If you are asking yourself the question is my marriage in trouble then it could appear that the answer is yes but this doesn’t mean that it is. It might not be in grave danger of heading to the divorce courts but you are obviously not happy in the relationship if you are thinking this way. This maybe because there are issues between yourself and your partner or it may just be your perception of how things are. You could be feeling unfulfilled and lonely.
Whatever the reason for your feelings you need to get to the bottom of them or your marriage will be affected. It is not possible to have a happy relationship when one or both partners are feeling isolated, unloved or confused. It is not your partner’s responsibility to solve your problems, emotional or otherwise for you, but it does help when they are supportive and understanding.
You may be feeling down because your diet is lacking in certain vitamins and minerals. For example, women of childbearing age need plenty of Vitamin B in their diets as otherwise their hormones can cause them problems. They can suffer from restless sleeping as well as mood swings and depression. Often you don’t get sufficient vitamin B from natural resources so you may need a course of vitamin tablets to get you back on an even keel. Speak to your doctor if you are finding it difficult to sleep, are tired all the time or having difficulty shedding excess weight. You may have an underlying medical condition such as a thyroid problem and so need medical treatment. Men can be affected too.
Your worries may highlight a problem in your relationship. Have you tried talking to your partner about your feelings? It is not the easiest thing to do but once you take the first step you may find that you start to feel better. Communication is not a skill we learn in school or college. It is one of those things that people just assume we learn as we are growing up. Some people are natural communicators but most of us struggle to put our feelings into words particularly when talking to the person who means more to us than anyone else.
So don’t sit and wallow in your feelings. Talk to your partner today. Find some quiet time together and tell them how you are feeling and ask them how they feel about things and take it from there. You may find a little bit of good communication and some time together will help to resolve your worries and you will no longer be asking is my marriage in trouble.
I’m 23, live in nyc w/ my G/F. My dad is 63, normal, he lives with my 30 yr old mentally retarded sister and my mom, 61, who has had dementure since June ’03. She is in stage 6 of 7 (severe cognitive dementure). Next stage she will lose ability to move or even swallow.
She developed it from a thyroid problem which was rooted to a smoking habit. I noticed it VERY mildly at first, didn’t think anything of it. But when it took significance it literally happened OVERNIGHT. It is so cruel what God did to her. The home has never been the same since and I hate that she wasn’t there to see all I’ve been through the past 5 yrs. Its kinda like she’s already dead cuz it doesn’t matter what u tell her or what she sees, she won’t hear it or see it as my mom would.
Imagine God made someone u love unconscious for the rest of their life, in a limbo state, until they die INSTEAD of getting hurt or whatever and immediately dying. That’s what this is like and it pisses me off so much. It sucks I can’t tell her anything, she can’t know my future wife as a person, she can’t even meet my future kids.
She used to tell me she would watch over my kids while I go out with my girl on a special date. And I looked forward to that. I hate she has to go down like this, "slowly" dying. Picture getting shot and living w/ a bullet in u for 5 yrs, getting worse and worse. Its so wrong.
My dad can’t afford to put her in nursing home, not even for a few hrs a day, and there’s no room for a house aide. So I guess she will never know me again right? Or my wife or kids or when I make it in film business. Right?
My husband says that he is not attracted to me anymore, because I became fat and flobby, and I don’t have that firm and fit body that I had four years ago when whe got married. I became fat, and I didn’t take care of my looks because I had to work, go to school, cook, clean, wash, manage bills and monetary issues, and on top of all these I got sick. I got diagnosed with Grave’s disease, then I had my thyroid gland destroyed, so I started gaining weight like a nothing you’ve ever seen. Then, my husband told me that he was not attracted to me anymore, and the spark was not there anymore!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I thought when you get married, it’s supposed to be a standing by through thick and thin, bad and good. O.K. I think I got all these four years hard work of mine was not worth anything. Well, I don’t blame him at all. He couldn’t work, because he didn’t have a permission to work, He is a Belgian citizen (European), and had come here with a student visa. I had to work hard, and go to school, therefore I couldn’t afford to get a lawyer to take care fo his paperwork. Anyways, I don’t know what to think, what to say. I am just stunned. I have lost ten pounds in a month now, and I am going to start exercising like I used to, and I hope he falls in love with me again. I still LOVE MY HUSBAND DEARLY, and I WANT HIM BACK. I want him to love me like he used to, so romantically, so delicately. I am crazy about him. I AM IN LOVE WITH HIM. How can I get him back?
