around because she thinks I will be looking at them. She says I pay more attention to women than I do men when we have guests over. She is convinced all I do is look at their boobs, but this is not true at all. I look and talk to their faces and I looked at their boobs it was not on purpose and I was not checking someone out sexually. It seems like she wants me to only pay attention to the men and only talk to them or focus all my attention on them. Regardless, she feels that I cheated on her and she said that she could easily cheat on me, too. The fact the I looked at another girl to "get-off" was cheating, and she has lost her trust in me.
I am in deep and I feel so bad. Now we have next to no sex and I know its my fault. She says she doesn’t feel comfortable having sex with me anymore now. I screwed up big time and I admit it. And I’m truly sorry about it. I have apologized again and again but her point is that I cheated on her and if she cheated on me I would not trust her or want to forgive her. She bring this up every once in a while and it makes me upset. She says that I need to be a strong person, too. It is like she does not want me to be completely happy because I screwed up but she does not want me to be sad about it. I am at such a loss I do not know what to do. Could I try and talk to her best friend for some advice? Is there anything I can do? I just want to make her happy again.
I asked if we could go to counseling and she is totally 100% against it. There is no compromise here. I think the reason she does not want to go is because she does not want someone telling her what’s wrong with her. I can accept that I am not perfect I would do anything to try and make myself better.
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