I am a Scorpio and I come off online as clingy, needy, and desperate a lot of times. I always have to be in a relationship all the time in my life otherwise I become too mentally unstable.
There is a girl I repeatedly break up with who I really don’t want to be with. I think I am using her. I will break up with her and try to get in a long-term relationship with a girl I really adore online when that fails. We meet in person don’t connect or things go south after a few dates I will fly back to this other girl and she always takes me back. She will forgive me no matter what I do. I have broken up with her 4 times in the last 5 years and tried going on dates with other women during that time. When I have limited success and I don’t get what I want I always go back to her. I am not sure if I love her but she gives me the emotional needs and sex I need whenever I want it. I need emotional security and I thrive on sex. I can emotionally manipulate her to get all the sex I want from her. I will threaten to leave her again, act cold and mean and be verbally abusive to her. I will do whatever it takes to get all the sex I want from her. Her father abused her as a kid and she has had past boyfriends who have beaten her up. She is easy to break down emotionally and I feel secure that she will never leave me. I can control her and I love that. I eliminated all possibilities for her to cheat on me with men. I manipulated her to sell her car, cut out all contact with any male in her life whatsoever, she gave me all her email account information, I have access to all her banking information and credit cards. She will give me access to anything I ask, she trusts people too easily. Whenever she doesn’t do what I want her to do I will describe in graphic detail how I am going to watch a movie like "Hellraiser" and wish that she gets tortured to death like those women because that is what happens to trash. She is religious and I will use her faith as a weapon to control her. Telling her she will be thrown in the lake of fire and has no chance to go to heaven if she doesn’t do what I want her to do. She also is a little bit "slow" and was just a C student in high school. I use her lack of intelligence to my advantage she is gullible and too easily manipulated. When we break up I can date and talk to who I want online but if she even asks me permission to even glance at another man I will throw a turbulent rage at her and call her every name in the book to give her a guilt trip so she even won’t consider it. I completely control her life and I love it. I absolutely have to have emotional support and sex in my life all the time or I go nuts and can’t function.I can’t stand not being in a relationship I emotionally break down and go nuts. I have to always be in a relationship even if I am not satisfied with the one I am with.
The weird thing of all this is I think I really do love her. I love her family, her friends, a lot about her. As cruel and bitter hatred show her it is equal to a very deep love I have for her no matter how hard that is for me to admit. I do take really good care of her and put her on pedestal when things go my way. She told me she was going to commit suicide once when I left her and I called the police on her and they gave her treatment, deep down inside I do care for her.
So anyone always go back to a relationship with someone you know will take you back? If so what is your sign?
Oh life is too funny to take seriously. I love monyself and everything good about me. We all have to love the sick dark side of our personalities. Reading the posts and this kind of humor is what makes my day. It is more fun to be hated then loved in this world. Just too funny !!! Thanks everyone for the input I really cracked up reading all the posts.
Oh and I even promised to marry her and on her wedding day I did a "no show" at her house. The minister and witnesses were there and I ditched town. She was upset but still took me back.
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Women only: Please take my quiz. No names, just your age and your country of origin. I am writing a book.
1. On a scale from 1-10, rate how much you want to have a husband, now or in the future, where 1 means you don’t want a husband and 10 means you would do almost anything to get a husband.
2. On a scale from 1-10, rate how badly you would feel if you never got married, where 1 means you would be fine with no husband and 10 means no husband would ruin your life.
3. Do you sometimes wear sexy but uncomfortable shoes or clothing?
4. Have you had any kind of cosmetic surgery?
5. Have you dieted too much?
6. Have you had sex when you didn’t want to?
7. Have you had an abortion? How many?
8. Does your man ever verbally humiliate you?
9. Does your man ever strike you in anger?
10. Has your man ever cheated on you? Did you take him back?
11. Has your man ever sexually or physically abused your children or grandchildren? Did you stay with him?
Thanks so much.
Thank you so much for your answers. You’re very kind to take the time and give it the thought that you did. Although I tried to make the questions morally neutral, I seem to have caused some animosity. Just to clarify, I am a rabid feminist and I hate the suffering and abuse of women and children at the hands of their intimate partners. I hate it. The numbers are staggering worldwide and it has been so throughout recorded history.
It appears from your answers that you are among the majority of women who are not hell bent to have a man. But, to some women, any man is better than none. Those women and their children are at risk for abuse.
Again, thank you for your time and consideration. I will take your advice and post this on a different board.
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4:34 Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband’s) absence what Allah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (Next), refuse to share their beds, (And last) beat them (lightly); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them Means (of annoyance): For Allah is Most High, great (above you all).
I took this verse from Quran translated by yusuf ali in english but he added some words in parethesis but my quran in spanish doesn’t have those parethensis and in a book in spanish by dr sharif says it’s there 4 ways of saving marriage is talking with both families,or going with a judge or talking each other and the last source is beating the wife but ligthly? how is that?
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I caught my husband called and SMS text messages with many women. He regularly met those women in the bars, restaurants. He told me they are female friends. He just like the attention from them. He said there never have sexual relations with those women, only talking, joking or dancing. My husband admitted that the reasons he needs to contact with those women are
(1) midlife crisis (he is over 37 year old)
(2) there is no passion in our marriage life
(3) he felt less challenge at work
(4) he attracts to younger women and likes their attentions. My husband said by contacting many women actuarially reduce the risk to have an affair. He said he does not want to have an affair with anyone. He had an affair two years ago and ended painfully as she became a harassment. I try to give my husband more attentions and work on my appearance and figures. But I am 47 years old and it is very difficult to be slim as a 20s or 30s ladies. (He said his standard is very high and like women have flat belly.) My husband said he attracted to slim women , big boobs ,and he does not sexually attracted to me anymore as he just see me as mother of our daughter and I am over weight in his eyes. (I am 53kg, size M) He said he will not marry any of those women and probably get sick with them in one month as they have some characters he can’t stand . i dont know what it is he thinking but alway is bored with me. I can’t monitor his mobile calls any more as he has put on a new password .He was changed his Mobile Address when i mailing to him during he hear Women Groan in his mobile, he says dont mail to him when he busy listen women they yell.. He admitted he will not stop contacting those women in short term.( they are all in his contact now ) Should I trust him will play this game within the boundary and work on improving our relationship with him(i.e. more time together and give him more attentions) We enjoy together to see movies some time on the weeken , i tried to take him going to some where by car for him hunter his porn stuff . He is not interested in having sex with me but surf around internet long nights instead. He said that it is not proud to surf internet for sexual needs. I hate him make Masturbate alone when i busy at work .and he alway do Mastuebate with those idol in internet … Should I wait until he pass the "mid-life" crisis? I had thought about divorce but I am worry of losing existing financial comfort and the impact . The worst is I still love him as long he did good for me . Some books talk about recandle the love to save marriage. Is there any hope? We have been together for a long way and had so many lovely memory. I really do not want to give it in.
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